how will you do if a stranger talk with you online?
By cindyhxf
@cindyhxf (1446)
China
July 17, 2009 6:32pm CST
Hi mylotters.we have many tools to talk with people online today.and always meet new one online or other search your information and add you to their friend list in skype or msn or other chat software.well,when a stranger start talking with me,i always try to know more of him /her by some basic information.or just chat some worth topic in work or in life.but i also meet so bad guy who show his nude photos first then i had to block them.when some friends we knew of each other more.but one day he asked for your photos and said wow,you are sexy (i never sent sexy photos online)and can we date? for me,i don't like such guys who want to date after seeing my photos,what they really want?just like your looking and not your mind ?
How will you do when a stranger start to talk with you online? are you friendly always or got mad sometimes? thank you for sharing.dear lotters
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17 responses
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
18 Jul 09
This is partly the reason why I don't chat online anymore.. the amount of spammers, dirty chatters and whatnot (and yes, there are lady chatters like that unfortunately), it just gets onto me.
I would rather stick at forums or just playing games on Facebook and interact with gamers like they wanna exchange gift or loot items and etc. I get very uncomfortable when chatting online and there was this moment whereby this guy that chatted with me was hitting on me.
Not only that, there are also hackers sending files pretending to be their pictures, pretending to be ladies wanting to get to know more friends. And they send on viruses and whatnot. So for now, I'm skipping off chatting. Even on Facebook, I off the chat notification..
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@funnysis (2619)
• United States
17 Jul 09
I always try to be nice to peopel when I chat with them online even if it is a stranger,if they start to get carried away wanting personal information then I just end the conversation with that person in a nice way.I have had people want me to give them picture of myself and ones like that I just explain not interested and that I am blocking them from chatting with me.Have a great day.
@anotherxidentity (1434)
• United States
17 Jul 09
If its in a place where I am freely open about meeting new people then I'm normally friendly about the situation and will start general topics like you do just to see if I get along with the person but it would take weeks for me to really delve into anything personal because there are a lot of bad people out there that act nice in the beginning but quickly turn into internet predators.
Now if I'm on AIM or another chat service and someone IMs me out of the blue then I always deny the reply. For me in the past most of these people have been the ones that only want to do the dirty online (which I will never understand the enjoyment out of) and so I just don't bother with it anymore.
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@happyness3 (394)
• United States
17 Jul 09
I don't chat with people online. Once, when I was like 17, I was chatting on yahoo, and some guy pm'd me. I don't know how he did it, but was some kind of a hacker, he got my personal info, and my phone number. He called me later that day and told me that he was talking to me online earlier. I never gave him any info. So now, to keep my stuff seperate, I don't participate in any kind of chatting, and the emails that I use for my money stuff online, can't be linked to any of my personal info. Just like to be safe.
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@zareenalot (66)
• India
18 Jul 09
Yes,you are absolutely right dear.Chatting with unknown people,making new friends online has become a common and fashionable these days.When i know about this chatting,i was very pleased and eager to do chat and made new friends.As you said sometimes we come across very bad guys who takes the advantage of not being in front of us and talk in ugly way.If such happens at the very next moment i stop chatting to that person and immediately report that contact as spam.I too follow the same thing as you said that as far as possible we will try to know that person as much we can.Do not upload your photos and allow that person to view until you him properly.Then we should decide whether to contunue communication with them or not.Internet is a good medium for communicatio,informatio.we should not misuse it but we have to make most of it.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
20 Jul 09
Hi Cindy!
It is really shocking that some persons, while communicating on-line start doing uncalled for things and start taking everything for granted. They do not know what is 'decency' and what are the limits, which communicating with an on-line friends. Asking for date, making flithy and ackward comments could end the relationship sooner than later. When on-line I only talk to know persons/friends and always try to be within limits. For you, it would be better to avoid those persons, who show dubious character.
Have a great day!
