Why do love hurts?

@n30wing (4771)
Philippines
July 18, 2009 8:51pm CST
Everybody knows that love hurts. It can be lifes greatest joy or most enduring pain. Nothing wounds us more to love someone who does not return our love. If love is so important to have that one doesn't want to loose, why is it when we find true love we often don't notice it? Why do people have to loose things to find out what they really mean? You can close your eyes to things you don't wnt to see, But you can't close your heart to things you don't want to feel. Have a nice day to all of you!
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@maharlikah (1045)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
And no one that loves and never hurt. It's but normal :-) Love hurts, love scars.
19 Jul 09
Perhaps the Italian proverb; "l'amore fa passare il tempo, il tempo fa passare l'amore" puts it in perspective; "love makes time pass, time makes love pass." An antidote to all that pain!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi maharlikah, I think love is part of life. Yes it hurts beu we get stronger and learned from this mistakes. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• India
19 Jul 09
Love hurts because love has got the edge to hurt somebody! Love gives you a lot so, it wants to take something from you in return! So, why are you asking this dear? Do you know why love is so sweet? Love is so much sweet because it hurts someone! This is why we cannot forget love! Ahem!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi Littleboy, I think when you hurt someone you love you don't really love that person hahaha! Anyway no one is perfect, it's how the person treasure you even it hurts you badly or you make the person your best enemy hahaha! Have a nice day to you!
• India
19 Jul 09
Love for me is beautiful feeling and is very much painfull. i say love is like wonder,joy n evertin it cant be seen but u can feel it.only some will get dat pure love!!!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi maverick_tarun, Love is beautiful, it makes as grow and learned life. But we only know were in love when we feel hurt. From this hurt we get stronger and be a better person. Have a nice day to you!
@rlaknar (616)
• India
19 Jul 09
Love hurts because it is the one we feel necessary and not ready to give it up.Will anyone give up the thing that is most important and necessary for them.We think that love is one among them.And because of this possessiveness in love we exaggerate it and it looks hurting. Good Luck!!!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi rlaknar, I think when were in love we do expect a lot. We try to make it last. We only know were in love when we get the feeling of hurt. Still we tried to hold on and change for a better out come and to be a better person. Have a nice day to you!
• Jamaica
19 Jul 09
Love hurts because, you investment,care, idolize, sometimes worship the person you fall in love with and majority of the time we get hurt. We see what we want to see and not what is really there. When we find true love and we don't notice it, its because, we don't know what true love really is.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi tamsuder610, Love can make us happy, can get the pain of getting hurt. But you only realized your in love when you really feel hurt. Love and life is what we make, our choices even sometimes is a biggest mistake but better to have love than not feeling love at all. Have a nice day to you!
@colydf (913)
• China
19 Jul 09
As far as I am concered, love hurts because when you are in love, you care too much about the other one, sometimes you care him or her more than yourself. You hope he or she always think the same with you, however, this is not often the case. Just because love hurts, you will cherish it when you feel it sweet.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi colydf, even love hurts we keep on going, it never stop as for loving the person cause it's part of the real meaning of love and that is getting hurt. Even we can't discribe the feeling of hurt, it's still better to feel love and be wanted too. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@whizkid08 (715)
• India
19 Jul 09
I agree, Love can be both, the greatest joy or most enduring pain!! I've gone through the second one, it was an ordeal for me!! Yeah, its strange that we don't even know when we are in love. That is perhaps because we "tend" to maintain the relation (most of the times, friendship) that we don't realize the feeling of love and moreover, inspite of knowing that we love the other person, we may lose them just because of the fear of rejection, shuddering to contemplate it!! And its really a big deal to control the feelings, as rightly said, you can't close your heart!!
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi whizkid08, I think even friendship hurts sometimes, cause everything has always an ending even relationship. We just know the person is special or important or in our heart we we lost them. But this pain makes as stronger. I think that is life goes and we never can't describe the feeling of hurt and to be love. Anyway have a nice day to you!
