You're very old, would you live in a nursing home or your family take you in?

United States
July 16, 2009 4:52pm CST
I was curious that when you are older, would you want to live in a nursing home or with your loved ones. Do you think your family would want to take care of you when you and if that would ever be a burden.
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@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I would prefer to die if I get really old. There is no reason then to keep on living if I cannot take care of myself. I would not want to be in a nursing home and if nobody in my family can take care of me then I would just wait for me to die on some mountain top like the Indians.
@gicolet (1704)
• United States
17 Jul 09
I don't want to be a burden to my children although I know that they would be willing to take care of me if they could. They will have their own busy lives to take care of by then and I understand that. Although I don't want to be taken in a nursing home because I've heard of horror stories (stealing patient's personal stuff, yelling at them, and even beating them up!) I don't think I have a choice but I wish i could just have personal nurse to take care of me at the comfort of my own home. This is a sad thing to imagine... :(
@kcoregon (303)
• United States
16 Jul 09
If I can't care for myself any longer I would hope that I would just die. I don't want to burden my children and if I made it to old age and can't take care of myself any longer I will look for a nursing home. Though I don't ever want to end up in one.
• United States
16 Jul 09
well i heard that some nursing homes are great. you get your own room and friends and a swimming pool. its like having a real life. and people come to check on you. and families come and visit you. so if i'm in a nursing home like that sure. but if all i can afford is a not nice one. i want my family to take care of me if its not that much of a bother and my grandma is like 82 and shes not in a nursing home and has friends still. so maybe i could live like her.
• United States
16 Jul 09
I used to dread the nursing home. Now I am staying in one! My son had a wreck and is recovering and I am staying with him... you know it's not too bad! (even though I am too young to be here!) I watch the older people though. They go to bed when they want to, watch tv when they feel like it and go walking if they so desire. There are a variety of activities available most days which they can partake in if they so desire. They can socialize and eat with others like them! It really isn't too bad!
• United States
16 Jul 09
Well, if i were really old and those were my choices, i really dont think i would want to do either. I would much rather live on my own, even if i were alone, that would be alright. I dont like being a burden on people, and ive heard horrible things about nursing homes. I mean, there is this one nursing home down the street from me thats super big, and it looks like a really nice hotel you would live in, and they even have little houses around it and its gated so that the old people can still live in their own little house if they want to. Im sure that place is way expensive though. I would probably try and live in my own house until i die if thats possible.
@Rodlkm (123)
• Malaysia
16 Jul 09
Interesting question. I have never given much thought though. It is our culture to take care of our parents when they are old. However, for me, I am not sure whether I will end up to be burden to my child or that he would have me willingly rather than just to fulfill an obligation. On the other hand, I am also not too sure whether I would want to be in a nursing home. I guess it's time for me to do some serious thinking and planning. It would be good if I could have tonnes of money, stayed in my very own home with my lovely wife and employ someone to take care of us.
@lelin1123 (15644)
• Puerto Rico
16 Jul 09
Funny I asked my daughter this question not to long ago and my daughter says she would take me in. She would not want me living in a home. Isn't that nice of her?