Being told what to do! I want to punch them in the nose

Australia
July 10, 2009 12:38am CST
I seriously have enough of it! People telling you what to do. I'm sick of it. I just need to let my anger out. No one has the right to tell you what to do when you are an adult! The thing is that they PRESSURE you to do something just to make themselves happy and make them look good, and there is nothing in it for you! I apologise if this doesn't make sense but I'm really angry at the moment. What happens to you that makes you tick?
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14 responses
@Meljep (1668)
• United States
10 Jul 09
It's hard to take when people do things just to make themselves look good. It takes a mature person to see this though, and to realize how immature those people are. Unfortunately, during our adult lives we will always have people telling us what to do. It's our responsibility to respond properly. The easiest thing to do when someone tells you to do something you don't want to do is to say, "Thanks for your input and I'll think about that", then smile and do what YOU want to do. Good luck with this situation!
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
I would probably take a stuff and throw it off the wall or something like punching the door till my hand bleeds. you should at least wreck something to let go of that emotion, anger can be very destructive. with out you being aware of something. it's hard though being pressured at, but at least you get used to it in time...i know i did.kept whining as well.
• Canada
11 Jul 09
You are right. You should not have someone on your back telling you what to do when you are an adult. This can be an afflicting sort of abuse. Some people out there that had probably been raised improperly do not understand or conceive others boundaries. They are likely more exuberant characters, persuasive and pressuring a more submissive character. I don't know exactly what your situation is though, perhaps it is your parents, boyfriend, co-worker. But I do know that this sort of constant coercion is only about the person in control, they want control and they want to feel good.
• United States
10 Jul 09
Well, even as a child its the same way. I know like what it feels like. its annoying when people are like "If you do this, I'll do something for you in return" yeah ok. if I do it youll be like "SIKE" and run off. but I see your point.
@w33347 (11)
• Singapore
10 Jul 09
oh, i suppose u should give them the respect as they are still muc older than you. however, as a teenager, i do agree with you. i really hate people to tell me to do things that will only benefit them. but do think of the bright side sometimes, the reason why they ask you to do things the way they like as they do care about u
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
I'm the opposite of you. When I am angry i really am quiet and I don't talk to anyone. I will have a sharp looked eyes on you but still i would never speak a word,no harsh words or whatsoever. I am the opposite of a nagging wife. I don't nag my husband when I am angry but it makes him go nuts when I don't talk to him too. He will be like crazy and so repulsive at times when I do the silent treatment to him. Anyway just let go of that anger, it will not do us any good. Try to stay calm and think better before you regret what you have done.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
10 Jul 09
breath deep there pweety. Don't let anyone push you into doing anything at all that you do not want to unless they are paying your salary. Rather than get angry, stand your ground. If they continue to bug you then walk away.
@chi2nasrin (1103)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 09
I don't really listen to people who tell me what to do and how. Usually when somebody ask to do certain thing certain way, I always do the opposite one just to prove that they are wrong (eventhough most of the time they aren't :-p) . I like to do things my way. When you believe in your decision, just do it, regardless of what people might say. Else, yes, go ahead and punch them in the face!
@tundeemma (896)
• South Africa
10 Jul 09
you don't have to punch them on the face dear, just because you an adult does not mean you cannot listen to instructions again, it is ideal to listen to instructions no matter how hard it is to do so, everyone cannot be too big to be controlled though you don't have to do everything
@ucue2008 (926)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 09
Yes, I do agree with you, people have no right to tell you what you should and should not do (but this depending on circumstances), because there are things that we have to follow along even we don't like it. Once when I was 13, my friends told me to change the way I talk and walk, because its weird. Until now, I remember heer face and where she told me that. I cannot accept that. I'm not making up the way i talk and walk, its a born and I don't ask anybody attention. The way she said that make me felt really sad and make me lost my self confidence. I know then that people look at me weirdly, and at first I felt ssad, but then I realized, its my own prerogative and I don't cause any trouble to anyone. To peopel like this, I learn to be strong and have a strong attitude don't bother what people say. Its my life, so its my decision.
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
10 Jul 09
That's allright, mylot is one of tool to carry out the emotions when i'm angry, i will make silence, there is no use to shout at the people who tells you how to do their want, so silence and leave is the best way for me to make them stop grumbling until they said or starting to make a new calm converation with me (sign of an apologize)
@sjvenden27 (1850)
• United States
10 Jul 09
I do not like when people tell me what to do... In a lot of ways I do the exact opposite... not as much as I use to.. I would fight everyone on everything that they would say... The older I got I have realized two things; #1 everyone has an opinion and #2 no one is in my shoes to totally understand how I feel.. To sit there and judge me for a decision I make or did not make is on me.. I use to try to please everyone else, and do what ever they would say... In the end, I got angry with myself, because I did not do what made me feel happy.. In the end you have to be happy with you.. Granted if you go against what someone else says you may receive some flack.. or "I told you so".. if your decision turns out to be one that is not so great.. SO WHAT!! Life is full of decisions, and if you do not start now, making them for yourself it will be harder later in life.. Depending on someone else to make your decision for you... Believe me... Its easier to figure out the bumps in the road when you are younger... Granted many of the people that are telling you what to do; are older, may have been through a similar experience, but that is them.. not you.. BE YOU! BE HAPPY
@saw2207 (1363)
• United States
10 Jul 09
pweety_princess . . i too agree with what Cbeee and Mel had to say . . .bow out from them graciously .. and try to do it with a smile even though under it all you are steaming. .. for just remember that [b]anger is just one letter away from DANGER! [/b] Maybe these people dont realize that they are pressuring you to do something. . but no one can do that without your consent. . . so smile. . say thanks and walk away . oh yeah....and dont forget to breathe!!!
@cbeee3 (2064)
• India
10 Jul 09
Hey Princess I agree with what Meljep had to say. I get frustrated and angry too when people give unsolicited advice. The immediate thing that runs through my head is, "Dude/dudette, if I wanted advice, I would ask you for it.So please save your energy".But then I can't say that ofcourse. So I normally just smile and say, "Thanks for your advice." If I get super pissed at someone I smile and tell them that I am not in a mood to talk about that particular subject and it would be nice if we could talk about something else. Just relax, its no use getting super angry at people who give advice when you don't need it,coz your BP shoots up and they don't lose a thing.