Being single or being married

@HelScream (2828)
Philippines
July 16, 2009 11:23pm CST
ok now this discussion is quite common but want to know from your personal point of view how you look at it individually if you where to choose which gives you lots benefits and which stage of life would you rather be and why is it being single or being married.... an honest opinion backed up with your personal reason would really be a great help to the individual who is yet to take the next step in life thanks ....
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@ShibbyKid (279)
• United States
17 Jul 09
I feel you should really choose that answer yourself, but i would love to be married over being single. I would like to wake up in my lovers arms knowing that we would last forever more instead of waking up myself and being alone throughout the day. I would like someone with me to make me happy and laugh when i am about to cry. Have someone to do things with knowing they would be by my side no matter what it is. Choose wisely. It is your life.
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@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
yes my friend I already have chosen an answer but want to know from individual their choices on how they want to live there life if they are given the chance to turn back time...life does not promise full of happiness but even though I am willing to take that chance with the person I choose to be with for the rest of my life.
• United States
17 Jul 09
(: Good choice.
@sjvenden27 (1850)
• United States
17 Jul 09
Honestly I would prefer to married.. But I am not right now... lack of medical insurance if I was to get married right now.. But that is what I am use too... Got married when I was 17 and got divorced when I last September, wow its almost been a year.. True people have told me to not worry about it and not to push it, so I do not make the same mistakes that I did the first time around.. Well their is logic and there is the emotions of the heart.. Some base their decisions on one or the other; but when they are both the same.. The leap of faith is worth it.. Are you making the right decision to go to the next step my friend? Is this person the one that completes your life? The one that you want to wake up next to for the rest of time? Are you willing to accept her down falls, the way she is... and not just hope to change certain things about her over time?.. Believe me that does not happen, a person will only change if they are willing to do it for them self... Personal experience has taught me that; not something easy to accept but that is the truth.. Another question?? Is she willing to accept you for who you are, without trying to change who you are? Granted marriage does change a person... With somethings it is like over night; like they say in the movies.. But other things may change over time with life.. A marriage takes work to keep it flowing; do not want to say it is a job.. that's not the right words.. but if you do not work on it each and every day, the two of you can start going in different directions; until one day you look at your partner and see a totally different person.. Open communication, honesty, and compassion is needed in every relationship, especially marriage..
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I think you have grown into a very mature women my friend because of your past experienced... they are right take your time I know you are ready but wait for the right time coz this time I know you would not only use your heart but also use your logic... I am happy to hear this from you and to read from your reply I know the next time around would be much sweeter..... wishing you all the best my friend.
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• United States
17 Jul 09
Thank you very much
@Archie0 (4669)
17 Jul 09
It is your choice as it is your life. This is purely personal matter. Nobody can force anybody to remain single or married. It is your mental set up and your experience for some reason. It is you who have to decide about this. Whether you want to remain single or married - my best wishes. What ever it may be - be happy.
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@Bloggership (1118)
• Indonesia
17 Jul 09
Since i think the purposes of life include to be a mate for the opposite gender and become families, so i choose to be married and generates my self... However, being single or being married are still a personal decisions...
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
before i choose to be single for life but as time passes things change decision change and now I choose to be married one of this years
• Indonesia
18 Jul 09
Goodluck to you dude...
• United States
17 Jul 09
In my opinion I would rather be single than ever be married. My mother cheated on her husband which is my step dad but I consider him my dad because he has always been there for us children. She is now in the dating field and she is dating a man who is married himself! And now my step dad is also dating a married woman. Also at my job there are four people that I know of who are not being faithful to their marriage.So no one is faithful any more and I will never get married. This brings problems into my current relationship because he wants to get married and I don't because I am too afraid of him cheating on me so now he sees it as I don't trust him. Marriage is just problems all around if you ask me.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I respect your views on this my friend , I too was thinking like that before , I dont want to marry and choose to be single for the things I see around me is just not right but things changes decision in the past forgotten the moment I saw the person I want to be with for the rest of my life... things may not work out but I am willing to take that chance rather than not taking the chance at all ..... one of this days you will know what I mean
• United States
19 Jul 09
you know to be honest I never thought of it like that I guess it is better to take a chance and know what happens rather than not take the chance and never knows what they outcome may have been
@calyxus (827)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
It's still a personal choice. Maybe you're asking because you don't have a "special someone" right now. Forgive me, but I assume it is your personal dilemma. Anyway, if you won't be able to find somebody to share the rest of your life, then you might as well remain single. That simple. I mean, how could say I will get married if you don't have a partner, right? On the other hand, why remain single if you have a loving partner whom you could spend your lifetime with? I'm sorry but that is how I view it.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
you view it wrong my friend as for me I have special someone and we are planning to get married one of this day and making this discussion would somehow lighten up everyone's view on different stages of this life.I am asking individual members here to share there views on this not for my personal interest but for everyone's knowledge thanks
@calyxus (827)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
Ahh! So it's the other way around... LOL Anyway, congratulations to you guys, and best of luck on your wedding! happy mylotting!
