Is Virginity Still Important?

Philippines
July 5, 2009 3:50am CST
I see some local movies where women are so afraid to tell their partner that they have lost their virginity to someone else. Some men I talked to say that it's better to feel that you are the first one who got the first base coz women will remember you, to whom they surrendered their virginity. What do you think mylotters?
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• United States
6 Jul 09
I believe virginity is very important! I was 23 when I got married, and my husband is the one I lost my virginity to. I was very proud of that fact 'cause I am the only one among my immediate family to do that. I've always believed that virginity is something to be given to the one you truly love, and it is something that you can only give away once. Virginity should be given to that one special person who you can see spending the rest of your life with. If you do save it for that person and it doesn't work out, then I'm truly sorry and you have to risk your heart being broken again, but you have pick up those pieces and try to trust again. Now-a-days, people (kids) don't seem to care about virginty, just about satisfaction. That, to me, is very sad. Virginty is something sacred, I believe. You should save it for someone special, not just your bf/gf at the time cuz 8/10 chances they probably won't be around long cuz they got all they wanted.
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• India
6 Jul 09
Yes i must say,still the word VIRGINITY has importance,Bcoz many person want to get married to a virgin girl,But a man never think to remain virgin,Yes you can say how a man's virginity could be checked?its true that a woman never understands that whether the man she get married is virgin or on the marriage but a man can understand by their attitude or their way of presenting themselves before there husbands,but my question is why should the women have to suffer if they lost their virginity,why not a man? I think VIRGINITY is important to both man & woman before starting a married life,that means be true , faithful , respectful infront of each other. What do you think?
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
I agree not all women should suffer if they lost their virginity. It all depends on how they lost it...they may have taught they found the right guy in the past, or out of curiosity, accident, fun, etc. Whatever virginity reason it would be, its up to the guy how he would respond to it.
• United States
6 Jul 09
I agree with you 110% rosyevening! It's nice to know there are still some "old fashioned" people like me out there, that don't take virginity lightly and who don't think all should be punished for losing it before marriage. Marriage is something that you should be honest with eachother about, and you should be loving and understanding of the other person's situation if they are no longer a virgin.
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@Courtom (288)
• Canada
6 Jul 09
its not up to the guy, its up to the other partner... I dont think gender should play such a big part
• India
5 Jul 09
Yes it is very important factor to consider for a man when he is going to marry. He will only choose the women who is a virgin even though he may not be a virgin. That is the nature of men .
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
haha wise men. unlike women, you can't physically determine men's virginity status. that's one advantage!
• United States
5 Jul 09
I agree w/ you Aditya, though I don't think it's "fair" that a man should be experienced and possibly bringing disease to the table and the woman should be a virgin with a clean bill of health. Doesn't sound fair at all to me! Especially if men are looking for virgins to be their brides, why is it ok for them to not save themselves for their bride? I know they have made a big deal about the Jonas Brothers lil pledge, but why can't a man be a virgin?
• India
5 Jul 09
The reason is that a man is more attracted or interested in physical relationship as compared to women who give more importance to mental or emotional relationship rather than physical relationships . Though there are some exceptions. It is more difficult for a man to control his urge for physical relationship as compared to a women. It is all created by nature. That is what I feel. Hope you will get my point.
@vijayanths (7878)
• India
5 Jul 09
It is not important in western countries. In countries like Indis it was considered to be very important a few decades ago. But not this attitude is changing everywhere. Now the boy is specific about virginity when getting married. He only expects her to be loyal to him after marriage.
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
That is correct. That's also the case here in the Philippines. People are more liberated and open to culture change.
• India
5 Jul 09
Not only after marriage but before also. Who said that he expects her to be loyal only after marriage it is before also. It depends on the particular boy. India should not follow western countries.
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
i think it's kinda awkward to be not loyal before marriage because it's already given that before marriage, you have gone through courtship stage where you prove your loyalty to each other and after that, go into marriage.
@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
6 Jul 09
Ones virginity should never be taken lightly, stevelvis, because the act of making love for the very first time tends to have some effect upon the rest of your adult life. Whether the losing of your virginity is a pleasant memory or one that is not so pleasant should weigh heavily on your mind once you decide to do the deed. I know that modern thinking doesn't rate bing a virgin so highly, but the way I see it, it is very important in terms of a person's self-esteem.
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
Thanks worldwise. What if you had a pleasant memory of losing your virginity to someone else and your relationship did not work out, could you still forget that experience if you get married? Is it true that all first time are unforgettable or special?
@worldwise1 (14890)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I think I can safely assure you that everyone's first time is memorable; whether or not it is pleasant depends upon the participants.
