I can't stand her!

United States
July 5, 2009 4:24pm CST
Want to vent on my neighbor. I have this neighbor who lives on the block across from me. She knows me and my mom from my cousin who used to live in the house next to her. She's very annoying. All she does is ask people for things (food, drinks, clothes, ect.) and never gives anything to anyone. She also talks about people behind their back and lies about doing so, even she gets caught doing it. Now, people are nice to her because she has cancer (she's such a liar, her story of what illnesses and how sick she is changes every time she's asked. Not in progression, but what illness she actually has!). I decided to stop talking to her, because I was running errands one day and say her and said hi to just be nice, and no only did not say anything back she gave me a dirty look. So, my cousin had a bbq yesterday and invited my mom and me. The neighbor was there, necause she just wonders in and doesn't care if she's invited or not! (I've since my cousin kick her out of her house and she refuses to leave), and just as annoying as can be. She always buts into people's converstations. Also, she eats like a pig and then asks to take food home. I totally ignore her and refuse to speak to her. She thought she was smart. She said to my cousin and her hiusband how their her angels and take care of her. Then she said to my mom and my cousin's mom how she loves being in their company. Basically, she said something nice to everyone but me. Kind of like saying "I don't like you." I let it go, but I felt like saying "It's ok, I can't stand you, either." I can't stand this woman!
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@meandmy3 (2229)
• United States
5 Jul 09
I think we all have that a person or two in our lives that fits the description of your neighbor and all of us have horrible stories about our neighbors and how they treat us. I am sorry that you have to deal with her, I think that the only way to get her to stop and to go away is to be upfront with her about your feelings and let her know that she is not welcome in your home.
• United States
5 Jul 09
I doubt it. People have kicked her out of their homes and she refuses to leave. It's also my cousin and great aunt like her. Now, my mom and other great aunt feel like they have to be nice to her because she's sick. They all I can't stand her and still deal with her. She just came out of her house and is screaming about something. She's just not a nice person. She barely speak English and was keeping illegal immigrants in her house. She also used to piss in her aliway.
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@Courtom (288)
• Canada
6 Jul 09
refuses to leave. That is when you give her legal notice, then change the locks, and have her things neatly arranged on the front driveway.
• China
6 Jul 09
let everything go well
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• Canada
6 Jul 09
Hi Smartie, I don't blame you, it kind of sounds like this woman is just using people to get what she wants. Although it could be that she's really lonely and so she creates all of that drama. So people will like her or feel sorry for her. Maybe you should show her some kindness even though you can't stand her. It might make you feel better in the long run.
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@Glow1971 (354)
• Spain
6 Jul 09
I know what you mean about this woman but sometimes we just can't let these type of people get to you. Life is too short to be mad or upset about these type of people and as hard as it may be, try not to let it get to you. God only knows how many of those I have in my life but I refuse to let them make my life miserable.
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@suzzy3 (8358)
5 Jul 09
She sounds a real bundle of joy ,she probably taken against you because she you won't put up with her ways.She sounds a real pain in the neck and not someone you would want to cotton on to you.It is difficult though if she is really ill,she obviously got issues,She sounds very lonely and does not understand how to make friends and look after them.She is all take and relies on everybodies sympathy and charity but I do feel from what you have told us she is taking things a bit far,she is lucky to have neibours that put up with her.
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• United States
5 Jul 09
This neighbor certainly sounds annoying! You are probably better off just trying to avoid her and not going to any lengths to talk to her rather than going off on her, which is sounds like you're doing a good job of so far. Just be glad this isn't a woman you have to work with or impress. At least with her just being your neighbor, she doesn't have to like you, and you don't have to like her. Don't worry about what she may or may not be saying about you behind your back. It sounds like she's over-the-top annoying, so other people most likely feel the same way and know whatever she says can't be trusted. I'm sure you already do, but try to watch what you say around her. As you've already seen, she could contort what you've said until it's no longer recognizable. I sympathize with you. We all want nice neighbors, but the world's ignorant and/or annoying people do have to live somewhere. Some of us get the bad out of the barrel. :)
@tawny_24 (351)
• United States
6 Jul 09
I have sucky neigbors. One is a ghetto 40 year old lady with no job, and no life, one is a fifty year old man with no job and no life, both living off of public assistance, and the third is a twenty something girl with no sense in her head, who tells guys that she will have threesomes with them to get guys to like her, but she can't figure out why everyone thinks she is loose and no one wants to date her or take her seriously. They all hate each other, but they gang up together and put other people down when they are insecure or intimidated. That is what they did to me when I moved into my neighborhood. It got so bad that I had to take one of them to court for assualt. The older lady attacked me because she was told by the man that I had said something about her behind her back. It was a lie he told because he is a conspirator and an instigator. When we got to court she lied and got the case dismissed. It has been several months and I don't even acknowledge that any of these people exhist. But they all sit together on a front porch, or in a back yard and talk all kinds of trash. In the begginning I tried to be a good neigbor, but that changed very quickly. I'm so done with these people. They don't exhist to me. Over the fourth of July weekend, the man, who lives below me, came up to me and tried to do the exact same thing again. He gave me some fake apology and I brushed him off this time. The last time he came up to me with an apology for being a complete selfish butt, I accepted it, no one else came up in the conversation. I left for fifteen minutes and when I returned the crazy old hag from accross the street was in my face pushing and yelling about how I said something, what I said, she couldn't say. Who told her that I said something about her, one guess. He even admitted to stirring the pot to my face when I confronted him about it, and then acted like he had no idea that the crazy lady across the street would come after me, even though he has known this woman for over five years and acknowledges that she is capable of anything and he is also afraid of her retaliating against him. How can a fifty year old person not understand the consequences of his actions in a situation like this? If you ask me something smells rotten in Denmark. I learned my lesson. NEVER AGAIN.