What is the most important to you money or family?

@aerous (13474)
Philippines
June 30, 2009 8:11pm CST
I heard about the situation of my friend. He is depress on what happen to his life. I want to help him, but I can't? He makes all his best his family, and to be a good family man. He's business doing well then. He is a good person, understanding and loving husband. His wife told him that she want to work in foreign land. Because he knows that this purpose is for a benefit of their children and for not disappoint his wife dreams. He agree for his wife plan. His wife stay in abroad, without anything to give him. He understand of that things and manage their two children. The worse thing is that his wife, have guys in the country where works. In that case, my friend very much frustrated and don't know what to do. Until his business gone and he find outs all his savings is nothing left because of his wife doing. He heard that his wife, have a guy that have a business in Singapore and now they live together. He ask with me this. What is important to you, money of family? I said the most important to me is my family. Money is nothing compare to a family that makes you inspired all day. With you my fellow mylot, members. What is important yo you MONEY or FAMILY?
13 responses
@ypyanyan (956)
• China
3 Sep 09
I think that the family is more important than money .he is careless .he should not let his wife to go to aboard .
@ypyanyan (956)
• China
3 Sep 09
he should not let his wife go to abroad.Because two lover will be cold if they don't stay togather a long time .it will cause the emontional crisis.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
Yup ypyanyan, family is most important than money. Because we can live even without money, right? We don't prevent that happen because as we know how hard to find jobs in my country. People force to go other countries to find a good living but unfortunately there are wife or husband find an intimate relationship to others. Even do that is tantamount for their family will be broken... In your country, my friend. Did people hard looking for a good Jobs? Since your country is reaching the peak of development? Did people force to go abroad too to find a better jobs and make a better living for family?
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
4 Sep 09
You know my friend. A distant relationship is not a big problem for lovers if they have a discipline with themselves? The problem is that there are husband and wife or girlfriend and boyfriend. Caught in trap of lust and fill with devil propensity to deter the relationship that they have left in their own country. If you really love someone. Wherever you go or wherever you are? You are always with your lover. Your heart is always warm in the name of love. So, you cannot allure to do anything wrong with those people hopes for your come back. Distant for me is not bar for a good relationship. Wherever that person I love, I will make sure that the love I give to her is pure and instill to my heart. My words is a words of a good lover and always love stay in my heart and that love never change as the words still a words of great lover. I will be pure and stay the love what I say and promise to that person... How about you? What is your views about long distant relationship? Did you believe that the two lovers reside is a mile away will not be proper? have a great day!
@meyows (438)
• India
15 Jul 09
I give importance to my family than money, because without my family, I can not use the money, I can spend it for my family only.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
You did the right choice my friend. You really right about your response. It is true that money is useless without family. What is the value of money, when your family is gone. How can you spend that money when your family is gone. Don't mean that you spend by yourself alone. What happiness you feel, about? I think your happy to spend your money alone...
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
FAMILY is the MAIN REASON we NEED MONEY... Without FAMILY, Without LOVE, Without anybody to Inspire us, The idea of making money, having a job or business would be fruitless... At least I'm sure that everyone would agree to that... And if you do have a family, then it comes to our responsibility to give them the best that life can offer... The best home for our spouses, best education for our kids, best vacations to spend time with them, and that's where we put money to use... Thats why we educate ourselves, we work hard, excel in our jobs or careers, endure the everyday traffic to work, compete with business competitions, and such... We do all those stuff for our FAMILY... Therefore we need money so that we can give the BEST that we can offer to out FAMILIES and give them a more comfortable Life... And we are loved by our FAMILIES more when they see that we give them our BEST...
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
I always agree on what you said here my friend. We all know that money is important. But what are you doing when it happen to you that get rich rich because you find someone that have more money than your wife or husband. Then your family left you and afterward your man being love because of his/her money die's. Do you think you can buy family since you have more money. Do you think your money can buy love? Choose one, my friend. Family or money?
