Hello my friends

@Katlady2 (9925)
United States
July 2, 2009 12:11am CST
I know I haven't been here very much....hardly at all truth be told. What with all of the strife and stalking and people getting hurt here, I just don't have the "oomph" in me to be here very much any more. And I miss everyone so very very much. I will pop in from time to time to say hi and see what all of you are up to. And just so you know, I DO read your posts in my email notifications. I hope you all can forgive me yet again. But I just can't do it anymore...it's just too painful seeing my friends get hurt like this. If any of you want to remove me from your friends list, I will most definitely understand and not be upset. I'm sending lots of love, hugs and positive thoughts to each and every one of you. If any of you would like to keep in touch with me via email, please send me a PM and I will very gladly give it to you. Thankyou everyone for being such wonderful loving friends. You are very much appreciated........Carryl
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• United States
2 Jul 09
I also have not been very active lately. I'm also not much of a discussion starter, because every time i come up with an idea, someone already started a discussion on it. I came along with a group of people, & of that group, it is only one other person (Gabs) & me who are at least semi-active here. I am also thinking that it's not trolling members of MyLot that are causing grief, but it's probably some rogue moderator or a staff member that's doing it. Last night, a friend, Ramoth, found that she was unable to log in, & it turned out that her account was canceled, & she was also at payout. I also have a friend, BethsMom24, who was suspended, & then canceled, & she came back as Beths_mom, & is now suspended for no apparent reason. I don't know if she had made payout with her original account. I also have a new friend, Dafter, who submitted her 22nd posting. That posting never made it, & then her 21 other posts just vanished. She ended up replying to one discussion about myLot being messed up, & that is the one post she now has. She has not been back since then. If I read an earlier response correctly, you probably know that SparkofInsanity was also suspended for no reason at all, but at least she was finally restored. All in all, I guess we're both frustrated for the same reasons.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Things have just gotten so crazy around here. I sincerely hope that it's as some members have assured me and that it's calming down somewhat. And yes, members getting suspended or banned for no apparent reason is just one of the reasons behind my frustration and sadness with this site. But I'm going to try to stick it out simply because of the wonderful friends I've made here. I'm sorry you're going through all of this too hon.
@srganesh (6349)
• India
2 Jul 09
Hey!You are a senior member here and you should have crossed all this much earlier.Mylot is a place where most of us try to remain polite.The hurting happen here and there and you need not give it much importance.Just ignore it and try to remain here and have fun as before.But if you are strong in your decision,so long.Cheers!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I understand what you're saying hon. But this seems to be an ongoing "epidemic" and it really brings me down at times. I'm not leaving completely though. I just won't be here as much as I used to. Thanks for stopping in and responding...I appreciate it.
@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
2 Jul 09
You'll be missed Carryl! While you're gone, I hope that time treats you with love and kindness, and that you return with smiles in your heart.
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• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Jul 09
What a lovely sentiment catdla!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Thank you Cat. I very much appreciate your kindness and understanding. You are one of the friends that keeps me coming back and not giving up here. It's friends like you that keep me going in times like these...and I thank you and appreciate you so very much for that. HUGS
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Good to hear from you again. I am sorry you've had a bad experience with myLot and your friends being hurt. Shouldn't happen on this kind of site. It's a fun place to be, not a place to bash people. When you feel comfortable enough to get involved again, I look forward to your posts. Take care, carolbee
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Thank you hon. I'll definitely be here off and on. Hopefully soon it will be more "on" than "off". LOL! Big hugs to you.
@carolbee (16243)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Hugs back. Take care.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
2 Jul 09
Hi there Sweetie I know what you are saying, I have been here a bit more lately as like you I miss my Friends here It has not been to bad so I am hoping that things will settle down Do not be a Stranger do you hear me I know we are in touch else where and that but you are missed here as well Big Hugs to you Love you
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I'm hoping things will settle down as well, as it has gotten beyond ridiculous in the past and it really got to me in a very bad way. I have no intention of leaving the site because of my wonderful friends here, such as you. Maybe I can manage to be a bit more active if things remain somewhat calmed down. Love you bunches hon.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
3 Jul 09
I hope so to Sweet because once it flares up again, I shall be absent for a while to I just hope that it stays the way it does for now Hugs to you
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
2 Jul 09
Hi Katlady2! I have too have considered taking a break from here but for some reason I keep coming back! I receive notifications and I can’t resist it; I have to sign in and respond! There have been a few malicious instances and it is a shame but I refuse to abandon a site that I love because of some obnoxious troll or disgruntled member! Please don't stop dropping in even if it is only every now and again, we'll miss you!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Thank you so much hon for the encouragement. I'll be here off and on. And maybe if things stay relatively calm I'll be here more often. I guess it's a good thing I'm so stubborn and don't give up easily huh? LOL! Hugs to you my friend and thank you again.
