My niece hates her teacher!

Philippines
July 14, 2009 4:51am CST
My seven year old niece who is in Grade 2 level now really hates her teacher. Two days since the start of classes (it started last June 1, 2009), she already told her mom that her teacher is loud and strict. The teacher always scolds the class and it seems that my niece is so scared of her. Weeks after that, this niece of mine started telling her mom that she will no longer go to school and she cried everytime she go to school. This alarmed my sister and she made some efforts to talk with the teacher. Now, my niece no longer cries before going to school but still hates her teacher! Did this happen to your children?
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13 responses
@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
14 Jul 09
Hi Dori! I think it will be better and practical to talk to her teacher and it needs to be politely conveyed to the teacher that kids feel scared of her, therefore, she should mend her ways. If the teacher is not confronted or conveyed about her shortcomings, she may not change her behaviour.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
You are right! Telling the teacher that one of her pupils is scared of her will most probably make the teacher realize that there is something wrong with her attitude. It's her call to change such attitude. I hope the teacher will soon realize this. Thanks for commenting.
@dpk262006 (56484)
• Delhi, India
15 Jul 09
I hope this method works.
• India
15 Jul 09
Hi Dori & dpk No this will probably not work. Actually this type of teacher donot know how to get her students in her studies. They only know to make class VERY DISCIPLINED and STUDENTS SHOULD LISTEN to what she is saying WITHOUT making a noise or talk. They never change.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
14 Jul 09
Yeah we did have this with our kids. It was usually to one extreme or the other. They really liked the teacher(s) or had the opposite feelings. I made them go to school and try to deal with it. If it got that bad, I would make an appointment and go speak with the principal. Our kids did like school so they didn't give me much trouble about anything. When they entered high school, I found out many years later, they didn't go to school. Their grades didn't reflect it though. They had friends in the attendance office...lol One daughter in particular spent a lot of time in a public park with her friends. They were good kids but didn't want to go to school. Two of those friends are now teachers! Go figure. They all graduated and went to college. It all turned out fine.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Your kids were good enough to keep that as a secret from you. They used their intelligence not only in class but also how to skip classes. . .LOL Congratulations for having bright and wonderful children.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Yes, they were very good at keeping the fact they skipped school a secret. I am very fortunate to have such great kids. All educated and have good careers. They don't live at home either.....yippee!
@Hurray (65)
• Canada
15 Jul 09
hello; It happened to me when I was a kid in grade 4. Mean teacher. She liked to humiliate the children, throw books at them, yell at them. She had long red nails and when taking you up by her hands on your arm, she would leave nails marks on your skin. But in those days, teachers were regarded like they had that power and the children needed to be controlled. Which is one of the reason control had gotten a bad name. In fact it's not control at all. It's something else. That teacher shouldn't have been a teacher. She didn't like that life and acted like she didn't like children. Control is good when done right and usually once the children see it's not meant to harm them, they actually do better in that environment. In this instance, probably the teacher leaves your niece alone now but not some other children in the class and your niece is probably sensitive enough to care for how the others are treated. Children are usually decent beings. Let her say what happened so she can vent it out. Make sure that if she tells something she did that she should not have done, or not done something she should have done, not to scold her. Thank her for honestly have told it and see with her how she could have done otherwise without liability to herself or others. But, sometimes, fighting for decency and justice can be hard. But, she will feel better and do better at school. Also, write what she says with dates and as many details as possible. After a while, a copy of all of this should be sent to the director and to the teacher. She will need to be confronted, in the presence of the director, and asked if this is really the right environment for her as you expect children to come home happy from school and not stressed and in fear or in grief. My mother did jump in after a while and the teacher... well, two years later she was not around in that school anyway... Good luck, Hurray
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Hurray! Thanks for sharing with us your experience. It will definitely help my sister cope with this problem. I hope that my niece's teacher will not physically harm her pupils, otherwise she will end up being administatively or criminally charged for her actions. God Bless.