@maharajb (17)
• Trinidad And Tobago
2 Jul 09
I have to agree and say family over money in any situation. A good friend of mine once said, your family, health, happiness and being together with loved ones in life is the cake, having money, nice cars and a mansion is the topping on the cake. Now with that in mind, would you rather have a cake with no icing or would you rather have icing and no cake. The latter obviously makes no sense. Money without a family to share and enjoy in it, makes no sense. It just going sit in the bank and stay there. Money is important of course, but we have to remember the funny thing about it, is that one day it there, the next day it gone. We collect it with one, and spend it with the other.Family is forever. Even in your friend's case, the wife run away with another man, but he still got his kids. As the older folks say "money is the root of all evil", people steal, cheat and kill for it. I feel for your friend, that has got to be a tough situation to be. Best for him to maybe just focus on his kids and start over anew.Family is irreplacable. Plus if you believe in karma,things have a way of working out itself and coming full circle.Stay positive friend.In life positive input leads to positive results.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Positive things is not for what you have in life to stay satisfy to your needs. We can live without money. We don't need money to be happy. We don't need money to have family. It is really true that money is important but not to the extent that we can satisfy when we have money while our family disregard us. Most people in positive thinking will prefer to choose family than money. Money is useless when it comes to our family. The value of money is not comparable with the value of family... We can find money if we loss it but we cannot find family once they loss from us...happiness is not for sale.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Again, idealism can't undo the fact that one can raise a family with out money... That idea would work 200 years ago when life was simple and food can be aquired by just hunting and planting... Dude, we all live in the 21ST CENTURY... Unless you have your own farmland in a remote area, away from technology and have no need to send your kids to school, where just a simple home-based education is enough, and you can make your own clothes with animal skin, light your home with wood fire and have no government bother you with taxes, then ANYONE CAN LIVE A HAPPY LIFE WITHOUT MONEY... BUT AGAIN, THATS AN IDEALISM... EVERYONE WOULD AGREE THAT HAPPINESS DOES NOT LIE ENTIRELY WITH MONEY... EVEN THE RICHEST MAN ON EARTH WOULD DIE BITTERLY WITHOUT FAMILY... BUT THE POOREST MAN COULD DIE HAPPY WITH A LOVING FAMILY... NO ONE CAN DISPUTE THAT... BUT SAYING "I CAN LIVE HAPPY AND RAISE A FAMILY WITHOUT MONEY" DOES NOT APPLY IN OUR TIMELINE ANYMORE... I'm sure you have a celphone, a computer, a home with electricity and maybe a car and even a job... Would you give them all up anytime just to prove you can live without money or the things it can buy? I don't think so... Your Family would think you're NUTS if you do...
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
29 Sep 09
I agree some of the portion of your articles, my friend. But we are here to differentiate two things and what is more important (that is money and family). We not be here to debate if we are live without money or family. Money is important to mankind but not at the extend that we incorporate our life for money. This is only a requirement for us to live today...most especially for people live in the city...
@xcrizzx (80)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
You really can't compare Money with Family. Both are important in their own aspect. We all need money to support our families. And our families are the reason we strive for money. NOBODY, no mater how idealistic one may seem about "Family" CAN KEEP a family together without money... It's BASIC.. It's like asking "which is more important, the Brain or the Heart?" Both have totally different functions in the human body. One doing something the other cannot and vice-versa. But both the Brain and Heart are important in the aspect that they function in. You cant substitute the one with the other, nor can you live with out either of them. In your friend's case, his wife may have left her family for a more secure life with someone who had more money but it is not as simple as just choosing money over family. Perhaps she did not feel as loved with her husband than with the other guy she chose to be with abroad. It could be a case of loneliness and the guy came along during her weakest moment. Or she could have simply made a stupid decision. Ultimately, it does not boil down to the question of simply money over family... My point is, money ( or the brain ) and family ( or the heart ) are both important in the aspect they function specifically. No one can be complete without the other and life would much be easier and happier if you have both...
