This Jerk Really Thinks He's Innocent Of Stalking Me

Internet Stalker Beware - image of internet stalker
@pyewacket (43962)
United States
July 18, 2009 10:25pm CST
I beg to differ. Many of my friends here know that for about three years I've had a real nuisance azzhole stalking me here. At first he really was genuinely nice to me, and even complimentary in replies he made to me. But his tune changed when he found out I was on SSI benefits as he categorized me as a government freeloader..He then would track my more ranty discussions and make obnoxious, crude, derogatory remarks to me. When my friends defended me, he often made nasty comments to them as well. He was eliminated from here at MyLot...but he would resurface numerous times and again attack me. This "person" continually claimed all innocent to being a stalker---here's a definition of a stalker http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stalking (Warning: NOT a referral link) [i]Stalking is a term used to describe unwanted attention by individuals (and sometimes groups of people) to others. Stalking behaviors are related to harassment and intimidation. The word "stalking" is used, with some differing meanings, in psychology and also in some legal jurisdictions as a term for a criminal offence. It may also be used to refer to criminal offences or civil wrongs that include conduct which some people consider to be stalking, such as those described in law as "harassment" or similar terms" Stalking is a form of mental assault, in which the perpetrator repeatedly, unwontedly, and disruptively breaks into the life-world of the victim, with whom they have no relationship (or no longer have). Moreover, the separated acts that make up the intrusion cannot by themselves cause the mental abuse, but do taken together (cumulative effect)."[/i] Well, as some of my friends know, I had emailed them as now my stalker has contacted me via my private email address, not once but several times now...each time he still claims innocent to being a stalker---his first email indicated that though he is no longer a member here at MyLot he's been keeping track of the goings on here, and saw one of my discussions about "What Hole Do These Idiots Crawl Out From?" With each email to me, he claims too, that his replies to my discussions (and I quote from his email)[i]I admit that my posts have been controversial and even provoking, but that is all within the framework of me trying to stir up a lively discussion, as I find most of the drivel being posted utterly boring. It appears to me, that having a different opinion on certain subjects does not go down well with you and your (many) friends on myLot. Initially I enjoyed the angry replies, believing that my approach to discussions on myLot was entertaining, not only to myself, but to others as well.[/i] What a piece of crap honestly! He really thinks his obnoxious comments to me were "entertaining"? Everyone of my friends who saw his comments will remember well how nasty and flaming they were to me..AND I have many of his comments saved should I decide to send them on to authorities. I don't give a horse's azz if someone disagrees with me, but his comments to me weren't about a disagreement but being flaming and crude in his remarks to me. As for the stalking level--while it's not impossible to find out my email address, the mere fact that he decided to find it and personally write to me is also a further indicator that he IS my stalker otherwise I don't think he would have contacted me personally. He hasn't threatened me and thankfully he's not even in my country...but you better believe I'll contact authorities if he steps the over the line Here's something that might give you a chuckle...in his last email to me he says:I hope you have the courtesy to inform your friends of my e-mails to you and look forward to reading a post in which you will do so. Oh yep...I did inform my friends of his emails...but if he thinks I'm going to post a "nice" discussion and retract my labeling a stalker, he's got another thing coming. Oh----btw....I JUST KNOW YOU'RE READING THIS "FRITZ"---Oh another btw..now I know you're real name..bad move on your part
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24 responses
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Hey Pye! Since I do know the entire story and have witnessed this azzhole in action I find it totally incredible that he has continued to go to the lengths that he has gone to! This person apparently is obessed with you! I would say that you were lucky, but in this case it would not be luck! I just can't imagine why anyone would go to such extremes to bother someone who they don't even know except from some meaningless discussions (no offense) on a website! I find this beyond disturbing and I do hope that you will be able to have the proper action taken to have this stopped! It is very unpleasant to think that someone is able to this even if it is just by emails!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Heehee--how do you like that icon I designed??...pretty much says how I feel about all this--That was his real mistake though in contacting me by email. Yes my email is pretty easy to find out since I have it on my own websites to promote possible business contacts...but to ferret out my email on purpose and contact me...all the makings of a stalker even though he begs to differ
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@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I loved the icon! Go look what I wrote under it!