• United States
15 Jul 09
well since im only 16 i dont have children lol but ive had several teachers like that.... in 3rd grade my teacher was super strict at first but a month or two into it he loosened up and he was just like that so we would learn to work hard my 1st and 6th grade teachers kinda did that too so from my expirience this teacher should loosen up soon or if she doesnt, even though your niece is only in 2nd grade, this will really help her in the future even though it sucks now
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
It is really very traumatic to attend a class who has a very strict teacher. I just hope that my niece will learn to cope with it a bit. Thanks for responding.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
15 Jul 09
That is so sad that teachers sometimes feel like they need to scare the kids. And it only scares the ones who don't need to be scared, the trouble makers don't seem to care. I would suggest your sister go and talk to the teacher and tell her how upset her daughter is. Then I'd probably find some classmates mothers and see how their children are doing with this teacher. I wouldn't want your niece to start not liking school at such a young age.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
My sister already talked with the teacher and the latter mellowed down a bit. . . I hope my niece will stop hating her teacher.
@moon1688 (144)
• China
15 Jul 09
I have no children,but as i know.It is a good way to give all of the people the change to live freely. Children love to be free most!
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Children are supposed to enjoy their childhood. . . Fears should be out of their minds at this age.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
14 Jul 09
Hate translates into fear, Can her Mom take her on a special visit to see the teacher in a less formal setting? I remember being very scared of teachers, but I knew better than to tell my Mom, she was not very open to childhood fears. So I guess your niece is lucky to have a Mom she can talk to.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
it actually started from FEAR and then there was HATE. . . .It was good that my niece told her mom the real reason why she didn't want to go to school. At least my sister learned how to deal or solve the problem. My sister goes to school more often now and my niece is no longer absent from her class.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Primary school teachers should be more lovable rather than strict or a terror... because a child's attitude toward school or learning depends on them... it is a good thing that you sister went to the school to talk to that teacher... or else she would think that her method is a good one... My daughter is 3 years old... and she will start going to school next year... i hope she will not encounter such a teacher...
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
I certainly agree with you. Teachers in the elementary grades are supposed to be compassionate and lovable. Otherwise, children will be traumatized too. . . . Just like your daughter, my daughter will also go to school next year. Wishing you and me the luck that our daughters will not encounter "terror" teachers.
@bren_yrra (354)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
Yes it also happened to my daughter.I tried to find out the main concern and tried to resolve it with her.I also asked my sister to talk with the teacher since I can't go to school personally.Talking with my daughter and explaining her about the situation made her to realize why she needs still to go to school.I'm glad, may daughter finished the school year despite having such teacher.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
Hi Bren! It is really very difficult for the children to go to school if they dislike their teacher. I am so glad that your daughter was able to finish the school term even if she was under a teacher whom she doesn't like.
@suzzy3 (8357)
16 Jul 09
It is awful when the child hates their teacher,we used to have to like our teachers no choice.Maybe your niece is headstrong and cannot see why this woman is so strict.Perhaps the teacher is to strict,some go to far.The kids have certain ways they like to be treated and if someone steps over the mark they soon let you know.I expect the teacher will try harder to get along with her and get her to learn.Your sister did the right thing by talking to her teacher to discuss the problem.She has really come a long way by not crying everyday poor little thing.it must be awful to send them off everyday miserable.
@jobear90 (35)
• United States
16 Jul 09
As a teacher myself, I know there are times when one child and I may not get off to the right start and it makes for a difficult time for all involved. Since your sister has already made the effort to talk to the teacher, it is time to talk to the parents of the other students in the classroom. She should try to determine if it is a personality conflict or if the teacher is the issue. As 2nd graders the students can usually be honest and help to understand what is really going on in the classroom. Once your sister has this information she should go to the principal and advise him/her what is going on and what your sister has done to get this information. If things can not be resolved to everyone's satisfaction your sister should have the right to request that your niece be moved to another classroom where there would be a better fit. Please encourage your sister to not let this go on for too long, from experience it is the student who suffers and it isn't just for this school year. The early grades shape our attitudes for the rest of our school careers.
@yogambal_64 (1016)
• India
15 Jul 09
Hi, No this has not happened with my children. But I have seen kids hate some teachers for no reason. There must have been some incident that has affected her very badly, but she must have found out that there is no other way to escape from school and so unwillingly she has started going. Actually a teacher is supposed to deal very kindly and tactfully with each of her student and earn their love, instead if she is behaving like this she is not fit for this job. There are children who think teachers as their role model, they keep on saying at home "Ma am' has asked me to do this and that and follow only what teachers do rather than following what parents ask them to do.
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
The best way for the teacher to be disciplined is to have them exposed. the child should write about the things that her teacher do in the class every single day, and worst, probably have them secretly video recorded for that entire day. we did that here in the Philippines where a gay teacher is acting so....rude in front of the class. there was no escape, except that annoying lady who acts like her lawyer.