@candy2306 (577)
• India
6 Jul 09
It's the culture that cherish virgins and the ladies who lost it before marriage feels shameful to face it. I feel that the guy will illtreat her if she openly tells him that she lost her virginity to other man. When time moves so fast, this virginity issue flew as well, but yes, it's still a big issue in some rural places!
• India
6 Jul 09
Not only in rural places but also in urban places. I do not think that any boy will prefer a girl who has lost virginity before marriage. unless he is a very so called liberal boy.
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
i think it would be cruel to ill treat a girl who lost her virginity to some man before she taught that everything will be perfect between them. people who do such maltreatment are those who just want to play with her. i think it's not appropriate to talk about virginity in an early stage of courtship until both has proven their true intentions.
@vicash7 (24)
• India
5 Jul 09
hi, Nowadays, 90% women lose their virginity before marriage. virginity is somewhat important. If love towards fiancee is true then virginity is not an issue unless women don't play with him.
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
yes true love is not all about virginity but loving the person with no measure. the risk is if both are true to each other :-)
@logaritse (388)
• Indonesia
5 Jul 09
Yes, i'm a man and i want my wife still virgin :) first night is a sacred thing for me.
@Courtom (288)
• Canada
6 Jul 09
so then you are a virgin as well?
16 Jul 09
now I think it is important......I wish I had saved myself so I could have been a virgin on my wedding night. I didnt think so at the time of course....but if virginity were regarded as being mroe important perhaps there would be fewer children born who are essentially unwanted. I suppose that makes me sound realllllly old fashioned...
• United States
6 Jul 09
i'm undeied i'm still a virin so living in this world today there is not many i don't care if who ever i end up doing it with is not i just care that he loves me.
• Puerto Rico
6 Jul 09
It doesn't matter but the most important thing is honesty, the partner should know if she has lost the virginity or not. The key word is trust.
@sksrin (111)
• India
6 Jul 09
YES IT IS IMPORTANT....I want my wfe untouched by hands...hahaha
@LiAXaZu (184)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
hmm i guess it is still important. but it also depends on both the man and the woman involved. it would be a good thing if either of them are virgins before marriage but it is not always the case. if they really love each other, then it wouldn't matter if either of them are virgins or not. it's funny that you mentioned in your question that some men said it's better that they are the ones to whom a woman gives her virginity to but it is a bit ironic because they themselves don't do it. i mean, how many men do you know that are virgins as opposed to those who aren't? well, i'm just saying. :) but really, as i've already mentioned, virginity is important but it all depends on the people involved. i mean, after all, you can't decide for a person to whom he/she gives his/her virginity to. what's important is that if he/she is willing to give it, then it is because he/she loves that person.
@bcom92 (116)
5 Jul 09
i believe virginity is important because you will only loose it once and you want to loose it to the right person because it will be special especially if your partner is a virgin too. if it dont feel right then you shouldnt do it because it isnt the right person. i hate it when people are pressured into se.x you should loose it when you want to with who you want to even if your in your 50s you should still wait for the right person.
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
Yes, it is important. I agree that it's better to feel that you're the first one who got the first base. Girls should not surrender virginity before marriage. I know that that's how the old world works but I still believe it should be that way. We could have prevented HIV/AIDS if we followed that old way... Just an opinion... Thanks!
5 Jul 09
in some cultures, yes, in some, no. although the world is becoming more and more liberal, sometimes it all boils down to a matter of choice. if your partner is not a virgin and it works for you, then go on with the relationship. if it doesn't work for you and it bothers you that much, then find someone more suitable. as a whole, i think individual preferences matter more now than cultural or societal beliefs or norms.
• United States
5 Jul 09
i care if they have or not though it doesnt completely bothers me i am a virgin i want to lose my virginity with a virgin also though my search is getting forever harder but those who have lost it already cant really do much can they someone gonna lose it at some point and you cant makesure your there for it can you.
• India
5 Jul 09
Yes virginity is very important to me. I would like to have a girl who is a virgin when I marry her. But now a days, you do not know who is a virgin and who is not. You have to take her word for it. It is like your mother telling you that this man is your father. You have to take her word for it. Just joking.
@geniustiger (1699)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
virginity, vital, sacred - virginity, vital, impt.
For me its important for having it sacred before marrying. Its the best thing that we can offer to our love one when going to marry soon .It is a sin in my belief and teaching that having it before marriage. Only marriage people can have that thing. Thats the great asset of a woman to his someone to live for.
@cutygirl (577)
• India
5 Jul 09
yes. its very important