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
I think you have miss something that "no can be complete without the other". As far as I know we can live without money. We can be happy without money. And we can survive without money. People in the first century can live without money. They live happily than today that people love most about money. Is really shows that Family will always be important and money is the second one but not to extent we can exchange money to our family. We must preserve the value of family and don't try to break it because of money...
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
As I said, YOU CAN'T COMPARE FAMILY WITH MONEY... THEY ARE BOTH ESSENTIAL TO THEIR OWN PURPOSE... YOU CANT BUY ANYTHING WITH YOUR FAMILY ( IE. Exchange or barter consumable goods with a member of your Family, Pay tuition or your house bills, engage in business or such ), thats where money comes in... FAMILY IS ESSENTIAL TO ITS OWN PURPOSE AND THAT IS TO SPEND YOUR LIFE WITH, BE INSPIRED WITH, HAVE A PURPOSE TO LIVE... You can't talk to money or listen to it or marry it or be happy with it the way a Family does... So how could anyone compare FAMILY with MONEY? That was my POINT... WOULD YOU EXCHANGE YOUR HEART WITH A BRAIN?... They have totally different uses but are both essential... You can't compare 2 things that have different uses or purposes... Nor give up one for the other... So it really doesn't make sense when people ask "Would you give up your family for money? Or vise versa... It's like asking would you give up your house for coffee? Would you trade your Boss for a Pet? ( Though that could work sometimes )... Would you give up your sense of sight for hearing?... It doesn't make sense...
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
5 Sep 09
Hello xcrizzx, Thanks for participating in this discussion. I agree with you my friend. money is important but not to the extent you exchange your family with money. What is the value of money if you lost your family. Where did you give that money? Do you think you can buy family when you have more money? We are here not to compare of the two. Were here to choose what is important. No one will select both question and say they are both correct. Remember my friend. Money is not everything. We can live without money. But we are nothing without love and or family. If you choose money is important. You did what best you think is true If you choose family is important. You did also right because were here to respect opinion everyone of us. Have a nice day!
@shibham (17025)
• India
26 Nov 09
hi aerouse. for me, it is my family bcoz i cant earn their love and affection at any cost but i can earn money all the time. if i would be your friend then i shall easily ignore my wife's imperfactions. yes, i cant hug her for second time but who cares. honestly i am desperate in those factors. thanks.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
I appreciate you for that, shibam. You, right family is the most important than money. Even do we need it. It is mean we exchange family for the love of money...Because their reason for that is they love their family that is why they do to cheat their husband. Because they found someone that have more money...
@williamjisir (22904)
• China
24 Nov 09
I think that family is more important to me. Family always comes first before making money. With a nice and happy family, it makes me more desirous to make more money within my power. I feel it a great push to make enough money for the family to live a decent life. If I don't have a good mood due to lack of having a good family, it affects me a lot in my work. Thus I will surely make less money. So I think that a happy family is the more important in my life.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
25 Nov 09
Yes, I agree with you williamjisir. Money is only a secondary for us to live. Money cannot buy everything and love for money will not exchange with family...
@just4you0 (422)
• India
22 Jul 09
Thats realy a sad story , she killed the trust of her husband and now killing him silently. Ofcourse, family is most important for me and i cant even compare money with family. I am going abroad for earning money but that doesnt mean that i dont care for my family. Afterall, i am doing all this for the betterment of my family. Happy mylotting!
