Sngle Parent Home vs Household with Two Parents
• United States
4 Jul 09
Hmm...I know that people will automatically say that the two parent home will make a child more likely to succeed, but I don't think that it comes down to how many parents are in the home as much as it does on how the parent in the home raises the child. Of course having both parents is better for emotional reasons...it's always better - but I don't think success (like business/success) has anything to do with it. For example, my parents divorced when I was in 2nd grade. My brother lived mostly with my mother but i couldn't stand her so I went to live with my dad. My brother got away with murder (not literally) and I had to work for everything I wanted. I'm 28 - own my own home - 2 chidren - nice car - and make...well, let's just say a handsome amount of money as a freelance writer. I clean, I cook, I cut the grass. My brother? 22 still lives with mommy (with an admitted fact that he never intends on leaving), can't hold a job for more than a month, has never bought his own car, only graduated cyber school because she did his assignments for him, he went into cyber school because he had too many "headaches" to get up in the mornings (funny how those only come when there is something he has to do), and she has to kick-scream-cry to get him to cut the grass every few weeks. Verdict? I'm better :) HAHAHAHAHAHAHA But seriously, it is about the way the child is raised, not by who or how many people. I think there are probably more single mothers that are low income than high income, and low income families generally produce children who grow to be in the low income - high income tend to have children grow to be high income....This is according to studies. If there is not enough guidance at home for the child to go to college and become a success, he or she most likely won't...there are those cases though that beat the odds... Thanks for the discussion!!
• United States
4 Jul 09
Thank you so much for that response. You did an excellent job expressing the complexity of the questions. Normally the response would be based on an individuals own person experiences but the truth really lies in how much interest or emphasis the parent/parents place on education within the household as a whole. You can have one parent that works two jobs but still finds time to show up at parent teacher meetings or to check to make sure homework is done and etc. Where on the other hand, you have two parents who work one job each but are all tied up in attempting to maintain their youthfulness that they neglect the fact that its important to place that emphasis on education.
12 Jul 09
i think yes..it affects the general psychology of the child, when he sees all children around with both mother and father, also they hear their friends talking about how their parents help them and enjoy with them, so definitely the child with single parent must be suffering and feeling many times that, why i am different from others. This affects his overall growth, both mental and physical.