Why girls are like this?

@sudhibus (100)
Kuwait
July 4, 2009 1:07am CST
Dear Friends, I feel much relieved, when I share my agonies and sorrows with you mlfriends.The advice and opinions from you people are appreciable. I am much worried now. I am now 27 according to our custom the right time for getting married. My parents always do the best and wanted to give me the best of best. After a long search for a perfect partner they found a beautiful girl. I was so happy that I am going to get somebody to share my joys, sorrows.... She was in France and me in Kuwait. With the permission of our parents we chat, mail daily. I was in a dream world figuring out my future plans. I used to discuss everything with her. She said she liked me much and is eagerly waiting for our nuptial day. But our love did not last for long.... Two days back, she called me and said she is having an affair in France. She wants to live with him now.... Blood sucking devil... She could have told me before, right? Why she broke my heart? Many said to me that is girl. Are all girls like this..
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@simonelee (2718)
• China
4 Jul 09
First of all I would like to say that not all ladies are like that.=D well, I can't blame you because of the traumatic experienced with your ex-fiancee. Long distance relationship is a big challenge for couples because it is a matter of love, trust and assurance. Ladies also have their needs just like men. We, woman, are weak in terms of emotions, we need someone who is always there for us, someone to talk to; to love, cuddle, and care. Maybe she got tired of waiting and found someone that is always there by her side every time she is longing for you. Technologies for me is a big help but it cannot replace your presence...
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@peercc (332)
• India
4 Jul 09
girls have more feeling then boys.......
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• India
4 Jul 09
completely wrong..boys r more emotional once they fall in love
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@mensab (4207)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
i dont think girls are all like this. there is always a challenge for a couple living separately to keep up and stay in a relationship. there are moments that one longs for the presence of the other. being separate does not help in fulfilling those moments. technological advances may have helped in bridging the distance between two persons, but voices and pictures are no match to actual and real hugs and words from someone. i feel your loss and i wish you to find a match for you. goodluck
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@sudhibus (100)
• Kuwait
4 Jul 09
Ok, I agree with you "being separate does not help in fulfilling certain moments". But why she played with my life. Whole heartedly I would have wished those love birds a happy married life, if she said everything the very moment. This I cant tolerate. If I wish I can spoil her, but I dont want to do so. Let her live happily, crushing my heart. I wish this not to happen any others.
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• India
5 Jul 09
ComeOn Sudhi , Speaking to you Some Lovable Tunes and exchanging mails and Suddenly Revealing that she is involved with someone else cant shouldnt Break a Mans Heart. Go Find a Better girl. Things like this Happen quite a lot, Dont Bother . There Are A Lot More Better Chics out there Go hunt them down ........ LoL ..........
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@rusty2rusty (6767)
• Defiance, Ohio
5 Jul 09
not all girls are like this...at 27 you should not even have to ask this question. Long distance relationships are hard and difficult to maintain. Ifthelove was not there to begin with it is hard to stay connected. Also nnections donot always happen the first time......sometimes you need to check more people out first. It is alot easier to connect with someone much closer...maybe have your parents look for a girl that lives alot closer to home. Try that and see what happens.
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@kareng (7980)
• United States
5 Jul 09
No all girls are not like this. First you don't know when the girl met the other guy. Did she know him all along or just recently met him? It's hard to have a long distance relationship, especially when you haven't even met the other person. I'm guessing this is what made her choose the other guy over you...he was there and you were miles and miles away. I hope you find a nice girl locally so you can build upon your relationship before you marry. Good luck and have a great day! And...don't give up!!
@derek_a (10902)
5 Jul 09
No, all girls are not like this, but I think it is somewhat difficult with a long-distant relationship, with two people living in different countries or miles away from each other. In love, there is rarely rhyme or reason as any one of us can fall in love with somebody out of the blue, as it has indeed happened to me. I can remember a time when I thought I was never going to meet anybody, and then in a chance meeting, I met the girl who was to become my future wife. However, I have always been aware that where feelings are concerned, there are no guarantees as before getting married, I had girlfriends I was deeply in love with, suddenly meet somebody else and I was dumped. As I look back on it these days, I can accept that life is like that. I believe there is somebody out there somewhere for each of us, and I hope you will soon meet the right person. I think the secret is not to go hunting, but just stay in contact socially, and one day it will happen for you.. - Derek
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@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
5 Jul 09
Take it easy.....dont think that all girls are like that. But you will get characters often like that. She could have told you this much early,when the parents approached her.It is better you are saved now. Otherwiase, she would have married you and continued the affair at France. Search for a better girl. You will get a better match to share your joys and sorrows
@SViswan (12071)
• India
5 Jul 09
I understand you are devastated. But look at it this way. She was honest with you and told u before you were married. Isn't that better? Maybe it just happened and she didn't plan it this way. Long distance relationships are very hard to keep up and it takes a lot from both sides....maybe she wasn't as strong as you are. When I was living in Kuwait, I had a long distance relationship with someone in the UK. And he did break my heart. He didn't even bother to tell me and just stopped all communication even after he got back to India. Though I was heartbroken then, I realized it was better than spending my whole life with such a swine...and moved on with my life. Not all girls are like that. But it is human nature. Maybe she fell in love with someone...from what I understand, you two never really met and she probably did like you....but she probably met someone she liked better...and you know a real relationship is always stronger than an online relationship. A long distance is usually stronger when the people concerned have already met and established a real time relationship before they move. Then there are more chances of it working (but not always necessary that it should).
