being goodlooking-- the good and the bad sides

Philippines
July 19, 2009 9:12pm CST
Hi everyone :) I just thought of opening up a topic about this. In this modern world, we cannot help but be faced with the fact that most people treat beautiful / handsome people differently than those who aren't that gorgeous. I know that this topic may first, sound shallow, but think about it. Being good looking doesn't equate necessarily to being happy automatically. Some friends I know who are very physically beautiful feel unhappy because most guys are too insecure to ask them out because of their good looks. There's a bad side of being good looking too, especially when you get old. Since it is very human to have physical changes when you get older, some beautiful people may have a hard time to accept that they are getting old, because unlike receiving compliments when they are younger, when they get old, they don't get much anymore. What do you guys think are the GOOD and BAD SIDES of being PHYSICALLY BEAUTIFUL?
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@yogambal_64 (1014)
• India
20 Jul 09
The good sides of being physically is that all people love to take another glimpse of them wherever they go, they wish to speak, and spend not only their time but their money also on them. Good looking people are generally very conscious about themselves also. The bad sides are good looking people are like a piece of antique which most of them yearn for. If they are outwardly just good looking and do not have any character in them it is a total waste. Beauty not only refers to the outward appearance it also lies skin deep. All that glitters cannot be gold.
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• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi yogambal! I totally agree with you. In today's world we have this stereotype that the gorgeous girls are not the smart ones, and the not-so pretty girls are the people with more character. I guess this is a stereotype that we must avoid. Lets try looking within the surface and take a very good look of who a person is. I like what you said, all that glitters cannot be gold. Very well said!
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
20 Jul 09
Hello there Jamie.. I believe that some people are blessed with good looks but at the end of the day, inner beauty is what's going to shine through. There are all kinds of people in this world, in my opinion. There are good and not so good looking people with bad heart as well as good and not so good looking with good hearts. It's up to an individual self-bringing and upbringing. A person whom has a good heart will always be loved and those shallow ones, be it good looking or not, will be realized by the people around them on their behavior. They say when one has the looks, one can get anywhere and everywhere easily in life. It's true up to a point, only. For the inner beauty is what's going to be the most valuable thing of all. Sometimes when one is good looking, they have friends easily. And that's when the judgment tend to be clouded because you won't know that that friend is not the sincere one. However, for the advantage of being an average looking person, they have the luxury to have friends whom are genuine and whom they know will be there when they 'fall'. Good discussion here, have a good day..
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
21 Jul 09
Yup, yup..
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi zed_k4! Point taken. To sum it all up, inner beauty is what really matters.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
20 Jul 09
They have their good and bad sides just as being just pretty or average has. I think some that think they or know that they are beautiful are just so vain and are quite ugly in the inside because of this. Im not saying all are but alot are. In the end I do think it is even harder to become older for them as they are vain and they try hard to not get the wrinkles and such. They dont age with grace is another way of putting it I guess. Another thing is in some cases they dont know if someone is with them because they truly love them or because they are a nice show piece.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi Ithink! I agree with what you said. I think that the stereotype comes in here: Physically attractive people are only equated on having those physical gifts, that's it.
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
20 Jul 09
Voila! when we are young, some of us by good fortune maybe quite physically beautiful on the outside. But it is at best a temporary beauty. It fades along with the bloom of youth into a mass of wrinkles and blemishes and pockmarks and sagging flesh. Look beneath this flesh whether young and old, with the naked eyes and there is nothing particularly beautiful to behold either. Beauty invites a lot of onlookers but non is sincere. Beauty only satisfy the eyes but not the heart.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
"Beauty only satisfies the eye, not the heart". Simple words but with great meaning. Very well said! When we grow older we don't need someone physically beautiful but someone who will comfort us, someone who will care for us thru thick and thin. We all should take a look at people not merely as objects, but people who have feelings and who need love.
• United States
21 Jul 09
I think its ridiculous. its Hollywoods fault that we think this way
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
I think that Hollywood has something to do with how we think, but its not entirely their fault.
• United States
21 Jul 09
I absolutely agree my friend.
