Do you think it is proper to keep in touch with your ex-boyfriend?

@colydf (913)
China
July 18, 2009 11:39am CST
I just wonder about whether it is proper for me to keep in touch with my ex-boyfriend. Some of my friends told me that one could never keep in touch with their ex-boyfriend after breaking up, because breaking up means the end, the end does not permit a friendship. However, some friends think it is OK to be friends. We do not have to pretend to be strangers after broke up.
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12 responses
• Jamaica
19 Jul 09
As an ex-boyfriend myself I find that there is nothing wrong in keeping contact with your ex-girlfriend - it can even be fun! Obviously you and your ex had a lot in common, and just because things did not work out on a romantic level does not mean that the two of you should spend energy trying to not be friends when things may very well work out on a platonic level. Overall I think it is proper to keep in touch with your exes! Thanks for sharing your opinions fellow myLotters and happy myLotting!
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
Well depends on the attitude of your current boyfriend or girlfriend. I said this because there were some boyfriends/girlfriends that are unsecured and possessive. Not only for lovers even in married lives it depends on the attitude of our each partner. But for me, it's okay as long as you really have trust with your partner. But if you are doubt about it, just forget it...
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• India
18 Jul 09
while i do not necessarily suggest you to keep in touch with him, but there is no harm in having a chat with him if you bump into each other at any time. it would be quite silly for me to actually behave like strangers and give each other a miss.
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 09
Recently I heard this question being asked over a radio talk show. Many listeners disagreed - they said: NO! For me, it's simple. A break up doesn't mean that he's gone for good. You don't have to force yourself to forget him and about him. You could still be friends unless he doesn't want to. Yes, so go ahead and continue with the platonic relationship. However be "warned" that your love for each other might bloom again -which could be a good sign. Anyway don't think about taking him back yet. If it happens naturally, then good for you. If not, then at least both of you are still friends. Your friends are entitled to have their own opinions; you are entitled to choose the man of your choice whether it's your ex-boyfriend or another man. Does this help?
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@impaktita (966)
• Philippines
18 Jul 09
I guess it's all up to the both of you if you still want the friendship to remain even after breaking off the relationship. Alot of people think it is awkward to still be friends with your ex. I guess everyone has different opinions and thoughts about this. I personally, am friends with very few of my exes cause most of them have completely ended everything along with the relationship. Also, Jealousy occurs with your current boyfriend/girlfriend if you are still very close with your ex in some cases.
@dim4st (49)
• Indonesia
19 Jul 09
Breaking up means the end of your romance butit's not the end of your relationship as friend. Keep in touch with your ex-boyfriend makes you more wise.
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@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
I think it's okay as long as there is no string attached just plain friendship.
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@Elixiress (3893)
19 Jul 09
It depends on whether you can deal with this, sometimes it is easier to just be strangers as there will be a lot of raw feelings on both sides most the time. One of my ex's I have only just started talking to again 2 years later, he completely severed any form of communication. Whereas my most recent ex, we argued for about 2 weeks after we broke up and then became friends. It all depends on the people involved really.There is no black or white answer to be given.
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• Philippines
19 Jul 09
For me, I have no reason to keep in touch with my ex boyfriend especially that we had a bitter ending. I'm happy with my life now being married . I'm glad that he is miles apart from where I live now and I have to way to meet him. Even then, I have no intentions of keeping in touch with him again.
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@angemac23 (2005)
• Canada
19 Jul 09
I think it is fine for people to keep in touch with an ex. It would depend on the way the relationship ended and if the two people are on good terms of course but I see no problem with two people who once dated being friends.
@sid556 (31002)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I don't see the problem in it at all. The only time it really would be hard would be when one has hopes of getting back together and the other one doesn't. Hanging out could give false hope, I guess. I get along with most of my ex-boyfriends just fine. I don't see a need to be enemies. Just go with your heart and don't listen to what your friends are saying. Just because it doesn't work for them doesn't mean it can't for you.
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• Philippines
19 Jul 09
Keeping in touch with an ex boyfriend is not a bad thing at all. First and foremost, you two have experiences together and avoiding a friend would be very hard. So i don't think that it's bad.Ü
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