do you often talk back to your mother?

China
July 9, 2009 3:14am CST
i am almost 30 years,i feel very ashamed i just learn to respect my mother during several monthes,may be it's too late for me to realize it.i often shout at her impatient when my mood was not good,i have ever made her cry loudly in front of me,but i know she often weeped behind my back for my temper.but for now i found i really grow up,i have told myself not to agrue with her and never talk back to her no longer.i have come to learn how to respect her,actually i have done it.i know the debt i owed her could never be paid,but i will try my best to kind to her. so as a daugher,do you often talk back to your mother as me or you have grown up more early than me?
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9 responses
@PeacefulWmn9 (10424)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Hello Chingmerry. No, in the days when I was young, one just did not talk back or sass parents. It just wasn't considered in most families. Now, my mother is 86 yrs. old, and I still admire her so much. She and my dad did so well with 8 of us. The important thing for you to remember is that now you are determined to treat your mother always with respect. Do not look back, but ahead, and be happy of how much you have grown Karen
• China
10 Jul 09
thank you Karen,i also didn't see my mother has any disrespectful to my grandma,so what you said just what i am doing right now,go ahead and never makes her upset.
• United States
10 Jul 09
That is a vow of which you can be very proud! :)
@emilie2300 (1892)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I did when I was younger I am 32 years old now. I was disrepectful to my parents when I was younger. Now that I am grown up If I could do it all over again I would change my ways I acted towards Mom and Dad. I have a lot of respect for them and Love them very much.
• China
10 Jul 09
i am glad to hear your respond,i really have grown up,i never allow me to disrepect to my mother again,i will learn from you.
• United States
17 Jul 09
We learn from each other. I just hope my 13 year old daughter wakes up and realizes what she is doing. She is acting just like I used to when I was younger and very disrespectful towards me and everyone. I had her through counseling and now we are in a wrap around services where therapy comes to the home twice a week. Have a good day..
@Wizzywig (7859)
9 Jul 09
I'm sure that there were times when I snapped at my mum and argued with her but, mostly we've been fiends. We dont agree on everything but we're always there for each other and have never had a major fall-out. Best wishes toyou and your mother
@Wizzywig (7859)
9 Jul 09
Ooops! I mean FRIENDS... that was a typo
• China
10 Jul 09
actually i and mother also are friend as you,but i would snap at her when she has some fantastic idea,but for now i have come to learn how to get along with her and wouldn't makes her cry againg.thanks for your share.
@williamjisir (22905)
• China
9 Jul 09
Hello chingmerry. I never talk back to my dear mother. I love and respect my mother so much. I have been an obedient child of my mother ever since I was young. I don't want to make my mother feel upset. Instead I manage to make her feel happy. But I did talk back to my father when I was young, absolutely not to my mother. I think that the main reason why I talked to my father as a child was because my father always wanted us children to obey him. hehehe. But of course, that was when I was young only, not when I grew up into an adult. Now I respect my father as much as I do to my mother. Take care.
• China
9 Jul 09
i can't help laughing out when i see your post,it is proved that daughter are closer to father and son are closer to mum.i also want to say that i will respect my mother as much as i do to my father in the future.
• China
9 Jul 09
hehe, I agree with you on this point that it is true on my side.
10 Jul 09
I always argue with my parents and talk back to them but only because they dont talk to me like an adult. They are rude to me so I am just rude back but I am never rude to my mum unless she does something for me to be rude to her but then again i am still a teenager and I hope I can try to get past that stage of me and my parents hating each other. Hopefully when I move out things will get much better or maybe not.
• China
11 Jul 09
i was very rebellious when i was teenager especially 15-18,as i look back now i found my mother was suffered when i was during the rebellious times.fortunately,i understood her when i was growing up,so i think you aslo would feel their will-meaning totally one day,so it is not a good way to escape or move out.
@airakumar (1555)
• India
10 Jul 09
No, I never did this, not even to my father. Whenever I feel they are not getting me, I try to make them understand calmly and quitely. Talking back always give bad result whether you are doing it with parents or children. There is no output. I love and respect my mother a lot. Even if I know she is shouting or behaving rudely, I just calm down and gradually I go to her, hug her and talk to her and ask her if things are wrong. May be its my habit that I am with now.
• China
11 Jul 09
what a good habit and temper you have,i have to learn from you that make them understand calmly and quitely.you must be a very good guy,thanks for your share.
@pxm204192 (160)
• China
10 Jul 09
it is no polite to your mother, as a mother, she is respected even for the surface respect.but, it is the good thing to you realize the most important to respect your mother,but i think of such this as your cultivation of your own, this cultivation should be train day by day, step by step, you should scold yourselves, perhapps, this is the natural step to realize for your knowledge.perhapps, you are so annoyed for the outside things. secondly, the people all have this grow-up processdures, just your knowledgment and latter, you should do your best to kind to your mother, she should be respected for you. in the course of the grow up process, the people always have a anti-heart in their psychological mind to their parent. not just for you, but you nowdays have a reaization of not correct behavior, please do the correct thing right way!!!!
• China
10 Jul 09
thanks for your reminding,i have been aware of my wrong,i will respect her even for the surface respect.
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
sometimes i did it too but i am only doing it to reason out..but then, after that, i ask for sorry. i really love my mother that even if she didn't get my point why i talk back to her sometimes, i will be the one to vow my head down and accept her reasons..i can't afford seeing my mom crying in front of me and especially if it's because of me. i am the type of a daughter that is willing to sacrifice just for the good of my mom.i always say to others, "don't ever let me hear that you're talking to my mom in unrespectful way or else, i will be your enemy... for me, we have the right to talk back to our parents only if we have a big and reasonable point on doing it because not all the time that they are right ...sometimes they are too perfectionist telling us that they are doing it for our own good without knowing that they cross our private life and that sometimes, what they are doing hurts us...
• China
10 Jul 09
all that they have done is good for us even if they are cross our private life,actually they are only a person who really would care about me in the world,all their mind focus on me.i think i would know it totally when i have my own child,thanks for your share.
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Even if you don't agree with your mother it's a good thing to show her respect. Mothers give their lives for their children and it is very hurtful when children are ungrateful or hateful. Some people will even talk down to their mother or yell at their mother because it makes them feel important. This is a very sad situation. Mother will some day not be there, and regrets are not a good thing to have when that day comes.
• China
10 Jul 09
i have been considering what you said at this time,so i feel very guilty for all my disrespect to her.thanks for your reminding which i should know it long long time ago.