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@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
19 Jul 09
wow wow wow wow wow. The fact that buddyboy feels the need to track you down via email and try to justify himself? Did I say wow yet? Dude's got issues. You are doing everything right though. Documenting and saving the emails and comments on discussions is a smart thing pye. I had what could be refered to as a phone stalker a few years ago and that is exactly what I was advised to do. I got caller id, saved all messages he left, documented the times he'd call, yada yada yada. People like that are piddly peons. I love your attitude, get angry, get irate, get righteous on this buggers butt.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Uh--yes you did say wow I plan to even save this discussion as back-up--never know when I might need it
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• United States
19 Jul 09
It is unfortunate that you have picked up such and insistent stalker. But he is speaking the truth when he says he is being entertaining, not to you or your friends but for himself. I know of people that use cruel and abusive invective in public forums and chat rooms....why? because they can....they like the the disruption it causes and they like the arguments that arise and most of all they thrive on the attention they get. This person taking the time to delve out your personal e mail address should make you a bit more wary of him, and just for the record, I would not assume that he used his real name in that e mail to you. It may be a ruse so don't fall for it. Good luck with any future dealings you hhave with him.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
LOL--actually it IS his real name...how do I know? well being curious myself I tracked the name down...I found him on Facebook...and yup it's him as I recognize him since he used to use his own photo as an avatar at MyLot....Poor fella ....doesn't have too many friends there--
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Oh as an up-date------now I know my stalker is aware of this discussion..why? Guess what? He has since deleted his account at Facebook..found out when I went to the link......mmm..I have a screenshot of it though--did he think I wouldn't? Hear me frits? I know you're reading this discussion
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@GardenGerty (90001)
• Marion, Kansas
19 Jul 09
Sorry he thinks all we post is drivel, and I am glad he is not in this country. I would encourage you to do what you need to to take care of the situation in a timely manner.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I guess he think he's a super intellectual who can't be bothered with our "drivel"---
• United States
19 Jul 09
Pye- I understand from personal experience how terrifying it is to have a stalker, and it can definately drain you emotionally. The problem with the online environment is that not every state has online anti-stalking laws yet. A friend just told me that her state of Ohio doesn't have them yet either, and so far Minnesota doesn't seem to have them yet either. The best advise I can give you is to first file a report with the FBI as soon as possible. Even if they don't respond they'll have it on file. Then keep a record of everything your stalker sends you, writes about you, etc. It might mean lots of printer ink, but it's worth it. Screen shots help, but they do take up a lot of room. Printing it when you see it seems to be a bit more efficient. Now, the second piece of advise I'll share was something I was told in my early twenties. A friend told me that I couldn't allow anyone to have emotional power over me. It's the worse thing you can give them, and it's what some people want. That seems to be what stalkers want, they want your attention, to be the center of attention, and to focus on them. Even when venting to friends it's only giving them that attention. It may be best to try to keep your thoughts on him to private emails. This way you give him no attention. Namaste dear friend- Anora
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
LOL--well this week I plan to stock up on printer's ink as I'm low and yes will print everything up I have on him. I have a screenshot of his Facebook profile...yes, since his name is in the emails he's sending to me I managed to find him there--and yes, definitely him as I recognize him from when he was first here and he used a photo of himself as his avatar (are you reading this Frits??--have a feeling you are) Nope the jerk has no power over me, I'm not intimidated..I view him as a pesky bug that needs to be squashed
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• United States
19 Jul 09
some people just refuse to grow up just let them have their childish ways and go on about your life if you let them disrupt your life then they win dont let them win
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Believe me I don't plan for this "person" to win
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@Elixiress (3893)
19 Jul 09
Stop giving him the satisfaction of knowing that his comments get to you. I would say it is more bullying than stalking. He is only contacting you through here and emails. If you stop replying to his comments and stop making discussions about him and stop your friends from telling him he is a stalker, then he will get bored due to getting no reaction. You are only fuelling the flame really, originally it was not your fault, but you are doing nothing to help yourself.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Nope--actually his comments to me don't "get me"--he is though like an annoying bug that I would like to squash...
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@Elixiress (3893)
20 Jul 09
You made this post, told your friends etc ... both which show that it does get to you, if it didn't bother you at all then you'd not feel the need to tell people.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Like I said it really doesn't bother me. In his email to me he was "expecting" me to do a discussion of his innocence in being my stalker...he really doesn't have a clue that he is and who knows who else he stalks (actually I do know one other person he has stalked in the past)---so I went the opposite way of what he was expecting as far as a discussion from me
• United States
19 Jul 09
I am sorry you have been subject to that kind of unwanted attention. What has happened to me only confirm my rule never to give anyone on a forum your personal email address unless you have met them in "real" life and know the "real" person.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Unfortunately I never gave this jerk my private email...if one does a search on my photo websites which I do have my email (for possible business prospects to sell my work)--my email is listed--so that meant he "hunted" down my profile here at MyLot where I give a link to my websites....also as mike pointed out...if you do a search of my user name and real name I'm a stalker's delight...I'm everywhere...LOL
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
ps--do a search on your name...user and real and just maybe you might come up with interesting results
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• United States
19 Jul 09
You are right it is easy to get your email address if you have a business website. I did a search of my name and ID and it was quite surprising I even posted a discussion on that subject as few years back. It is pitiful but true that your personal sicko troll is probable thrilled that he is getting so much attention. How sad to think that there are people out there who have no life and can only get attention by stalking. I have had my share of wannabe stalkers but I purposely ignore every response they make so they get bored and move on to some other person.
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I think when he contacted you to your email addy that he has gone way beyound the line I would very well get with the authorities and give them all you have hate for you to have to change your addy because of this and then have to cahnge again when he finds that one!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Well my email addys are paid ones, would hate to lose them and they are tied with my DSL service --but yes, planning to do some serious contacting of "officials"
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@Lakota12 (42794)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Good I hope so as you pay for your you shouldnt have to put up with this!
