Dyslexia

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United States
July 21, 2009 3:45am CST
I have dyslexia.It's not like other things out there. A lot of people don't understand I can learn,it just takes longer. At times I feel like my high school diploma is for nothing. I feel like there in no way I catch up to where I need to be. A teacher one time told me there is only so much one can learn. That they will never be smarter than what they are. I really hope he is wrong but as more and more time pass by I don't think so. I feel like I will learn some thing then forget it so fast. I can read,but not spell.Math I can only go so high. My mom has tried to teach me but every time was in vain. Maybe I am at my point to being smart?Maybe this is as good as it gets. I don't know.What do you think?
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@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
22 Jul 09
I don't think I like your teacher, he/she should wash their mouth out with soap! My brother is dyslexic. When he was in school teachers would tell him he was stupid because they didn't understand why he couldn't read the page or write the notes on the chalkboard. He became so disheartened that he gave up. My family believed differently though and we pushed him and worked with him. Despite the fact that he can't process written materials when looking at them he is one of the most brilliant people I know. He has proven this to me over and over again. He now has a great job, he is the boss, and he still has the same problems. Dyslexia does not mean that you are not as smart as others, not at all! All it means is that you have to learn things in a different way than others. It has nothing to do with your brains compacity for learning or retaining knowledge, your connection between your eyes and brain is just wired differently than most and works different. Don't let this stop you EsmeraldaB!!! And don't listen to those who are ignorant and don't understand what dyslexia is.
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• United States
23 Jul 09
Thank you FFFrocks,can I ask what does your brother does?
@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
23 Jul 09
Here is part of the description for dyslexia from an online medical dictionary: The condition appears in all ages, races, and income levels. Dyslexia is NOT a disease, but describes rather a different kind of mind that learns in a different way fron other people. Many people with the condition are gifted and very productive; dyslexia is not at all linked to low intelligence. In fact, intelligence has nothing to do with dyslexia. Anway, what worked for my brother may not work for you as dyslexia can differ from person to person. What we did was look up a local tutoring facility. Many of them have teachers that specialize in many different learning techniques for those with dyslexia. I strongly advise you to do the same! My brother learned to recognize words by associating them with sound. Some things that worked for him were: My brother would sit down with someone in the family and we would read a page out loud together at a slow pace. This way he not only has a visual representation but an audio representation of the words he was trying to understand. He also learned to break words up, not recognize it as a whole, but by its parts. For example, the word RECOGNIZE. It's kind of like he sees 3 words. REC, OG, NIZE. He learned not only to see the word but 'hear' the parts of the word as well. I am sorry if this doesn't make too much sense it is hard for me to explain!
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@FFFrocks (306)
• Canada
23 Jul 09
To this day he still asks for help if he needs to read an important document. He will be the first person to tell you there is no shame in asking for help!
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@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
21 Jul 09
He-hee! You're in a good company! Look who all have been dyslectic: http://www.dyslexia.com/qafame.htm This list proves that a person is able to overcome everything! BTW, I'm dyscalculic. In my solid age I still have problems with adding 47 to 64... i have to THINK about half a minute until I'm getting the result... is it 111? Thanks, God, for calculators! And I still remember how surprized I was, when I realized that to get 25% of something, all I have to do is to divide it by 4 (I was about 30 then). Anyway, I find it great, you're here on myLot... you're a fighter! I wish you a lot of luck!
• United States
21 Jul 09
Thank you kiiizu. It took me 13 yeas to learn to spell the word Hello. The way I did it was by telling my self that its the he to times but the 2nd time the h has no bridge.
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@kiiizu (1901)
• Estonia
21 Jul 09
That was a great solution indeed! You are a very smart and creative person, Esmeralda, you have to be proud of yourself. Once more: good luck!
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• United States
22 Jul 09
On the the 25%,really all you do is divide by 4? Wow...I did not know that,thank you.
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi there Esmeralda.Ü Having this disorder does bother you, right? But i read in an article that: [i]"Dyslexic people are visual, multi-dimensional thinkers. We are intuitive and highly creative, and excel at hands-on learning. Because we think in pictures, it is sometimes hard for us to understand letters, numbers, symbols, and written words. We can learn to read, write and study efficiently when we use methods geared to our unique learning style."[/i] Why don't you try these site: Davis Dyslexia Correction® It says here that it provides tools to overcome problems with reading, writing, and attention focus. These methods enable children and adults to recognize and control the mental processes that cause distorted perceptions of letters and words. Once students can be sure that their perceptions are accurate, they can resolve the underlying cause of their learning difficulties through methods that build upon their creative and imaginative strengths. I hope you don't lose hope in your disability and i hope we could be good friends here.
