Tried to help someone out. Had it blow up in my face. Lost $200.00.

@cripfemme (7718)
United States
July 7, 2009 4:56pm CST
As many of you know, yesterday was the day when my friend was supposed to be coming here from Tennessee. He has low vision which is not that big of a deal on the disability spectrum. I tried to arrange for him to have meeters at every major layover but my Atlanta meeter got sick and was under doctor's orders not to leave her house. He freaked out in Atlanta because he lost his ticket and called his mom who came to get him. Logically, he should have called me. I was his (as we call it) "operator". If anything goes wrong, you call the operator. I would have simply re-bought him a ticket. I'd have been pissed but I'd have done it. So now he's back home and realizing that all his parents promises about life being different are exactly (in my opinion based on my observations this afternoon) a bunch of lies. I have a feeling that pretty soon he's going say get me out of here. I don't know if I'm prepared to drop him another $200.00 to have him freak out again. If he does it twice, I'm done. At least, that's what I say now. But, then again, I'm not to good at being done with things I should be done with. I've been done with my ex on 17 separate occasions and that hasn't stuck yet. What would you all do? Would you help again? I really need some advice here.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jul 09
If it were a good friend and if I had the $200, I'd do it, this time making sure he had clear instructions on who to call and what to do if something goes wrong. PS I've been done quite a few times myself. How do you make yourself really be DONE with somebody?
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
8 Jul 09
Knowing me, if I had the money...I'd do it becuz I am not much different than you when it comes to things like that. How well do you know this guy? I hesitate in telling you to even do this twice. Please promise you would not do it a 3rd time. I'm sorry...don't know your whole story. I'm not sure that you should pay twice. Maybe if he wants to see you bad enough, he will come up with the money.?????
• United States
8 Jul 09
Thats a good question. Being that he has bad eyesight I would feel sorry for him and try to do everything I could to help him out when he wants to fly but if he keeps messing up and not doing the right thing I dont think that I would give him anymore money until he either repays me back or can prove to me that he is responsible enough.
@devideddi (1437)
• United States
7 Jul 09
no don't help him again. Not only did he freak out but he did not stick to the plan. I'm sure that situation took alot of careful planning and he should appreciate that. Maybe his mom should have been involved a little more or at least on board. That way she could have reminded him of the plan and advised him to check with the operator (you) now that he is out on his adventure. And dont mind me saying that there has got to be some reason for those 17 times/breakups! Don't let people walk all over you, you are an individual,a special one I have a feeling and you deserve to be treated as such. Good Luck
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Well it takes a brave person to travel through unknown places with bad vision, I was told by a doctor that I have low vision on my left eye and am legally blind on my right, yet I am here reading and making faces at the computer monitor in order to read. I have taken buses and trains to places I have never been before, I never had the luxury of calling mom for help, but if your friend does more power to him. My advice is that if he is like that, and if you want to help him the way to do it is to go where he is and bring him yourself, it it means that much to you. Otherwise you do not know if he will make you lose money again because he can't take the stress of travel with his eye condition.