• Singapore
19 Jul 09
I think this is one of the typical question to all people. I believe everyone has to go through this stage of being hurt. haha
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi winterliang, I think the real sense of love is getting hurt and pain to feel too. But we keep on falling in love, cause it just happens even we want to stop loving hahaha! Have a nice day to you!
• India
19 Jul 09
Love is Not Another Feeling, its An Emotion Which Sensitizes All your Senses Into A Powerful Positive Feeling Towards That Special Person .. Its Up to that person to Acknowledge your Love or Just Brush It off . It Surely Hurts You As You Have Given That Person Your Total Submission Without receiving Anything Back.. Thats Why I Feel Don't Love Everybody .. Make it Easier for yourself .. Love SomeBody who Loves You .. Thank You .. Am Sorry To See You in Bed In this Pic.. Anything Serious .. God Bless ..
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi prashanthalave, I think love and life is a journey.We get hurt but we keep on going strong.Cause we learned from this pain. We can only know were in love when we feel hurt. Yes it is true that love is not selfish and not expecting in return. Love is blind! We get blinded with our feelings and emotions that we just want it to last. I think we just have to be happy each moments and remember it. Call it sweet memories of me and you. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@sblossom (2170)
19 Jul 09
it's really a pholosophical topic. If you got hurt deeply it would mean you was in love deeply. it's not too bad experience. the worse one is some people never fall in love or be loved. it's a disaster of life, isn't it. i don't feel afraid of being hurt in love relationship, i just wish i can love somebody then i don't care what will happen in the future. Also I clearly realised love is not the only thing in my life, i should find more open world and give me more connection with people.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi sblossom, I think we never stop travelling and learning from this. We learned from this pain and we get stronger from this hurts. I also believe that there's alaways has a reason but hard to understand and discribe this pain. No man is an island. But hoping everything could work out,and make it last. Anyway have a nice day to you my friend!
• India
19 Jul 09
Everybody knows that love hurts.it is true buddy love always hurts when we lost our love for years when it hurt it effect whole you life sometime when we lost we lost all our dreams thinks that i mut not go after that person that my fault sometimes makes so angry change a personal 's behaviour so love can hurt you so much entirely so much,so betteri advice you all to not love serioulsy do not dream much as love so hard your hurt with same as you love that person so think wisely before you pray.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi sathis2018, We only know we love that person when we get the feeling of hurt and pain. But we learned from this pain and we get stronger. Love and life is a journey we make. Even we fall will still stand, and it just happens that we fall in love again even so many times we tried and it's usally a dream still we tried then not trying to prove our love to them even it hurts. Love is not selfish, it's giving and not asking in return. Anyway have a nice day to you!
@reulin (101)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
maybe because you are overwhelmed by your standards of what kind of love you would want to have and it's true that seldom do we see the real one when he/ she is there already and we feel real love at the wrong time . but you know , only time can tell .
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi reulin, I think real love is hard to find. Sometime we only know the meaning of love when we get disappointed and getting hurt. Even when we try to answer the pain,it can't be descibed. What we can only learned from this and never do the same mistakes and that is loving to much that sometimes we forget ourselves. Still we go on and never stop for the real person who could love us more. To make our tears to stop and forget the sorrow we had and mistakes to change for something better. Anyway have a nice day to you! God bless!
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
19 Jul 09
It's not love that hurt us.LOVE is GOD,and GOD is LOVE. It's mans actions that hurt us,or hurt someone we love. Even if how we tried to make a relationship perfect,there is still things that went wrong beyond our control.And it is a common knowledge that we realize how much we love her/him,when we already lost that person.
@n30wing (4771)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Hi jaiho2009, I think in love there is no perfect relationship, there is always pain and hurts. We only knew when were in love when we feel hurt and loosing that person. I also think that there is a reason always that cannot be explain why. Have a nice day to you!