How many children do you have or want to have?

Children - Easter babies
United States
July 5, 2009 7:47pm CST
Hello all. To get to know one another better, I thought I'd ask each of you: How many children do you have or want to have someday?I have three wonderful daughters I adore, and eight beautiful grandchildren. I feel very blessed! Karen
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22 responses
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
If getting married and have a children I prefer two or three children. If God, permitted I like two daughter and one son or one daughter and one son. That is a good choice for me and suitable for this time. More children is not a good choice, today. Our situation became worse and worse. Government face many problems to gives solution on poverty. They think that intensifying campaign for family planning is one of the methods to less poverty in the world. If you prefer two or three children. You can focus on their education to makes them rewards in the future. You can't hardly provide what they needs for education, shelter, foods and others...How about you my friend?
• United States
6 Jul 09
Hello Aerous. I think yes, one should not have more children than they can provide for and take good care of. Raising a child and seeing to their education costs a lot of money. So I agree with you! Karen
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
Hello Karen To have more children is not suitable today, unless you are rich or a millionaire. Even those rich, they have one or two children. I don't know why is that rich people has less children since they can provide all things to their children? It is really true that rich people is more sticky than poor? Who is poor and no stable jobs, parents. They are likely a factory of children? This is due to lack of the governments intensifying efforts in educating parents for family planning. I don't know if Americans has more children, than Filipino's that has more than 12 children...
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• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi Aerous...the amount of children varies in America, but the average is 2 to 3 per family. Some of the wealthiest here do have more children, or they will adopt them from orphanages to give them good care and a good education and love. Other people, whatever their economic status, have one or a few, and some have many. It really varies a great deal here, but as I said, average overall is 2-3. Karen
• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi Karen...well your wedding bills were just a little more expensive than mine because I have two daughters and one son. I had my first daughter at 17 so we sorta grew up togethr...me as her mom and her as a child to get ready for adulthood. I also have 5 beautiful children..three grandaughter and two grandsons and I wouldn't trade any of them they are my pride and joy . flutterby
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• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi Flutterby. I really warms my heart when I hear someone speaking so fondly of their family. We are both very blessed :) I wouldn't trade mine for the world! I was so astonished to have 7 grandsons (since I had all girls) and also one beautiful granddaughter. They are all my heart! Karen
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• United States
8 Jul 09
Hi Karen...Yes children are surely the greatest blessing from God and it just pains me when I hear of one getting abused. I had my two daughters first and thought I would try one more time for a boy and low and behold the good Lord seen fit to send me one. Now my grandchildren sorts alternated...grandaughter, grandson,grandaughter,gramdson and finally my littlest which is a grandaughter. flutterby
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi Flutter :) I think abuse in all forms is atrocious, but most especially, the abuse of a baby or a child! It is interesting how your grandchildren are alternate gender all the way through. If there is another, do you think it will be a boy? :) Karen
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@dpk262006 (54659)
• Delhi, India
7 Jul 09
Hello! Kraen! Are you going to keep the record of family details of your dear friends here . For the sake of your record, I've two kids and no grandchildren as yet........!! I am happy with two kids.
• United States
7 Jul 09
LOL, hi Deepak. What a wonderful idea. Yes I will be the record, but only in my mind :D I think it is wonderful that you are happy with your family. Our children, our families, are such a large and important part of life for most...a blessing. Karen
@dpk262006 (54659)
• Delhi, India
8 Jul 09
Hopefully, after receiving so many responses, you are updating your record. Yes, you are right, our family is foremost important to us and we revolve around our family.
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• United States
9 Jul 09
Hello my friend. Oh yes, it is most definitely updated in the "journal" of my mind :) I am glad you have your two children and are happy with that! Your family seems to have been blessed with much love. Karen
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• India
31 Jul 09
Our children - We wish to have one more grand-son from our daughter
Hello my dear friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, Well, we both (myself and my hubby), have first two sons and lastly a daughter and both of our sons have a male and a female child, except that our daughter has only my grand-daughter, we always wish if God gifts her a son, our all desires to have all children and grand children will be over. But nothing is in our hand. We always have strong belief, if God wishes. May god bless You and have a great time.