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@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
5 Jul 09
Blood sucking devil what a description! Not all girls are 'vampires'. Accept the fact that she is not fated to be yours. I know how heart broken you are but this is one lesson you learned 'not to attach too much hope on girls you just meet especially online'. There are merely for entertainment in the virtual world. Life time partner is something you have to be quite selective as it means someone that can be with you in good and bad times and that can compliment your character well.
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• India
5 Jul 09
Do not get emotional. There is no point in feeling sad about it. If one girl goes, other will come.There are lots of women in this world who will be much better than her. It is good that you came to know it before marriage . So now start again fresh and begin your search for other girl/ girls. Life is too short to cry over a girl.
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• United States
5 Jul 09
No... All girls aren't like that. Some are, but there are also men like that. Some people are just... Selfish. I'm sorry you got hurt, but it's not going to happen every time. Just have faith. It will get better.
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• Philippines
5 Jul 09
Not all girls are like that. I have been in a long distance relationship like you. My bf visited here last year and last May but lately, I was shocked that I don't have a bf anymore. It really hurt me and cried a lot about it for 2 days. I was going to his country this coming August to live and work there but he blew off everything. Some guys are also like that, not just girls. I hope that you can find the girl for you in the future.
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@heihong (59)
• China
4 Jul 09
I do believe not all girls like that,but some are.Right now one of my best frients is also suffering the same situation as you are.One year ago,he was sent to Africa for after-sale services and had to keep up with his 6-year-relationship girlfriend only through voices,words and pictures. He used to say he would marry her right after he goes back and she promised seems honestly at that time.But now,my friend is going back on 20 July while she told him she is having an affair with another man.I don't know if she meant to cheat on his emotion or just dragged it out. Hope every thing will be fine with you,and also my friend.
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4 Jul 09
you need to realise sometimes in life the unexpected happens so you have to be prepared in whatever you do, maybe she just doesnt want long distant relationship and later find out surprises. my advice to you man, let it go..move on. its not easy but we all gotta do that sometimes.
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• United States
4 Jul 09
france is the city of love and kuwait the city of war .which would you choice?when it comes to love peace or war ?To me love it's a war in it's self ,In the end we all die alone... marry or not .Freedom in found only in your mind let it go love God be happy & don't worry let her go if it was met to be she come back if not set her free;)
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• Chile
4 Jul 09
Girls, girls, girls...
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@peercc (332)
• India
4 Jul 09
i am thinking why girls are cunning towards boys............
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• India
4 Jul 09
sudhibus, as most of our friends pointed out, this girl definitely was not a fair reflection of women in general. While i can understand your heartbreak, it is not fair to generalise womenfolk based on this experience. i am sure that you will move on and have a wonderful partner in your life, and there will be a moment when you yourself would think that it happened for your benfit. All the best in your life.
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@JamieRose (168)
• Philippines
4 Jul 09
Hi Sudhibus, I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I have to say that not all girls are like this. I bet you are really hurt right now because of what happened. I guess life is like that. Atleast as early as now you know that she is that kind of girl, that she does not love you enough. Somehow its a blessing in disguise that you were able to find out now that you hadn't married her, that she is not inlove with you. Its better this way, than you marrying her and then finding out that she has another guy. Its best not to rush things. open your doors to everyone you will meet. The girl that is meant for you is just there. I know she is :) Now you have to move on. You can't force the girl if she doesn't love you as much as you love her. I hope everything will be fine with you. Stay happy and continue to believe in love!
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@Hedwig (285)
• China
4 Jul 09
I am sorry for your suffer. I don't think that all girls are like this. Yes, everyone has the right to choose their life partner when they are single. But from your discription, this girl kind of cheated on you. Maybe she was not sure about her relationship with that guy before,thus, didn't want to lose you. This is selfish, involving with two men at the exact same time. She doesn't deserve your love. Cheer up! You will find another girl who turely loves you and will spend the rest of her life with you.
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@meliora (54)
• United States
4 Jul 09
She had her chance with you and she chose another. While she did play with your emotions, you shouldn't assume that she did so maliciously. It sounds as if she may have just been a bit of a coward when it came to telling you about the other man, so she procrastinated and didn't tell you until she absolutely had to once she had made her choice. By doing this, she caused damage. She didn't handle the situation correctly at all and let her own fears affect her judgement. She most likely was afraid of ending up alone, so she led you on in case things didn't work out with the one she is going to live with. Either that or she didn't want to hurt your feelings or dissapoint your families until she was sure she'd be taken care of and able to take care of herself. Anyone who is that uncertain when making decisions for themselves, to the point where they drag on and on like she did before finally making her choice, is not someone who is ready for marriage. My condolences for your loss, but things likely worked out for the best.
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