What do you do when you're upset?

Sleeping it over is a wise thing to do, specially when we are about to say something that we will regret later. But of course if we can talk calmly it is even better:) It is very good that you try to think before you react, and sometimes even after thinking we still need to let the person know how we feel.

Yeah, thats true.

yes, it often works like that. |Emotions can be strong.

Dear twin, I can see you jumping in to defend your children and our dear gissi. And since we are twins, you should know that that is my first impulse as well LOL It's incredible on how close we are even though we're so far away

Hi there Twin yes it amazing lol but from Day 1 we noticed how alike we are that is why we are Twins

I like walk solution as well. And like you I go for a walk when I just need to settle down a bit or want to think about something. Usually I go on a long walk with my dog, while I let the thoughts wander. Your route seems much nicer than mine, thought :)

Very well spoken. I am pretty much like that as well, although I have a bit of a habit of just dropping people instead of talking things out if they make a habit of doing unreasonable things that cause others to be upset. Life is too short to have to go around explaining everything to everyone, I think. But in a valued relationship, talking it out straight is better than simmering to be sure.

I do a variety of things but most importantly I take a time out before reacting. This way it keeps me from saying or doing something out of anger I would later regret and it gives me time to really see if what has caused me to be upset is worth my time being upset over anyway. I don't drink or smoke mainly because if I allow unhealthy habits to be my form of dealing with a situation, then the source of me being upset wins and I prefer to always be in control of such things. Finally, I never let a situation that has caused me to be upset go unresolved. When people upset you, sometimes we like for things to kind of blow over but down the road I guarantee you if it went unresolved, it will return. Always be assertive and speak your mind without guilt...that usually at least makes me feel somewhat better when I am upset rather than slamming doors, yelling and cussing, etc. Let the person know WHY you are upset.

sleeping on it works. I think we all do whatever works the best for us. Or sometimes, like me, what we can't stop doing LOL I wish I could stop getting into my little shell and let it out more with my family. But hey, maybe one day:)

Music works for me too, but only if I'm the one playing it. Reading also works in my case. I like the way you put it LOL it certainly is prettier :)

I like to eat my favorite food as well as listen music. and do not think about the unhappy things, then when i calm down, i will go to solve the problem. we always meet difficulties and upset things in our daily life, when studing, when work, so it is very important to find a better way for yourself to overcome it. hope we can live our life happier and better with good mood.

Yes, when I am upset I often get my guitar out. Music is indeed one of the things that really helps us relax.

Yes religion is something that can help people overcome difficulties. It should be ok to talk with a family member, friend, or hubby about what is worrying you. Maybe you can discuss together why you need to talk to him when something upsets you and find a formula that works. I know all about having another problem coming up even before the other one is even finished. It happens to me all the time.

There was a time when I avoided people each time I was upset. I didn't trust myself not to give a mean answer just because of my mood. I have grown since and I am able to separate things now which is great. I also don't hang on the bad stuff, and I tend to forget about it fast :)

I am all for communication. SO I agree that it is important to talk it out. I find that it is better to talk when it's not out of anger, so I tend to wait a bit, or at least breathe in and out before opening my mouth :):)

I also find coming here to be great in helping me forget any upset/ After a few minutes and some discussions I'm ready to ask myself: What was I so upset for ? - usually :)

Who doesn't hate it? It's not a positive feeling at all. Sometimes ignoring it, works. Sometimes a bit of communication is needed. I agree with you... coming to mylot usually distracts me enough to see things from another perspective:)

That's a much more mature option than throwing things around - although I have been known to throw a pillow or two LOL But You are dealing with your anger in a very positive way. Talking things over with a friend, not acting out before tinking a bit, that is very important. Great attitude, my friend.

Sleep sure can help. When we wake up the edge of the situation is kind of gone. Confronting can be good if we are doing it in a logical and rational way. But most often when people confront they are mostly using emotions and not calm enough. SO it's something that might or not work.

Yes, it's easy to see when my husband is upset as well. He can't really hide it. Myself I compartment it. If I"m with other people that have nothing to do with it, I am natural. It's not an effort, it's easy for me because they are not involved.

I never tried the watching tv aimlessly approach. It probably works :)

That sounds like something that would work with me as well. I'll have some coloring books around :)

I find that people tend to react to being upset in many different ways.I don't really think that there is a right or wrong. Just what works to each person.

Those are all good ways to deal with being upset. In any form. That's great:)

Reading works for me too.