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• United States
31 Jul 09
Hello my friend. Isn't it just perfect to be blessed with children AND grandchildren? I truly believe they are the best gifts to us in the universe from God above. Enjoy your evening....and your beautiful family. Karen
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• India
1 Aug 09
Hello my dear friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, You are absoluitely right. But human beings always have some desires and I am no exception. We expect certain thing and hang around till it is full-filled. May god bless You and have a great time.
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• United States
12 Sep 09
I had not actually thought of it in those terms, but you make a great deal of sense, so I learned a new way to look at a thing....thank you! Karen
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@winzheng (74)
• China
6 Jul 09
You are great, admired, each couple in the city only permit have one baby according to the Birth Control Policy in China. 5555...
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• United States
6 Jul 09
Hello Winzheng. I have heard of that law and I am curious to know...what if a woman has twins or triplets? Surely, it has to be okay to keep them all, yes? I feel bad for people who are limited that way. As long as one can take proper care of them, it should be okay to have more than one child. My best wishes to you. Karen
• China
6 Jul 09
Hi,peaceful. Twins and triplets are exempt from the One-Child Policy. Under Chinese law they are counted as one child. I want to have twins, one boy one girl -- This is my dream. Wishes it can come ture.
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• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi Winzheng, I hope that dream comes true for you! My parents had two sets of twins, a boy and a girl, each time, so you never know :) Karen
@yugasini (12814)
• Anantapur, India
6 Jul 09
hi karen, at present i have two sons,till now marriages are not done?
• United States
6 Jul 09
Hi Yugasini. I am happy that you have your sons. I believe that children are one of God's greatest gifts to us. I love being a mother and a grandmother, as well :) Karen
@yugasini (12814)
• Anantapur, India
6 Jul 09
hi karen, thanks for the comment, good day
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• United States
7 Jul 09
You have a good day, too, Yuga. :)
@haiershen (1084)
• China
7 Sep 09
i'm not married now, if i can afford, i want to have two children, one is a son, and the second is a daughter, but considered the government policy, we only can be have one child, so that no matter a son or a daughter is both ok, i will love him/her very well, good luck and have a nice day!
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• United States
12 Sep 09
Hi Haiershen. Such a beautiful wish you have. I think I would pray to have twins, a boy and a girl! And then your wish comes true, and even the government cannot argue with God's will. Best of all wishes to you. Karen
@Harley009 (1420)
• India
29 Dec 09
haiershen, what if you have a second child? what govt. gonna do? will they kill? or any punishment or anything like that?
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
6 Jan 10
hi peaceful, I have 4 daughters and 2 grandchildren. I was content for 8 years with my oldest daughter who is now 32. And then I re-married and even tho I was on birth control, I found myself pregnant one right after the other with my next 2 daughters. A surprise to be sure but a beautiful surprise. And then lo and behold, a few years later....another little surprise. Not the best timing in my life but what a blessing she has been. I can't imagine my life without any of them. And my grandchildren...oh how much they have added to our lives!
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• United States
9 Jan 10
Hi Sid. The surprises I feel that God fully intends :) My last child was my surprise, as like you, I was on birth control and my youngest of two daughters was 5. But also like you, she has been a joy. I'd trade none of them :)) Karen
@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
i want 3 kids..
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• United States
26 Jul 09
Hello Phayeth. Three is a wonderful number, and as it turns out, that is what I had...three beautiful daughters, all now young women : ) Karen
@a_manick (880)
• India
14 Jul 09
i have two smart boys,who always asks me very difficult questions and do unbelievable naughty things.I think its enough to have two kids these days as it is difficult to manage them if there is more than two in all aspects.
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• United States
26 Jul 09
Aww, they will hopefully outgrow this. I do believe that parenting is the most difficult job in the world, but it has also been the most rewarding one for me : ) Karen
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
13 Jul 09
Hello friend, I am not married yet. I am 24 and will get married somewhere in the next five years. I would like to have two children, a girl and a boy. I feel it gives great balance to the family and it is a complete family. You really are so blessed to have eight wonderful grandchildren. I just love kids and would stop by at the supermarket to play with any toddler that has come there with its parents.
