Do you divide housework between you and your spouse?

China
July 20, 2009 8:55pm CST
I know several new couples and they share with me their work division. Say, if one cook the dishes, the other should wash the bowls, and some will divide by time, Monday, Wednesday, Friday, husband do the housework, Tuesday, Thursday, Saturday, wife will take over. They do together on Sunday, or go out for dinner. What do you handle with the housework? Please share.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
21 Jul 09
I'm not married yet, but i do share the housework together with my mom and brother.. lol =D When i was very much younger, my brother and me will take turns to be sweeping and mopping the floor.. As for doing of dishes, whoever is the last to eat, will have to wash up everything.. haha =D As for changing of bedsheets, i'm the one who's doing it every 3weeks or so.. As for ironing, my mom and brother are the ones doing it.. haha =D
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• China
22 Jul 09
Hey, whoever's the last to eat will wash the dishes is the method a lot of families use, but i don't think it's a good solution. If one member of the family hates washing dishes, she/he will hurry to eat, eating too quick is not healthy for the stomach. Your family's very democratic i think as you share housework among all members. I and my sister took turns to buy stuff in the store, but all the other housework was done by my mom before. Luckily,we grow up and can do things ourselves now.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
22 Jul 09
haha =D NOt for for our family though as i like washing of dishes.. Thus, be it i'm the first or last, i will always do the dishes.. If i happened to eat first, then i will be washing my own.. lol =D But for other housework, we are no longer doing it except for my mom, who's doing the mopping and sweeping.. But changing of bedsheets, i'm still doing it ^_^
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• China
26 Jul 09
Hello, kun, thanks for sharing. All in all, moms are doing the most of the housework. They're great.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
22 Jul 09
As I believe you know, my fiance and I are living with his parents. We don't do very many chores, but we do do regular chores on Wednesday which is the night that the trash people come and pick up our trash. We alternate what chores we do. We're in charge of sweeping the floors, and changing the animals water bowl in the kitchen, also we are in charge of the litter box right off the kitchen in the laundry room. Our bathroom is also our responsibility. My fiance always does the litter box though I tell him I can do it too. One week I take care of the kitchen, another week he does, and vice versa. The bathroom is alternated too. If I'm not doing the kitchen, I'm doing the bathroom. If he's not doing the bathroom, he's doing the kitchen. Our bedroom is usually dusted every two weeks. We are supposed to do our own laundry, but often forget, and with his mother picking at it to make a load when she does laundry, we sometimes don't bother with doing it. We change our bedding every two weeks as well, with washing the comforter atleast once a month sometimes more.
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• China
26 Jul 09
Hello, somecowgirl, you're so organized, and alternate is a good way i want to learn from you. Maybe in the future I will do it too. In my family, my mother do almost all of these(I and my sister are working far away from family). I don't want the similar situation happen between me and my future husband. At least he has to do something.
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
6 Sep 09
I wish I could take the compliment but I really can't. I am organized in ways that I like to rearrange. I was not very good at cleaning as a child (doing chores) but am forcing myself to do more so that I can get used to doing more and not dread it (as I often do now). My fiance has a job now, so I do all the chores on wednesday. It really helps me to do more. With me not having a job yet, I have no reason to not help out around the house. This will also help me to get the chores done faster without breaking because I want to come on mylot, or play a game. This will help when I get a job as well, and we get our own house. MORE CHORES THEN, lol. Well good luck to you and I hope you find more time to practice doing chores. It's not something people want to really do, but it can be fun if you make it into a game!
@srganesh (6349)
• India
31 Jul 09
No!I don't divide any house work like that with my wife.But I use to help her in cleaning the house and washing clothes in the machine whenever possible.Earlier i used to help her in cooking too but washing dishes,I haven't tried.But this dividing is more concerned with the couples where both go to jobs.For my wife who is a home keeper alone,my helps are valued more.Cheers!
• China
6 Aug 09
Hey, srganesh, you're right, this dividing makes more sence when the couple both go to work. If your wife stays at home, she will naturally do more than you do. But remember to occasionally offer your hands to her, she will appreciate that.
@littleowl (7157)
21 Jul 09
Hi lynette, my son lives with me he is an adult and he works shifts, so I do the housework when he is at work and he does it on his days off, as for cooking he does his and I do mine sometimes we may have a takeaway, so that works for us...LoLo
• China
21 Jul 09
Hello, littleowl, why not cook together with your son? This might save time and money I guess.
21 Jul 09
Hi lyn, I do all the housework but he only does the washing as he does a lot of biking and wears his bike clothes, I wouln't touch it and told him so, and that is why he ended up wahing all the clothes. Tamara
• China
21 Jul 09
Wow, tamara, you're a good wife. If I got married, I will divide housework with my husband, otherwise i can't afford, it's too tired after a day's work. Thanks for sharing.
@VisuUnome (208)
• India
21 Jul 09
yes i obviously do that
• China
21 Jul 09
Thanks, do you mind sharing how will you divide?
@bmuchler (442)
• United States
18 Aug 09
Depends on the day. Most of the time I do all of the cleaning. If I am overwhelmed by three kids or family issues I will ask my husband to help. I have a 7 year old and 1 year old twins. All boys. So my days can be pretty hectic with appt's and keeping schedules, things like that. I do not work outside of the home. I kind of feel I should be doing the cleaning since I am home. My husband does half of the laundry though. Which I am very thankful for. We seem to have a neverending pile of laundry.
@Porcospino (16425)
• Denmark
12 Aug 09
My husband and I have divided the housework between us. I don't like to cook, so my husband has offered to cook for us which I am very happy about. We both do the dishes and we both clean the house. We have a cat and six rabbits, so we have to clean the cages and cat's toilet, and we usually share the work. We plan on buying some guineapigs, and when we buy them, it will become my responsibility to the clean the cage, the cat will become my husband's responsibility, but we will still clean the rabbit's cages together. My husband does the laundry. I really appreciate that. When I was living with my ex I did the laundry for years, so it is very nice to be able to relax a bit