Work friend

@Trace86 (5034)
United States
June 29, 2009 5:03pm CST
I have a friend at work who is unhappy with her job. She is a manager with a title. I get careerbuilder emails in my inbox daily. On Saturday, her job was listed as available. She has a feeling that they are planning to fire her. Should I tell her about them advertising for her replacement? I can see arguments both ways.
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@OGIBARRA (32)
• United States
29 Jun 09
i think you should tell her cause any way she dont like her job and second of all if u saw her position in one of the careerbuileder emails yea maybe they will fired her but u wont know until that happens maybe they just want extra help for her and the company and besides if you tell her now u will help her by letting her know so she can start looking foe another job before the worst happens. but once again see it boths ways 1. extra help for her and company nor 2. get fired but they havent fired her her so i think maybe its just for extra help/
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@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Heck, print it out and Annonomously leave it on her desk. WHy not let her know? That's the thing with employers.. they demand and get mad if an employee quits and doesn't give a 2 week notice at least.. but when they are ready to fire someone...they do it instantly...no notice at all! So why not stick on the side of the employee. If you fear being held "responsible" for letting her know that... do it annonomously. That way, she knows, but you aren't "liable".
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@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
29 Jun 09
That is a fabulous idea! I never thought of printing it out and leaving it for her. Thanks!
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@drannhh (15229)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Oops, coffeebreak, you got there first with the same answer. That serves me right for starting a reply and then toddling off only to come back and post it later. Well, again, we are thinking alike :-)
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@Trace86 (5034)
• United States
18 Sep 10
They did end up replacing her for that job. She took another position that she seems to like a bit better. Now she only works every other day and every other weekend but gets the same amount of hours. She is sharing the PM supervisor position with another girl. She seems so much happier.
@drannhh (15229)
• United States
30 Jun 09
If you like her, then you might just put the notice anonymously in her mailbox, highlighted in a color she would not recognize as yours. That way she gets the information, but doesn't "shoot the messenger" if you know what I mean. Of course, there is a highly remote possibility that she might mention it to you afterward and ask if you know who put that in her mail, so you might want to have an answer prepared just in case. If it was me, I'd say "Yes, as a matter of fact, I did because I thought you would want to know." But I wouldn't bring it up in conversation, because chances are she already knows, and then no sense in embarrasing her. I wish her well. Usually when people have that feeling it turns out to be true, unfortunately.
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@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
30 Jun 09
you may want to not say anything just because it would put you in the middle of everything. i know i was in a similar situation earlier and the other lady/friend ended up getting fired.
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@ucue2008 (926)
• Malaysia
30 Jun 09
wow, if i'm at your place and if that person closed to me, I don't know what should I do. But if I'm really closed to her and she treated me well, I will tell her, because she is has a right to know the truth. It just my 2 cent
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@galileo2008 (1147)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
I am so sorry to hear that. I agree, things may get crazy when you'll tell her, but then she's your friend; and as her comrade, she's entitled to know the truth coming from you also. But since she's also unhappy with her job, why not try to tell her first so she will also know what to expect, sooner and later she will find it out anyway.
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@JoyfulOne (6242)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Wow, that's sure stuck between a rock and a hard place. I think if I was the friend, I'd want to know so I could start looking for something new and maybe better. On the other hand, it would be hard news to digest. Gee, maybe you could discuss with her that since she's so dissatisfied with the job maybe it wouldn't hurt to take a look around at other job offerings...offer to send her a link to join up and check out the career builders site. I agree with you though, I can see both ways, telling or not telling, are definitely difficult. Good luck with it.
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@AmbiePam (49531)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Yes! Please tell her. Obviously her bosses are not losing their jobs, the only person badly affected by it will be her. She needs someone to have her back, and this could really help her. You could probably do it anonymously if you weren't comfortable with her knowing you were the one to tell her.
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@bluerlyn (139)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
i think you will be the best person to answer that. the best way to find out what your answer will be would be to ask yourself what would you rather have your friend do if you she were in your shoes and you were the one in danger of losing your job.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I would definitely let her know about it so she can ask about it or handle it to see what the heck is going on in advance. I would want to know if someone else knew before me also.