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@nanajanet (4437)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Have you reported him to the authorities, yet? If not, now is the time. DO NOT PUT UP WITH THIS!!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Don't worry...I have a lot of evidence about this person...
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@nanajanet (4437)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Good, get his A$$~
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• United States
19 Jul 09
...Wow...0_o Provoking? So what if they where provoking! You don't deserve this! Oh and and Fritz why don't you do some thing good with you time! Like a life! Stalking is bad!Not good!
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Guess he just doesn't have much of a life, right?
• United States
20 Jul 09
There was this one guy that we went out for like a day. For two yeas he will be with me or trying to get back together. I tried being nice about it,but that did not work. I tried being a bitc'h about it,but that did not work. When he got a new girlfriend,I was thinking yes! Its over.WRONG!He did to make me jalousies. Righhhhht....like that will be the day. Just have your local cops on speed,so you can call fast just in case some thing happens.You never know.They seem all harmless but what if he gets drunk.
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• United States
19 Jul 09
OMG..still? that's bloody persistant..or bored..one or the other. so "F" is "P" also,right?
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yup--"F" is "P"
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19 Jul 09
Hi pye, I am sorry you still have that stalker, who haven't got a life but to go round making people lives a misery, but he won't win, the only thing to do is just ignor him and maybe he'll get fed up and go crawling back under his rock. Bright Blessings. Tamara xxxx
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yes he really does seem to lack a life--poor fella
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@AmbiePam (45702)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Boy, he must have some sad life if he spends so much of his time stalking. How pathetic.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yes he must not have much of a life
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@Eskimo (2329)
19 Jul 09
One thing you could do is block the e-mail account that the e-mails are being sent from. I use MailWasher Pro and use both it's white list and black list, so only e-mails which I approve are then transferred to my normal e-mail account, rest can be deleted manually or even automatically (if it is on your black list so you wouldn't even see the e-mail) It is terrible being stalked by anyone, and even worse if the person even thinks that what they are doing is legitimate. Don't let them get away with it as it will only encourage them.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
I really don't want to block him as weird as it seems...the more emails he sends me the more evidence I have against him
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@kprofgames (3025)
• United States
19 Jul 09
hmmm, not stalking but sending you e-mail. Not stalking but can't wait for any other discussions you start about him. Well that's a bit creepy if you ask me. Don't know how you can retract your label when he's still continuing to do it. Maybe print outs of these discussions, responses and e-mails need to be done. There are stalking laws. And if this person is banned now, well then might just want to put it all to rest and don't give this degenerate the attention he so needs. I mean he's all but begging you to continue the saga of his own warped mind. What an attention seeker he is. I'd still print out all the material his person has sent both private and from mylot. If this were me, I'd be changing my e-mail address too or block him from sending to you anymore. Just saying, this ranks on the creep-o-meter if he's started to e-mail you.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
I have an awful lot of evidence about his "person" and nicely stored and arranged and yes do plan to print everything up
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
19 Jul 09
This guy just doesn't give up now does he? Talk about obsessed! it has been going on for a long time. Sounds as if he as a few little issues.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yes he does come across as having some issues...psycho issues..mabye he needs therapy?
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• United States
19 Jul 09
In your situation you do have a stalker, I hate the fact that in some cases such as those involving spouses that they have taken the term stalker and used it against other family members, a complete misuse of the term and definition. I mean really a good parent is not a stalker because they are being a good parent, a complete twist to your discussion but relevant to my situation. I hope Fritz doesn't team up to cause you future problems, a team of Fritz's on the loose would not be a good thing. It is amazing the damage that comes from one troll. I remember having a couple of them also.
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@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Yes most definitely the worse cases of stalking are from family members, or maybe even from neighbors...you might remember that story about the girl on MySpace that was bullied, stalked and harassed by what she thought was a "boyfriend" but turned out to be the mother of a daughter who lived next door
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@vnrsudhan (1514)
• India
19 Jul 09
hi pyewacket, guess your stalker made a really really bad move,about emailing you.as they say GUILTY CONSCIOUS DISTURBS THE MIND... maybe he got a little too afraid when u said that you wont hesitate to contact the FBI,in one of your discussions about him.i don't really know what pleasure such jerks have in stalking on others. since you know his real name now,maybe you can complain him to the local police for now. anyway MAKE A GOOD DECISION ON THIS...SO THAT IT WOULD KEEP HIM FROM STALKING ANYONE THROUGHOUT HIS LIFE...
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
19 Jul 09
Yes in my mind he really did make a bad move by personally contacting me and by doing so revealed his real name to me
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
19 Jul 09
pyewacket, Seems like you are having your hands full with this character. I just cannot see the point at his end. I mean what's his problem? I hope you are going to report him to his local police and that this be put to an end for good and soon. I just feel sorry for you and hope that he will evolve and change his ways. Take care.
@pyewacket (43962)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yes I do seem to have my hands full and really don't know what his problem is
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