@defcon505 (919)
• United States
21 Jul 09
Nice topic by the way! Bad side: As you said earlier, people are scared to ask them out because of their looks They become the center of attraction People might think that they did surgery Good side: Many job opportunities Good impression That's all I can think of. There's probably more out there.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Thanks for the reply defcon505! :) well if you think of any more points let me know ;)
20 Jul 09
I have definitely noticed that good looking people are treated very differently then normal looking people, even when said good looking person does not have a good personality they usually receive much fairer treatment. I think that a lot of the time the good looking people believe their own hype, while it may open doors for them in their youth it will take away a lot of character as the years pass by. I would get a bit mad if people kept telling me I was good looking, it would seem like I am getting compliments for something I had no say in. I love everybody who has a good personality, weather they are good or bad looking, this is the way it should be
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi videogeezer :) I find it weird to feel abit mad if people kept complimenting you about your good looks. Probably what you mean is that, if these people only look at you as someone who ONLY has good looks?
@neknek (249)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
i noticed that people are nice to good looking people. i'm not sure whether having many admirers is good or bad.. being beautiful doesn't spare them from insecurities though. i have a friend who haven't experienced a serious relationship, despite the abundance of admirers, because she not sure if the guy really likes her or just likes the way she looks.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi neknek :) I agree with you, NO ONE is spared from having insecurities. Even though a person is good looking, there is still something that s/he doesn't have. No one is perfect. I guess its all about knowing the essential and the important things in life.
@jessi0887 (2788)
• United States
20 Jul 09
I feel the good side is when being looked at or complimented it boost your self esteem. The bad side is when your fiance gets jealous thinking your egging it on. A good side is not having to worry or try to hard to look good. Bad side is you worry about other details like what clothes you wear.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi jessi0887! I guess for people who are good looking and not good looking, they are conscious of what they wear. But I kind of get it, most people who are good lookng are MORE conscious of what they wear than those who aren't good looking. But somehow this is a stereotype. I'm working for the fashion industry, and not all good looking people are part of this industry. Some people who aren't that good looking are designers and conscious of their clothes as well.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
20 Jul 09
I agree that people going to treat you well if you are beautiful or handsome. You have a special treatment and anybody will willing to listen to you. In employment good looks is a plus and you can get hired easily. Sometimes life is unfair I experienced that unfair treatment I feel envy to those who had a good looks. People sometimes is very shallow, they are after for the looks not in the attitude of the person. The looks going to fade out when we gets old and people sometimes are very vain that they tried everything to stops and slow there aging.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi agv0419! I agree with you. Some people are shallow, they go after the physical and not the character. But I guess we cannot deny that being attracted to someone is a start of a relationship, but not the end nor should be its purpose. We need someone who is sincere, someone who will be with us through whatever challenge we face :)
@rlaknar (616)
• India
20 Jul 09
The good side is looking good may make others think in positive way.The bad side is sometimes we may get in to troubles due to this attraction.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hey rlaknar! I find your comment interesting. How do you think people who have good looks get into trouble?
• Canada
2 Aug 09
Hi! For me, how people look on the outside is only important before you get to know the person. So it,s a good thing to be good-looking because maybe more people will talk to you. If I see a very beautiful person that is mean or dumb, I will begin to see the 'ugly side' of that person. And if I see an average person or ugly person that is very smart or nice, I will see the good sides of their looks. I disagree a bit with people who say that with the age, beauty fades. Yes, in a way, it's true, but... have you ever seen an old woman or man, smiling, with a lot of wrinkles, white hair, etc.? SOme of them are beautiful, even with wrinkles! it's their charm, their sparkling eyes, their happiness that make them beautiful. Also, if I see people that can be very good-looking but smell bad, are dirty, not well-dressed and really fat, their beauty is gone! On the other hand, a not-so-pretty person but clean, with nice clothes, that made an effort to look presentable, that person looks better. Beauty also depends on the tastes of people. For example, I heard girls say that they found Angelina Jolie very ugly, and others said she was gorgeous! When you're pretty, people can be jealous too... So good looks are not so important after all. It's if you take care of yourself, if you have a good personnality and charm that make you very pretty.