Have you been IN LOVE with your FRIEND?

Philippines
July 8, 2009 1:52am CST
I got this feeling, several times but "Is it Love" or is it just something because you are too close to each other? closeness between friends often time been misinterpreted by other people or maybe by our own selves, into LOVE.
7 responses
@stmartin (157)
• Macedonia
8 Jul 09
Yes, once I have been in love with my (girl)friend. We weren't so close, but I still loved her. She knew that, and later we broke up and now we aren't even friends. There is difference between "too close to each other" and "love". If you are very close with your (boy) friend than it is because you are very good friends. And if you are too close with a girl, than it is love. That was the case with me. Regards.
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
Got your point. Have you tried being close to more than one of your friend and felt the same for both of them? The feeling of wanting them? Is it love?
@stmartin (157)
• Macedonia
8 Jul 09
Actually, good question. No, I have not been close with two or more (girl) friends. Probably, I get closer to girl when I like her, pretending to be her friend. :-)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Better try being close to another, you will have the same feeling for the other friend. Its hard to say it isn't love that you will feel for both of them when you are equally close to them. thanks.
@xiaouie15 (290)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
Yes, I have been. For me it is love..unconditional love. It's actually the best love that I've ever had.
@MissTina (124)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I would have to completely agree with you on that! When we were falling in love with each other it was just so calm and natural it has made the whole relationship easier!
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Its the best love i agree but isn't it easy to fade, especially when you come to realize that the someone is better than he or she is then suddenly of wanting your guy to be like the other person?
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
it depends .. it can be love or not.. but as much as i can say.. i feel the same way when i meet wih my girlfriend..and now we're happy couple
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Congrats! I know someone, mistaken a closeness into love. My friend wife is his college friend and classmate, they got married after she graduated, months after, he realized that he's not in love with her. They are still together for more than a decade now also he's with his other woman for a decade too. Thanks for the comment.
@MissTina (124)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I thought the opposite in my situation. I dated my now boyfriend while in high school. After we broke up then we stayed very close friends, I did not think I had any more feelings for him or that I loved him as anything more than a close friend, but as soon as I was single two years ago he confessed to me that he had always loved me and wanted to be with me. I realized then that I was in love with him. I think it is very hard to judge the levels of love when you are extremely close with another person!
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
I can say it is "LOVE" he felt for you. You're right, many people mistaken the closeness into love. A person can feel something special to you and can also feel special to the other when he/she is also extremely close to other man or woman. Thanks for your comment.
• India
8 Jul 09
When we are close to a particular friend there is love in between us for sure cause if there is no love then we cant be close sharing each and every bit of our life. But Love is in differnt forms .Love can be that care and affection that is present between a brother and a sister,concern for the other is another form of love. A girl and a boy being friends need not be only one kind of love in which ultimately they want to marry each other. It can be a relation in which there might be no such intentions a pure friendship like how 2 normal male / female friends are. Each one should know or try to learn as how important is the other person in their life , if without him/her can he/she spend the rest of the life or not... that could give an answer to the question 'Is it Love'.
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
The consequence is that most people mistaken that feeling into love and rushly make decision to marriage. Time comes that they meet other persons and lately realize that this new person is the one that they truly love. ThAnks.
@lealuvy2j (1989)
• Philippines
8 Jul 09
Yes. Actually, my falling in love with a friend worked out for me because my boyfriend now is my friend. I'm so happy and in love. :) However, being in love with a friend can also be one of the most painful things to ever experience especially when you're not sure if He/She feels the same way for you. You really need to evaluate your feelings first because sometimes the best of friends don't make the best of lovers. If you get jealous of other girls/guys flirting with your friend, that could be a sign that you are developing feelings for your friend. Good Luck. :)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Agree. it can be painful but it heals fast. I can say that its the big difference from a love that has been developed by being close and friend at first than love that grows in an instant.
• India
8 Jul 09
s its true when we come with them closely we may fall in love.. its just an usual thing..but we have to be careful in this situation....