is love really enough to get back into a relationship?

@jaimz19 (236)
Philippines
July 2, 2009 10:43pm CST
we broke-up more than a month ago and now she wants to get back together. when i asked her the same thing before, she didn't want it and said that she'd rather take the risk of losing me when she's finally ready to get back with me. now that i'm quite ok already, this happens. i've somehow moved on because i never expected that she'll ever get back with me again. the love is still there, there's no question about it, we've been together for more than 2 years... but is the love really enough to get back together with my ex? a lot have changed in both of us and i don't know where to start if ever we do get back together...:(
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6 responses
• Malaysia
3 Jul 09
no. you need trust, money and better communication. at least those 3 to make it happen.
@jaimz19 (236)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
if so, then i think we have a lot of things to settle! thanks!
@khayshenz (1387)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Unfortunately, I can't answer this question for you. And as much as I'd like to tell you to list the pros and cons of getting back with her, I won't. Because I believe that true love is beyond that kind of logic. Why did you break-up in the first place? Are you (just you as a person) willing to work out whatever happened that caused the break-up? Is it a deal-breaker or is there a compromise that can be reached? Good luck! P.S. Welcome to mylot.
@jaimz19 (236)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
that's just it, i'm hesitant to work it out again because 1st, it seems that i've gone used to not having her around anymore and 2nd, i don't know where to start even if i want to... i broke-up with her because i felt that she wasn't really there anymore... it all started when she had this new job and she was always busy spending more time at work than she had to... so, i think it was an issue that can't be settled or compromise... thanks!
• United States
3 Jul 09
Communication is the best way to find out if you both are willing to work together to walk side by side looking in the same direction, forward. If the love is there, is the respect for each there? Are you both able to talk about anything together? If you argue, does someone have to win, or can you agree to disagree and let it go? Relationships constantly change as you both grow in the path of your journey through life. It takes compassion, patience, heart, and most of all faith in yourself as well as in your partner of life to get through the years together. Somethings you have to over look in a person, because the good things you like in them out weigh those things that erk you about them. Thats life though, learning with each other as you walk through lifes Journey together.
@jaimz19 (236)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
yes, both love and respect is still present... but i guess we came to the point wherein we both felt and admitted that we could no longer agree on anything... she had issues before that until now she could not let go even after we've talked about it... yes, this is life and it's harder especially if you want to share it with someone... i guess i just have to see unto where this may lead... thanks!
@megaplaza (1438)
• Nigeria
3 Jul 09
Well i see a man ready to start the relationship agaim just worried about breaking up later again. Just know that nothing lasts forever, wanna move on? Move on, or wanna reconcile then do? But i think only love can make me do it and my prestige n honor can still make me move on
@Sunnywwc (23)
• China
3 Jul 09
Communication is the best way to solve you problem.On the other hand, if you love her,please trust her and trust love.God be with you~
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
Well, everybody deserves a second chance. So I guess there is no reason that she does not deserve one. For as long as there is still love, then why not. But you have to make sure of what you feel before you give it another try. As you have said, a lot of things has changed. I wish you that you will be making the right decision and wish you all the best no matter what decision you make.