have you experienced attending wake for the dead? what did you observed?

@ckyera (17261)
Philippines
July 8, 2009 11:08am CST
here in the Philippines, usually when we lost a loved one, we usually have a 3 days- 1 week wake for them, on those days usually families of the dead offer a prayer for their loved one, also during those days friends and relatives are going there to mourn with the family and gives sympathy! last week i attended the wake for a friend's father...there's a lot of people there and they are doing different things...some are offering a prayer, some are gambling outside, some are playing board games and have some fun maybe to kill the boredom and fight sleepiness, coffees and biscuits are flooding... now, i come to think of it, if this way of attending a wake is okay while we all know that the family of the dead is mourning? is this also how wakes in your place are going? or have you noticed these kinds of activities during wakes? can you please share if you have experienced attending wakes and burials and how was it? thanks and have a nice day!
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@Wismay (2038)
• India
9 Jul 09
I lost dad a fortnight back and relatives and other people were there. Though we don't observe Wake as you mentioned, but still when people gather they do something like as you have explained. I was just observing all of them and some were chatting and laughing and some were sympathizing. I felt a bit strange. May be it depends on how a person thinks and so he behaves. But I couldn't sleep at all and even now I can't sleep properly and will be awake till 3am to 4am. Anyways, regards! Happy mylotting!
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
These all the same in the other place usually because this is one of our customs and traditions...you can't take this away because this tradition is like a legacy that pass on and on by generations coming in...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
yes i agree...
@aseretdd (13709)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
I attended the wake of my friend in Iloilo last June... and i was very much the same with other wakes in provinces... gambling and prayers go side by side... and there is an overflow of coffee, food, biscuits, and dried watermelon/melon seeds... this is like the accepted custom in the Philippines...
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
well i think this is really common in all places here in the Philippines...its just something that i do not really understand, how can gambling and prayers can go side by side! hehehe thanks for sharing!
@yugasini (12815)
• Anantapur, India
9 Jul 09
hi ckyera, your way of treating the friends and relations on the ceremonies is good
@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
9 Jul 09
thanks yugasini for response...
• United States
8 Jul 09
In the US it depends on the culture you live by. We just lost our mother in Feb, the wake/memorial was only for one day. We built Picture boards to show the life of the family and her ten children as the grew up to the adults they are today. Then in August we are going to travel to where our father is buried, my mothers first husband and will be burying her ashes there with him. That will only last a couple of hours at the most. The day of my Mom's memorial, family, relatives, and friends came to pay thier respects to my mother. It wasn't anything long and drawn out. I have been to some wake's that lasted for 3 or more days, that is difficult on the family to have to be there for those days. Long days, taking time off of work is hard for some jobs. We felt that for my mom it was best the way we worked it out, for everyone.