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@AmbiePam (44936)
• United States
2 Jul 09
It is startling to see how many people can get hurt through the internet. Real life is tough enough, yes? I hope you have a wonderful holiday, and don't be a stranger. : )
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
That is so true. Real life is a pain in the butt enough as it is at times. LOL! Thanks so much hon. HUGS!
@subha12 (18463)
• India
2 Jul 09
Hope everything is Ok now.I was observing you are not here for long. Hope this time you can be active. best of luck.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
THank you hon. I'm trying to make it a point and check in a few times a week at least. I'm really hoping things start looking up here because I don't want to leave the site at all. Thanks again....you're a good friend.
@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
2 Jul 09
I'm brand new here and your post is so sad! Don't let the haters get you down. Take the time you need and cheer up!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Thank you so much hon. I'm doing my best to overcome the sadness that all of this has brought on. And thanks to my wonderful friends here I'm making some good progress on that. Thank you for the cheer and encouragement. With that awesome outlook, you will enjoy the site very very much. A warm welcome to Mylot hon.
• India
2 Jul 09
katlady - i amnew here and would like to say one thing. by opting out, you are actually serving the purpose of whosoever hurted you. and, this will encourage him/her to repeat this again on other members. so ,please stay back and beat his purpose. looking forward to continue seeing you...
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Oh I'm not opting out....just taking a break here and there and not being here as much as I used to. I will definitely be stopping in from time to time, and if things stay calm I'll be back more often. Thank you so much for the positive words hon. I appreciate it.
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Hello Katlady2, sorry but I hadn't noticed that you were missing. Anyhow I know there are a few people here that would like to start some junk but I usually try to avoid it whenever I happen to come across a person with a bad attitude. I usually just don't bother to reply to them. I wouldn't allow them to stop me if I had more friends here at mylot. As you know in real life the internet is probably the same. There are always a few bad apples in the bunch. It's what make you appreciate the good ones. So please don't let them stop you. I think that most of the people here are very fine and decent......... Happy mylot!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
LOL! I understand hon. I've been gone so much that I'm sure a lot of people got used to not seeing me around. I'm sticking around the site because of the great friends I have made here. A few have reassured me that things are calming down somewhat so maybe in the near future I'll be here more. Thanks for the encouragement hon.
@smileonstar (4014)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Oh, we will miss you then. Pain is a part of life and if u see it and u dont like it, then you should ignore it. I know, u dont like to see your friends get hurt but it is just normal now. However, the way they open for us here cuz they need our help, at least something to share with right? I hope you will enjoy these time... but i am sure, I will miss your respond or something.
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
To me it's sad that so much pain can become a normal part of life. But I guess that's the way it goes sometimes. I'll be here off and on. I'm not giving up on the site since I have so many wonderful friends here. Thank you for the encouragement hon. I really appreciate it.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
2 Jul 09
You've been MIA here? I hadn't noticed. LOL Seems I'm running into you here and there and everywhere anyway, so no worries about needing to be forgiven for being 'MIA'.......... Just keep popping up in my inbox for whatever reason and I'm a happy camper! LOL
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
LOL! Thanks for the giggle hon. I needed it! We ARE all over the 'net together aren't we? I'll definitely keep in touch. HUGS
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@Feona1962 (7529)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Hey PPP...I understand completely...I haven't been here much either...I pop in once and awhile to see what is going on....I don't get many notifications at all...not like I used to...so I wonder what everyone is doing.... Later PPP
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Sometimes I wonder exactly how many people have "disappeared" from this site for one reason or another. That's one of the things that has brought me down at times. But I'm trying to stick it out for the great friends that are here. You are definitely one of those....I love you bunches PPP!