@darksorrow (4671)
• Bangladesh
17 Jul 09
As for now i am would choose to be single because i am still not in to a job. But after i get a job i would like to be get married as soon as i can.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
whats the rush as long as you have forever then theres no rush good luck bro
• Bangladesh
17 Jul 09
Hmmmm. Well there are things you won't understand now bro. You are still a kid
@voldrox (7204)
• India
17 Jul 09
hi helscream, personally i would not like to stay alone, remaining single one can have lots of money and similar but what if you are not happy with your life, what is money when there is no happiness in life, i want to get married and lead a happy life as a nice family, and yeah i am lazy, i need someone to remind me of things( which my wife will help with)...lol...
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
i doubt that you would be lazy when the right person comes a long my friend the responsibility and all that stuff hahahhaha I too am thinking and behaving like that before but now I like the new me ... I am not yet married but I have find the one so it's as good as being married but not yet being together taking lots of giant steps now to be successful in every undertakings I do. good luck my lazy friend
@voldrox (7204)
• India
19 Jul 09
hmm... seems like someone is very lucky here
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
it depends on your priorities in life. if you enjoy being with friends often, well, partnered life is gonna be hard for you. im gonna show you tabbed reasons why you should pick that category so that you will be the one deciding for yourself. and just so u know, im currently single.haha SINGLE-life benefits: no curfew (unless your parents set you one) no restrictions on your manner of clothing (unless youre conservative) can go wherever you want without asking for someone's permission you can date two dates on the same day you can flirt (these are for those who are naturally born flirts, i consider myself one) you can have more time for personal solitude you can gain more time with your family more time for yourself more time for personal development MARRIED life benefits: you get to enjoy the comfort brought about by your partner as well as kids if you are gonna have a bunch you have a bestfriend and a lover in the form of your husband/wife. you have discipline, you are disciplined and you are disciplining you partner as well you have a partner to grow with you, physically, morally, psychologically and socially someone is there to hold you whenever your friends are out of reach you get to be more responsible you get to be selfless (it depends if you abuse that one) you get a discount from the government taxes coz ur married.haha you are secure because you know you are being loved by someone in a more special way ------------now these are just some of the most common benefits. as for me, currently im enjoying my life coz im independent. but of course, id like to be on that state someday where i am being comforted, loved and secured by someone. for now, married life is not my priority, but soon it will be.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
yes you are right about those my friend so funny though well for me I could still have the benefit of a single person even if I am already married but not all though it really depends on us , we are free but we choose not too for it is like an offering of devotion and loyalty towards our partner. If we want to be treated goo we have to treat them good too someday my friend someday or who knows it would be you first who is in line to get married I mean
@nehaagra (849)
• Singapore
17 Jul 09
So well written, i 'm really impressed. And i really like your attitude towards life, Happy as a bachelor, and can feel the happiness whenever you get married. As for me, myself a happily married person, enjoyed my life as a bachelor, and even after marriage has all my freedom(as far as spouse is concerened, do neeed to take care of kids....)
@coolsid2007 (1030)
• India
18 Jul 09
I would prefer being single, but would not stop dating of course. I do believe marraige brings out a lot in 2 people, but also think it does takes a lot out of 2 people. I mean, there are lot of sacrifices, adjustments and life altering changes that take place, sometimes for good and sometimes for not so good. As far as marraige is concerned, I believe I do not need one because I am open, I am friendly and I can stay alone all my life with all my hobbies and interests, i will find it difficult to give time to marraige.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
this is the things I say before and yeah you are right about that in a way my friend I also say this before like there is much to do in this life to enter such stage in life .... but tell you this when the right time comes it would give you a blast you will even find yourself in a shocked for the change of decision as they say there is always someone for everyone and when that time comes just be prepared ....
• United States
18 Jul 09
I prefer marraige. I never enjoyed dating and having that feeling of falling for someone but wondering how the other person REALLY felt. Only in marraige do people truly communicate and trust one another. I have been in long relationships that I thought would end in marraige and I have been in a relationship that is short lived. The longer the relationship the more it hurt when it ended. I have some happily married friends which has been a great example of how it can be, and I have some friends that should have never gotten married in the first place. With all I have seen and experienced I am still looking forward to walking down the isle making that committment to one blessed man.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
good for you my friend that right no matter what we see around us it should not affect our way of thinking we all know that not all marriage end up in happy ending it would really depend on how hard you work on it both you and your partner that makes the married life last for long...