• United States
13 Jul 09
Hi Jsh...I hope your dream of having such a family comes true. And yes, children and grandchildren, to me, are life's greatest blessings. I, too, love children. So innocent and curious, so precious! Karen
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
13 Jul 09
You are very blessed! I have a two year old daughter and am expecting a son any day now. My husband and I originally wanted a bunch of kids, at least 4. But this second pregnancy has been really tough on me and to top it off I am eight days overdue! So, my husband says he is done now that he has his son and daughter. We will see though, only time will tell if we're going to decide on more or leave it with our two.
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• United States
13 Jul 09
Thank you, and yes I am :) Congratulations on your own family, but I am sorry you've had such a difficult pregnancy. And it is never fun to go past your due date! I hope all goes well with it. Take care and let us know when your son arrives :) Karen
@cwachid (160)
• Indonesia
11 Jul 09
I have two kids - daughter and son. Me and my wife is plan to have more child. Because I am very busy to travel aboard, we are just ignored. Until now, It is just a plan since my kids already growth and my wife very busy to takecare. There is no other reason for me to added a child. I am really happy with daughter since she is really closed to me. I just feel blessed too... :)
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• United States
11 Jul 09
H Cwachid. It is good to know you and your wife took into account your busy lives while planning your family. Two kids are a blessing, and you seem to love them very much. I am glad you and your daughter have a close relationship. : ) Karen
@silverglint (2001)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
I actually wanted only two kids, with the hope that they will be one boy and one girl. But since I gave birth to two boys, I might consider having another one, hopefully she will finally be a girl. If I still give birth to another boy then I will stop there, I don't want to give birth to too many kids because I kept hoping to have a girl.
• United States
10 Jul 09
Hello Silver. I hope you get your little girl, but yes, one cannot keep having babies in the hope for a particular gender. That might only mean they end up with 12 boys and still no daughter lol. Best of all wishes to you. Karen
• United States
8 Jul 09
After 5 years of trying I have a wonderful miracle little man who is 14 months. I would love to have another one but not sure if it is in my future.
• United States
8 Jul 09
Aw, Dawn...congratulations on your beautiful little miracle man. And who knows what may lie ahead in the furture? :) I am glad you have him, and hope you may have another, as well. Children are precious. Karen
@dmrone (751)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi! I have 7 children and 3 grandchildren ( with another on the way ). I have 3 sons and 4 daughters. 2 grandsons, and 1 granddaughter. The children range in age from 23 to 11. I truly have been blessed and i am proud of each and every one of them.
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• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi Dmrone. I am from a large family. I hope your children enjoy that experience as much as I did. Congratulations on your beautiful children and also those grandchildren. Grandchildren are as wonderful to us as our own children are :)) Karen
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
7 Jul 09
If I could afford it I would love to have 4 kids total. Right now I have 2 beautiful little girls. We are on the fence about another one. I know if we wait too much longer I will start to enjoy the little bit of freedom I will start getting like going to the potty by myself again. We will see after this year.
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• United States
7 Jul 09
I love your statement about going to the potty alone. I once read a thing called "A Mother's Prayer." It goes: Please dear God, just this once, let me poop in peace. lol I am glad you love your kiddos. Karen
@mzj033y (185)
• United States
6 Jul 09
I want to have three children, two girls and one boy. That would be my perfect for me. I know it's a bit unequal because the two girls could play with each other but the boy won't have a partner. Well, he can play with his dad. *^_^ Anyway, I hope that in the future I would be a great mommy.
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• United States
7 Jul 09
Hi Mzj ... I loved having three children...all girls. It was fine, though one boy would have been good too, or however many lol. I think if you love children now and truly want your own one day, you'll be a good mom. :) Karen
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
i was supposed to have two but i had a miscarriage with my second. so now, i only have one daughter who is now married, and one granddaughter. i would have loved to have 3 children or 4. thank you for asking. ann
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• United States
6 Jul 09
Hi Ann. I am sorry about your miscarriage. I am, however, happy that you have your daughter and your granddaughter. Aren't they such a blessing? :) Karen
• United States
6 Jul 09
I have a nearly-5 year old girl and a 17 month old boy, and we're done having children. We only wanted two, so we're very happy. Never day never though!
• United States
6 Jul 09
Hi Suze. How sweet to have one of each gender, but yes, never say never! Many of us have gotten "surprise packages" after we thought we were done having children, but adore them all the same : ) Karen