@someonesmom (5768)
• Canada
2 Jul 09
Hi Carryl, It's so great to see you here! I want you to know, that I'm hardly here anymore either, and for the very reasons you've mentioned. At the beginning of this year, I came back from holidays, to find that some of my dearest friends on here had been deeply hurt, banned, etc., etc., through no fault of their own. This was too much for me to bear, along with the passing of our beloved kitty Anna Belle, pictured in my avatar. I haven't started a discussion in 'eons,' as my heart hasn't been in it. I 'may' have one more discussion in me soon, but I'll have to see how I feel about it. I'd love to have your e-mail, so I'll send you a PM now. Some of 'us' are keeping in touch via a different method, since all of this happened, so I can share the details with you once I have your e-mail. Big hugs
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
2 Jul 09
It's so hard dealing with everything all at once isn't it? I plan to stay here, even if it's to only stop in every once in a while. I just can't bring myself to leave my friends here. I PM'd you a couple of my email addys. I check them pretty much every day, so feel free to use either or both. Thanks for being such an awesome friend hon. HUGS
@Darkwing (21590)
7 Jul 09
Now, why do you suppose we would want to remove you from our friends list, huh? We've all been there at some time or another; some of us have ridden the storm... me because I'm just plain stubborn, and I won't give in to this behaviour... and others have difficulty in coping. We're all different, and at least you've done what you feel is best for your sanity and have been kind enough to let us know of your decision. No worries, my friend... I would like to keep in touch, for sure, and will send you a PM. It's sad to see the way a lot of our friends have dwindled away at the hands of these sad people, but life goes on... we move on, and learn the lessons of life that make us strong and wise. Thank you for the energies and positive thoughts, which I return to you. I hope your spiritual growth will benefit from your decision and wish you all the happiness in the world, my friend. Brightest Blessings always. xx
@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
10 Jul 09
I hope you got my PM back hon. I added you in my email addy's too. But I've decided to remain here and be my usual stubborn self, even if just to spite those that have caused so many problems for everyone here. Thank you so much for sticking by me and being such an awesome friend hon. You have no idea how much it's appreciated. Sending lots of love and hugs your way.
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@Darkwing (21590)
18 Jul 09
That's ok, my friend. Yes, I did get your PM, and I now have your email address as I believe you have mine. It doesn't hurt to have friends' emails, as although you've decided to stick it out here, we never know when will come a time that we are forced to leave this site, and these are the times that our emails come in handy. I will certainly keep in touch with you, and hope you don't have any further trouble here, because in my book, you're not deserving of such treatment. Take care, and Brightest Blessings. x
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
5 Jul 09
Carryl, I have wondered where you went! Now I know why and do understand. Am I one of the people? I'm sorry if I am but my life is what it is, my life. It does suck in such a big way and I wish so much that I could change it for the better but my family won't let me. They seem to love drama where hubby and I can't stand it. If I could run away and feel good about doing it, I'd do it in a heartbeat! Trust me on that!! In any case, sorry you've left for you are very much missed!!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
10 Jul 09
No no no hon! You are definitely NOT one of the reasons I stayed away for a while. Please know that you are one of the ones that keeps me coming back. You are such a great friend and I wouldn't turn my back on you for anything. True I don't like seeing you go through so much pain, but I will ALWAYS be here for you. And it's not like you don't know all of my "hidey places" to find me on the 'net. LOL! I've decided to stay after all, and hopefully be a bit more active here. Face it.....you're STUCK with me! Hahahaha! Love you bunches hunny....big hugs!
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• United States
3 Jul 09
HI Katlady: I was thinking about you the other day wondering where that "pink kitty" that moves had gone too (G)!! I'm sorry to hear of so many friends being hurt and upset on here, I've no idea what happened but I hate it that you are gone; I would say don't let them stop you from doing something you enjoy, don't let them "win in another words.... Hugs to you and I hope you decide to come back again!!
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
10 Jul 09
No, they haven't won this time. I've decided to be my usual stubborn bull headed self and stick around. So me and my pink cheshire are here to stay. Thanks for being such a wonderful friend hon. HUGS
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Aww...now come on....I would miss seeing that disappearing smiling pink kitty. I haven't been as active myself here but more due to my strained wrist injury that makes typing fun..NOT--and yikes I would NEVER remove you from my friends list so don't even think I would
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@Katlady2 (9925)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Awww...thanks hunny! I knew you would always stick by me, and I thank you so much for that. I'm pretty attached to my cheshire too (not to mention, more importantly, my awesome friends here such as yourself), so I think I'll be sticking around for a while longer. I just can't seem to break away. LOL