• India
17 Jul 09
Single any time dude at this juncture of my life. Marriage comes with a whole baggage of responsibility that one is generally shy of assuming. Also post marriage your burdened with so much additional responsibilities that you are bound to feel stifled. Your life becomes predictable and mundane and you tend to get content about life . The fire in your belly fizzes out in no time . So for all the above mentioned reasons I will prefer to stay single as long as I can
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
well good luck to you my friend I am still single now at the age of 30 and I think like you before but cant really believe myself how I change my decision but never regretted my decision to be married one of this years maybe not too soon but I know I will be there.
• United States
17 Jul 09
I like to spend time with others, so I think that I can not stay single for the rest of kmy life. I want to be cared and care others.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
everyone needs someone they say its all about the right time and the readiness then one thing you know there you are married to the person you choose for the rest of eternity.
• United States
17 Jul 09
I think that marrage is all about religion or else why couldn't homosexuals So, I will never get married to my bf. We have been together for a year and we agreed to be together for ever. I don't have a god. And if you are single. Have fun live life. No need to find someone that person will come to you. If you have a higher god though, keep up on what you want and your choices. They are what makes you. So never ever change for someone else. If someone tries to judge you then you should know they aren't the one.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
Well I guess I have found the one for she never judge me and she loves me the way I am and just let me be the men that I am..
@colydf (913)
• China
17 Jul 09
I think that I will get married, but not too soon. Now I am only 21 years old, so I think I will not get married only I am 30 or older. I will work for several years, then live a regular life, have my own house, then I will think about the marry thing. Sooner or later, I will get married.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
Well thats the usual thinking of a single person and I admire your way of thinking I too was once like that and got lost along the way and now have found my way again and tried to stay on track this time.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
17 Jul 09
Both being single and married have pros and cons...Single life is full of freedom,not tight to everyone at all.Free to go anywhere that you like. But once you have tight up with married life...it is totally different.It will have more responsibility and do not have much freedom anymmore in your life.The best part of being married is that you will have someone to share your happiness and unhappiness moments all the time.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I wish I could have the freedom you said of being single at my age I could be doing what I want and going place I choose to go but seems my mom is not letting me so I guess I dont see being single that much of having freedom at all.
@rlaknar (616)
• India
17 Jul 09
The decision must be taken by you.But my friend you have opened this discussion and in my opinion i will go with being single with respect to my age.There are a lot of things we can enjoy being a single.If we get married we need to take care of our family, added responsibility and a lot of stuffs are there.But it holds good until we reach a certain age.Till then we can enjoy the maximum we have.But if we cross an age we need to get married.So all it depends on the age and our mind. Thanks for the discussion!!!
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
I think age does not matter its more on the maturity stage and the readiness to take the bigger responsibility in life thats how I look at it ..your welcome
• United States
17 Jul 09
I think married you get more benfits but I been married before so regardless the struggle I perfer remaining struggle.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
even with all the hardship that married life can bring still we choose that road for it makes us complete a purpose in living.
@mdvarghese (1789)
• Bangalore, India
17 Jul 09
Hi....HelScream In my personal point of view, I like the married life than be a single. I have both the experience as a single and a married man. From my experience, I would say that a married man will be more responsible than a single.He will be more caress and will be more cared by the spouse. A man/woman's life will be completed only when they marry and having kids . Otherwise their life will be incomplete.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
yes my friend I think thats just about it the other one completes the other and the responsibility of being married makes us a better men a more responsible one
@Sarithra (19)
• India
17 Jul 09
well its quite personal.it depends from person to person but i would prefer being single rather than committing anyone in my life...
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
well I respect your decision on that matter my friend , I too was once like you but change my views as time passes
@sblossom (2170)
17 Jul 09
as single you can get as much as freedom you want.if you got married you will get safety and companionship. I think when we are in different ages we have different demand for life. now i got older i feel getting married is a good choice or life style. My life is more stable and healthy. I also feel more confident in my life. I feel easier to deal with many things in my life.
@HelScream (2828)
• Philippines
17 Jul 09
yes my friend I guess when one matures and ready to take the responsibility then one can say that he or she is ready to go to the next stage of life one does not have to search for it it will just come to you by surprise even I was amazed on how I got the decision change in just a few months, well I am not saying I will be married soon but my views on marriage life now is different than before.Time really change everything