Some say I've changed... Truth is, I found myself

This is such a good thought to ponder. I am usually open to changes if it makes me better than I was before. I should just tell them, "I'm happier". That should end their curiosity. But if people notice though that I became worse, I wouldn't mind if they tell me I've changed. Criticisms are there for a reason sometimes.

Basically, I just go along with life as it comes. Absolutely everyone changes at some point or another, and if people have problems with that, then they can't be true friends to you. At the end of the day, if your friends are true friends, they will get used to the way you are, and will accept it with no questions asked.

Change can be physical or mental. It is the tendency of human nature to change with time. So don't worry just accept what they say. After some time it will seem to other that you as you are before.

People have to move on. And part of moving on is change. Accompanied with change is the reaction of the people who have become close to you, who have noticed that you are different now. If the change in you is for the better, well and good. No matter what people say to you, the bottom line is, you change for the better.

Alot of people in my family say that i have changed. They treat me different. i am a christian now. I am trying to live my life differently. I do not like the idea that because I want to serve my Lord and savior that suddenly people that use to love me don't love me anymore. They say that I have changed I say that they have changed. Just because I don't do the things with them that I used to do. Just because my speech is different and i don't like to hurt people doesnt mean that ive changed in a bad way.I have changed but in a good way and they should support me and love me. Im doing a good thing and I don't need anyone to tell me that. i feel better about myself. What about you have you changed?

i think its great how you have changed. Theres nothing wrong with being more outspoken and all that good stuff. They probably just think you are being that way because they're not used to you like that. They still probably think of you as that innocent shy person that you aren't anymore. Im sure they will see eventually though so just stick with them for a while.

I had a friend who said to me once "Ever since you... you have changed," to which I responded "wasn't that the whole idea?" This person did not like the fact that I had grown and that we might be equal or I might surpass him. He was insecure and it was his problem not mine. As long as you are on some kind of spiritual path and trying to live your life the right way people will always have something negative to say because they need to hold you back -- like crabs in a basket. Those are not people you need in your life even if they are members of your family. The best thing to do is to surround yourself with people who are positive who can have a positive influence on you. Keep developing your wisdom; the only thing more important in life is health.

You certainly have a good point there.........i feel life is made up of so many phases, you don't really know what you were few days back and suddenly you realize how stupid you have been......i like your point when you say "I found myself" it is so true, the bitter experiences that i had in my life taught me many things and that made me realize that i should not trust anyone and everyone that come in my life......by doing that i am doing more harm to myself than to anyone else on this planet........

That's where we are suppose to go... we need to grow up and develop better personality or attitude about life. As daily experiences increase we need to equip ourselves with proper insights. If we stay as we are for years, we'll encounter people who will swallow us alive coz we don't fight back for our rights. There are people who will always take advantage of our weakness and it's our fault that we allow them and we permit them to treat us that way. But if we set boundaries or standards they know when they need to respect you and treat you the way you supposed to be. We need to learn to speak up when its the right time or other people will bully you for they thought you're ready to accept everything as they come, regardless if they are reasonable or not. I used to be timid too when I was young but I learned to love myself and respect myself and I know I deserve the same from other people. I owe every bit of happiness to myself coz no one is going to be willing to go through my life except me. Once we change the world around us changes as well and we get what we need when we need it.

from what you have mentioned here I am not sure that you have changed. you sound like you grew in to your true self. if you are happy live it up.

I have always read to some books that people who criticize you or telling you that you have become someone else means that whatever they have said represents themselves as well. But we don't judge them directly though. We need to be always observant to their feelings because it might be true. People sometimes are mirrors to your personality. But you should be the only person to be able to identify to yourself if you really have changed. Just be honest and accept whatever it is. in that way you will be able to self-internalize everything.

i tell them to screw off. my best friend says i've changed since i got with my man. i used to go out and party alot (i wasn't even 21 and drinking every night) and after i got with him i quit. so in a way i guess i did change but i've been bettering myself so i don't understand why that is so bad. it seems you bettered yourself to by not being so shy so good job!!! i say they accept you for you or they can screw off!