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• United States
21 Jul 09
I will do that thank you koalapenguin.
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@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I believe everyday we all learn something new, whatever it is a movie, or a story or a piece of information we are all storing an experience away in our memory banks, I believe your teacher is wrong. I have seen other people with dyslexia and you are ahead of the game Esme, don't sell your self short because things are not happening fast. Math is not my strength either, I have try to teach you what I know and you have tried your best to learn it too, it is a matter of if you like the subject or not.
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• United States
21 Jul 09
I love you.
@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I love you too.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
22 Jul 09
I love you both
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
22 Jul 09
I know how hard it must have been for you.. I've never had any experience people having Dyslexia. But I have heard lots of people saying that people with Dyslexia are very intelligent. If geared to the right thinking channel, a lot of wonderful things can be done.. I will not be surprised should there be rulers and leaders or scientists suffering from Dyslexia before..
• United States
22 Jul 09
It is hard,but only when at some times. There are things that I will get before my class. I don't know why.On other times I will never get. Some will think I was playing dumb and get mad at me.
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
22 Jul 09
I understand what you mean there.. It is not 'easy' for people to understand even after they have known the truth about it..
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
21 Jul 09
Maybe that teacher was talking more about herself You are barely out of school and have so many years ahead of you to learn things. The important thing to remember is that most important Life lessons are not taught in any regular school, they are taught in the School Of Hard Knocks, meaning that we learn from our mistakes I agree that you will have a tougher time than some with your dyslexia but you cannot let that keep you from succeeding, you just have to work harder at some things. Check out this list of famous people that had or have dyslexia http://www.dyslexia.com/qafame.htm Hey, if Billy Bob Thornton can succeed, you can too
• United States
22 Jul 09
...wow...that's a lot.
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@fwidman (11515)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Yes, it is quite a lot of famous people on that list. Who knows, someday maybe your name will be on a list like that Just remember that you need to work at it, and try to find humor when you mess up. Jay Leno often messes things up when he is reading the cue cards and then makes fun of himself. It is better to laugh at yourself than to have others laugh at you. Remember too, what I keep trying to drill into your lovely head... no one can make you feel stupid without your help :)
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
25 Jul 09
I was/am dyslexic also. When I was a kid my father would be upset because I could crochet a blanket but not read. My mother's aunt somehow taught me to read and I don't have many problems with it any more. I've gotten good grades all through school after that and only really have a problem with it when I'm very tired. The biggest thing I really have a problem with all the time is when I have to look into a mirror to do something or when I'm backing up in the car.
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• United States
25 Jul 09
Wow... Thank you.
• United States
23 Jul 09
first off the teacher who told you that you couldnt do better should have been kicked in the butt! shame on that person!! we have 3 members of our family that severely dyslexic. it has NEVER stopped them. granted it may slow them down - but they have learned to go at their own pace and learn what the WANT to learn. and that is ok! as far as your diploma being useless. well yes and no. One needs a diploma nowdays to qualify for most jobs (silly but there it is)and for high level university but overall in the general scheme of things - its useless. and NOT because of your dyslexia but because high school nowdays does NOT teach you real life skills nor does it teach you good job skills. if i may give you an example: my son in law has been told most of his life that he was to 'dumb' to learn (errrggh!!) he has hearing & speech issues too. this same young man - once he decided that 'everyone' was WRONG has learned a great many things. He's very good with his hands and making things. right now after less than 2years is learning management in the towing company he works for because he is their Best driver and he is also learning locksmithing at the same time. He is VERY good at that too. its proving to him what my family and my also severely dyslexic husband have been trying to convince him of since we met him - HE is SMART and CAPABLE. and to NEVER let anyone put you down. it IS harder for you than some people = thats true- but that doesnt make them better. my husband has been a medical equipment repairer for 25yrs and its a job he LOVES. and you have to be REALLY smart to deal with all that equipment- he also was called dumb as a kid or worse they would tell him he wasnt "trying hard enough" phooey. do the things you love - you will find you will start to do well when you stop worrying about being 'smart'. its funny how that works but it does :) if you want there are places that can help improve your reading skills - check around your community - and besides spell check is WONDERFUL LOL! take care and good luck - you will do well i am sure
@kikker69 (19)
• United States
22 Jul 09
i was labeled that too but have now got the label learning disaled in college be careful don't get to fear i have this to and a little girl thats labeled addhd and is spec. ed. classes just like i was she has had help and is going to make it too... and so will you if you need help lets talk here is my email. landra_lowe2002@yahoo.com your smarter that those tests can proove.
• United States
22 Jul 09
Thank you kikker69.
