my Bf is going through stress disorder help! & frequent emotional numbness

@whateva (786)
India
July 12, 2009 6:14am CST
the stress disorder is cous of all the problems that happened related to us ..and was none of our fault....and he always hided things to make me happy but now he kind of runs away from d facts concerning his trauma and sometimes turns emotionally numb when he is out of numbness things are worse his headaches..he needs therapist or a psychiatrist..but he is shouts n says leave me alone i dont need anything o anyone..m tired isnt dis much enough but he says he still loves me and doesnt want anything...and wants a break up so dat he doesnt build up any hope for me ..hurtin me in d end cous f his mental state... i want to help what to do
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6 responses
• United States
12 Jul 09
from the way it sounds, he may be trying to push you away on purpose. the best thing to do is tell him youre there for him no matter what, and if he wants to oush you away fine, but you still love him and youll still be there. let him know if he wants to try therapy youll go with him if not thats his choice. theres a phone number her can call called crisis link. its totally free and confidential, you dont even have to give them youre name and you can call 24/7. its 1-800-273-8255. He might just be embarrassed about it. i know my husband tried to divorce me the day before he deployed because he was scared i was gonna cheat and leave him while he was gone. i told him i wouldnt, im pregnant with his child, and no matter what he did i love him with every part of me and he had nothing to worry about. he was still mean up until a few hours before he left, but he knew i loved him, and he still does, and we could never be better. If he wants to push you away let him, but make it known to him you still care, and youre there every part of the way.
@whateva (786)
• India
12 Jul 09
damn..i dunno how to react i can cry i mean..you dont know you are really very helpfull to me right now..:'( yes i have already figured out dat he was doing it on purpose he has asked for break up n i agreed cous he told me his headaches when he thinks about past relationship problems n its deadly so i think if i give him my best as a best friend would dat b helpful? and uh? how much tym can it take if i take care f him in a right way though we r not in contact much cous f our parents but we meet in collg so:|
@whateva (786)
• India
12 Jul 09
n dat no. its free even if i call er from india right gr8
• United States
13 Jul 09
He may not feel that he wants you right now, but if he gets on the rightsmedication, then you can be waiting for him. Only he can do it.
@whateva (786)
• India
13 Jul 09
yeah but he is not ready for any kind of medication and forcing him will only lead to worse conditions(its not like i havent tried,tried a billion times)
@subha12 (18453)
• India
13 Jul 09
I think he needs medical attention. Your support is also very much needed. try to take away stress and root cause from him.It will help. best of luck.
@whateva (786)
• India
13 Jul 09
ohkz i will for sure....but you know he just runs away from d fact dat has happened n doesnt wnt to repeat anythin related to event and when it comes to me ...he kinda tries to runaway frm me too sumtymx as d event ws more f related to me..so dis is d worst yu knw...but dez things wont stop me frm supportin him
• United States
12 Jul 09
yeah its free from everywhere, and theyre always there for you. It might take him a while to get better. I know it took me a year or so to start feeling even remotely better, but if you stay by his side even as a friend, he'll know youre there for him and you wont leave him, itll basically build his trust and know youre not like those past relationships hes had, and when hes ready he'll come back to you. he just needs to wake up and see youre not going to hurt him.
@whateva (786)
• India
12 Jul 09
:O oh .. so now i wont panic much :D thanx ..i feel alot better now
• United States
12 Jul 09
I used to go through that. I let everything build up to the point i started having horrible panic attacks, and eventually i felt like my whole body was numb. I could pinch and scratch myself and feel it, but when i was just sitting there, i couldnt feel anything. My regular family doctor put me on an antidepressant called lexapro to get me through it, and it worked, but the side effects were horrible. So i started seeing a therapist, and i feel a lot better now. I dont take the antidepressants anymore, and my therapist said i never needed them in the first place. I couldnt even leave my house before i was so bad! and my relationships just wouldnt work, but now im okay. He said i just needed someone to vent to, that would keep everything in confidence. Talking helps a lot, tell your boyfriend that youre there for him, and if he wants to vent to you he can, he should know youre a good person to talk to, and no matter what it is youre there for him, and will help him the best he can. all you can do is be there for him right now, and hope for the best.
@whateva (786)
• India
12 Jul 09
..i get it...m doing dat n m no more forcing him so...i dont know how much tym it'll take ? any advide frm yu people would b helpful so pls keep posting.. n i have told him m der but he says he doesnt need to share anything just leave me alone what do i do?
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
6 Oct 10
Well, sometimes its unavoidable that we feel depressed for the day..but for the health its not a good side, i believe in Meditation which will balance our mind and helps to be normal at situations. Above medications your love can change him a lot