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Yup! That is a sad story, my friend. But that's a story of life that we can counted for dramatic because we can make a big comparison about money and family. Perhaps, those eventualities in life is rare. What I don't understand is how family is being form? If husband/wife is not consider. Because if you heard about the story of those are doing that things because of their family (children) but they cheat their husband/wife. They are not working for their family but they are looking for someone to give more money besides the realities that they have husband/wife? Isn't that husband/wife is a member of the family? Will you please give your views about this? Thanks for participaring on this discussion my friend. Happy myloting.....!!!! Follow me also on twitter@http://twitter.com/great_tribes
@jaiho2009 (39021)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
The reason why we worked hard to earn MONEY is our FAMILY. The reason for all our sacrifes is our family,way back long ago,only the men in the family works overseas to earn for a living,but nowadays even mom's make the greatest sacrifices of all working abroad.(sorry to say this,i knew it is also a sacrife for men to be apart from their families,but what i am saying is,the pain for a mother to leave her children and took care others children abroad). Regarding your friend's situation,maybe his wife had all the reason for doing it.We need to be fair sometimes on judging someone,i always believe it is hard to understand ones situation unless we faced the same fate. Back to your question,money is not anything for me in this world,what matters to me is my kids for they are my life.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Yup! We need to be fair for someone but it is sad that their are people being selfish and much consider about money that their family. We know that the purpose of working hard is for our family but not to the extend that because of money. Family will be broken home. What is the value of money when that purpose is leading to destruction's of life benefited to it. What is the value of money, if those people whom you love the most is going away with you? Isn't that money work to buy happiness? I don't understand why some people need to have a relationship with those having more money while they have also their own family in real sense. Perhaps, that is for money that they think it help more and benefit more for their children but not for their husband/wife. Isn't that husband/wife belongs to a family? You did the right thing my friend. I'm with your views in life. That is the good thing that we need to do in our life. Family is always at our stake...If anything happen to our family members that is our burden....happy myloting
@xcrizzx (80)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
People who give up their family or neglect their family for MONEY or material things are blinded by their own personal and selfish ambition... Some would even think that they are spending 90% of their time making money at work or in their business because they do it for their family yet they neglect the same family they work hard for... People should be aware that when you ask your children or spouse to spell "Love", they don't spell it as L-O-V-E... To them, LOVE is spelled T-I-M-E... Yes... Money is important as I said, but the balance of spending TIME with FAMILY apart from our time to support them financially is the most critical part... And most families crumble because of misusing the TIME they spend with their Families and the time they spend searching for monetary success...
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
As I read your articles here, my friend. I agree with you for that words. It is sad that there are people thinking about money as their personal preferences. I witness those things my friend. Because as you see the societies today. More family is broken home because of money even do that is not prove to be possible it will assume that it is? I hope that people being selfish read your articles to see the difference of being selfish and greed. Thanks for your response, my friend. my twitter@http://twitter.com/great_tribes
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
My family is more important to me but I am also a believer that money is important to give a decent life to my family. It is just that I believe that I can find other ways to earn a living but my family are irreplaceable.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
We all agree that money will benefit us to give a decent life to our family. But it is useless if you sacrifice your family because of money. Thanks ffor sharing your golden opinion to this discussion I appreciate so much..
@kmaram (2535)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Well for me family is important than money. We can still be happy if we dont have money as long as our family is there to help and guide us. Money is not important for me sometimes it causes more problem than those living in a simple way. Regarding the problem of your friend i am sorry to heard that, i hope they will talk about this matter for the sake of their children. Money should not rule our life because it leads to temptations. I hope i can make sense here, happy mylotting =)
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
I agree with you my friend. That we can still be happy, even without money. It is really true that money is the route of evil? Correct me if I'm wrong... Thanks for sharing you opinion to this discussion...
• United States
1 Jul 09
my family is my life i could go without money but i could never go with out my family my kids and husband mean the world to me and they always will . money can't buy happiness and family is what gives me happiness.
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Yup! I agree with you. Money can't buy happiness. Money is not everything, even money can does something. What is the use of money if you don't have family. How useless is your life, if you have money but no friends, no family loves you... This wife of friend is fool. She is consider money than her family...
@myx_03 (540)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Family is can't be compared with money. People who think money is the way in all of kinds of needs they are not normal for me. *laugh* People nowadays are thirst for money, we need money but it's not reasonable to change your family for money. Hope you get my point. Happy mylotting!
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
It is sad to know about but there are people love money than their family. Like what my friends suffer to this day. His wife left him because of money... It seems that they can't live without more money. Their God, is money. They are blind because of money. Do you think if they die, they get their money...?