DO all people put aside other peoples wishes for their own.?

@dloveli (4369)
United States
July 16, 2009 7:03am CST
Have you ever had an experience where you tell someone please dont do something and yet they do it anyway! My aunt is here from out of town. Everytime she comes to visit the family cringes. She butts in to family problems. She has health issues in the past which have turned her into a hyperchondriac. If you say something she doesnt like, she will use her health issues to stop the conversation. When shes satisfied that you're done talking she will call everyone and tell them nonchalantly what occurred. POOR AUNTIE...NOT! She and her 55 year old man shoplifts. and give the items to the family as gifts. I ask her not to give them to myself or my kids and she does anyways. I ask her not to tell my business and she does. Its ridiculous. My aunt comes to visit and by the time she leaves everyone is arguing about what they said about each other. Most importantly I nd the rest of the parents are now criminals for receiving stolen property. Anyone else feel as if their wishes are overlooked or not important? dl
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• United States
16 Jul 09
I know of two very distinctive women that fit that description almost to the t. One is a criminal, and the other..well, let's just say it this way, she does not care about anyone, or anything, except herself, and what she likes.
@dloveli (4369)
• United States
17 Jul 09
In my aunts case she thinks by doing these things she is looked upon as cool. She wants everyone to say how good or helpful she is. In all reality she is a big pain in the a*s! If you get my drift. Girl she is crazy. NOw she has custody of my cousins son. He is a little Brat(with a capital B) Every time people discipline him. She will make excuses for him. Last night I asked him to go play because adults were talking and he was all in our faces. The next thing I know she is grabbing his head saying he looks as if he is going to have a seizure. WHAT? SEIZURE? WHAT? I wanted to grab both of them and kick them down the stairs. I get so pissed! SHe is RIDICULOUS! I must go before I pull my hair out. lol dl
• United States
17 Jul 09
OUCH. I feel for you. Does she even know what cool is? You really have your hands full with that. Anytime, you need to talk, you know! I understand how it is, when you need to get it out, and hopefully find a solution to the problem.
@candy2306 (577)
• India
16 Jul 09
I'm sure not ALL put their wish aside for others? I can say some people do this for fun, and it all depends on the situation! Ciscumstances can make one to do that! Like saying the truth and putting other in awkward position. But if you look this way, you're not supposed to lie right?
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
17 Jul 09
she doesnt do it to be mean. She thinks its harmless. Little does she realize that not everyone sees things as she does. She thinks she is helping whomever has problems. You shouldnt interfere in other families problems. She tries to be cool with the young people. She literally will go into the kids in my family(daughters,sons, cousins etc) and take pictures from their myspace pages without asking. It got so bad that my daughter blocked her from her page. Tuff! dl
• India
17 Jul 09
wow...that's a lil TOO much.. did anyone of you tried talking to her before she makes more and more damage to families?
@jillhill (37383)
• United States
16 Jul 09
Sometimes! It goes in one ear and out the next! I think all of us have a relative like your auntie! Well maybe not the shoplifting kind but someone who can stir up trouble! I also had one like that...she is gone now.....don't miss her one bit either! I know that's horrible to say!
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
17 Jul 09
It isnt horrible that you dont miss them.I bet you are much happier being left out of the mix. I know that I had a family meeting last night and everybody agreed that she isnt doing any good by visiting. She is supposed to be here helping my grandmother, her mother, who has alzheimers. She sleeps till 2 pm everyday. THen her and her husband get up eat and go fishing. After that they go steal at Walmart and then she goes home and takes her medication. WHat help is she really being? Besides that they're two extra mouths to feed. Big mouths at that. You are absolutely right! Thanks dl
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
16 Jul 09
I have always been the type of person to put everyone ele's needs in front of my own. I have actually never had anyone do that for me though without me having to ask for it first.
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@dloveli (4369)
• United States
17 Jul 09
The sad part is that I never ask them for anything. Its as if I dont exist to them. The reason being is that I tell it like it is. They come here and every time its always some kind of messed up hassle. You should consider yourself lucky. At least you dont have to go thru the he said she said mess. My aunt means well. She really does. Its just that the way she behaves when she doesnt like to be criticized. If you do, the next thing is she feels like she'll faint or a migraine headaches. SHe is a trip....dl
@Shery32 (424)
• Saudi Arabia
17 Jul 09
I think there are as many who put aside other peoples wishes for their own as those who put their wishes for other peoples wishes :) You might be the one who is given or the one who has been given It is a matter of how you look at things, if you like to start things for your own benefits or you are the type to do things for ppl then do them for your self.