It is really shocking that some persons, while communicating on-line start doing uncalled for things and start taking everything for granted. They do not know what is 'decency' and what are the limits, which communicating with an on-line friends. Asking for date, making flithy and ackward comments could end the relationship sooner than later. When on-line I only talk to know persons/friends and always try to be within limits. For you, it would be better to avoid those persons, who show dubious character.
Have a great day!
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
18 Jul 09
I like chatting and meeeting new people online but I am rather picky. If my instincts tells me to avoid them then thats what I do.
Webcams are for good friends. I become highly suspicious of men who are too eager to view or show a webcam.
@haiershen (1080)
• China
22 Jul 09
good discussion,we have to meet some stranger people on lines,in fact, i don't like to talk with stranger, it isn't very fun, because they often ask you three question:"what's you name?" "where are you come from?""have you married?" it is very bored for me,sometimes,i'll not give any responds,and doing nothing things, sometimes,i will want to talked with a stranger people, because,some of the sensents isn't suitable to talk with my friends or my family,so a stranger is very good listener.good luck and have a nice day!
@yolanda19191 (1934)
• China
18 Jul 09
first, i wont easily give out or post my msn,skype, yahoo id,etc chatting tools out, so the rude guys have less chances to find me.hehe...
but if i meet such bad ones, i'll tell them i'm not the one they are looking for, and say not any more words to them. then, they will disturb and less and less, until disappear.
@EsmeraldaB (309)
• United States
18 Jul 09
we are always talking to strangers.You don't know every one you talk to.
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@aylim14 (501)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
well, it just depends on how you "read" that person. From the time he/she starts a conversation with you, then will you know how to responde to him. Of course, we are here meet new people and possibly build lasting relationships with them. However, there really are some abusers out there. So, we really cannot have a single treatment regarding meeting new people online. The best way to avoid what happened is probably to judge him/her by the way they talk to you or how they react to you. If the conversation is going smoothly and you are enjoying it, then you can continue on; but if the person seems to be offensive and/or a bit snobbish or arrogant, you can either start saying it to that person if that's how that person is or not. or you could totally block off that person. In the end, it is still your decision.
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@eysian (125)
• United States
18 Jul 09
well... talking online i'm fine with, just dont ask to visit me in real life or anything. im always scared about those virtual-meet people and then scamming all my money in the end.
virtual dating is just disastrous... the things that happen in there is disgusting
anyways... talking online like mylot is fine. instant messaging with strangers... thats just wrong
@greenwbird (227)
• China
10 Dec 09
I will have a look at the information of him,if we have some relationship,such as we are in the same senior school and so on. Maybe i will add him/her and try to chat with him/her,but if he/her is absolutely a stranger for me ,i will ignore it and refuse to chat with him/her,my time is precious!!
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
18 Jul 09
cindyhxf,
I have always made it a point to be discreet with disclosing my personal details in these messenger and social network channels. Having said that I felt that the hosts should also do their part in making their facilities safe and that end users' privacy protected.
There will always be some odd characters be it online or real time, so we should never let our guard down and be mistakenly taken for a ride by them. Getting annoyed is just natural with them, but it is those smooth talking ones that we should be wary off.
So do be very discreet and careful and I am sure you will avoid a lot of trouble at the end of the day.
Take care and have a nice day.
@knrsekar (1009)
• India
18 Jul 09
I will not chat with the people who are not familiar with me already and also I hate those who are chatting like that . I don't find any need in that and most of them are doing as the facility is available. In most of the cases, this chatting always ends in unhappiness and I have heard from many friends. THose who are not able to maintain the friendship or proper contact with their neighbor are only doing like this mostly. If they are good enough in his personal contacts with frinds(offline) then we can get any help from them and share anything with them,we can help them. No need of unknown people.
@maverick_tarun (52)
• India
18 Jul 09
my opinion is dat never ever trust online ppl...It best 2 have fun n take wat the best frm wat good stuff they hve!!!!!!very rarely we get good people