@yugasini (12839)
• Anantapur, India
22 Jul 09
he esmeralda, you are correct,people are like that only and you find some good also,some body told that only 25 percent good people are there,thats why the we are living,if the percentage of bad people will reach to 100 percent ,entire world will diminish...do not worry you are good...have a nice day
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• United States
22 Jul 09
Thank you yugasini.
@KrauseHome (35507)
• United States
22 Jul 09
My husband is in Dyslexic. I have seen times that he gets frustrated from it, and even though he might not make the Best income compared to his brother and sister, he has been at the same job now for 24 yrs. and is making a decent income, so it has not been in vain for sure. But personally with anything and anyone in life, it is up to us what we want to do with it that counts. Do you want to only be who everyone else expects you to be and measure up that way, or do you want to prove to yourself and others you can do so much more as well? Personally find what you are good at, and wanting to do in life and improve on it. Find where you can improve if need to be without pushing yourself too much by getting too frustrated as well.
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• United States
22 Jul 09
Thank you,I think I know what I will do now.
@dmrone (751)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Hi! I never have believed, nor will i ever believe that people quit learning. You have to try harder than others, and that means that you don't give up. I have a special needs son, and he can learn, but some things get messed up with the way his brain tells him what a person has said, or even the simple things like his stomach being full. That does not mean that he can't learn, it just means more effort has to be put into teaching and learning. So don't give up, and don't look down. You can do it. Good luck.
• United States
22 Jul 09
Thank you.I hope you don't mind me asking but what does you son have?
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
www.avko.org is a very good site. My thanks to the person who posted it. I have a friend who has a son with dyslexia, and is panicking. He obviously uses the spell checker for emails etc. but when it comes to taking notes at meeting and things like that, he has to bluff his way through. I am going to go into that site to study on ways to help him.
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• United States
22 Jul 09
That's good.
@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
hello there......i have heard about dyslexia but im sure if its correct.... i heard that people with dyslexia read "B" as "D" or vice versa... they have difficulty in reading? well that is what i remember to what i heard. well correct me if im wrong... Everyday we can learn, even teachers can learn from their students....let us not limit learning things through books.... let us widen our horizon... have a nice day...
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• United States
21 Jul 09
Thank you.
@fkys509 (99)
• China
21 Jul 09
Hi, EsmeraldaB YOur rank is 8 now, pretty, right. Then I think you'd be very confident about yourself. Learn longer is not big problem, I think. Actually lots of people are wasting huge amount of time doing nothing. My suggestion is that you can pick up a direction you like the best and insist on it. You are still in high school or already graduated? Wether you are still in high school or not, still a long to go forward. Keep self-condidence and stick to your goal! :)
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• United States
21 Jul 09
Thank you,I have graduated. First class to do so.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
Hi! I appreciate your honesty and how you are aware and won't deny your problem. The good new is... once a person acknowledged his problem the solution is already starting! I just want you to know that I believe you can do it! You can find a way to learn and discover knowledge and skills you want to know, it only take a little more extra patience and perseverance. And many help from God. I will be praying for you girl! go ahead! Set a goal and dream then reach it! Don't let anything stop you on the way...
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• United States
21 Jul 09
Thank you.I just don't think I should lie. I tried that,then I just looked more stupid.
@ShibbyKid (279)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Do not give up on yourself, you have to believe you can do it and take extra time out to practice more. Keep telling yourself you will make it, i know you can do it. I use to be dyslexic, always got my letters backwards and mixed words up, my teachers hated it, they never took the time out for me. Then my mom started schooling me from home in our spare time and i wanted to do it for me and i am still learning slowly. I have improved so much, you could barely tell anymore and i believe you can do it too.(:
• United States
30 Jul 09
Thank you,that was cool of your mom to do that. If I ever have kids I want to home school them.
• United States
30 Jul 09
Yeah, so do i. But the only reason i want to is because i do not want them to face as much drama as kids start. It is ridiculous.
@MagicGuy (157)
• United States
6 Aug 09
I didn't even read through this discussion, I only wanted to say: Einstein was dyslexic (the greatest mind ever) So was Bruce Jenner (one of the greatest athletes) So, your teacher is wrong, you can become one of the greats, once you get use to this symbol thing, like Einstein did.
• United States
6 Aug 09
Thank you.
@mjhicks (319)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Any teacher who puts limits on someone because of a learning problem should be fired on the spot or sent back to kindergarten to start over. Everyone learns at different rates and in different ways. My son has a reading and spelling difficulty. One teacher suspected it is an undiagnosed form of dyslexia. Math was not a problem but spelling and reading were. It always took him loads of extra effort. He eventually got to a point that reading was not so much of a chore and found he could enjoy reading a story on his own for entertainment. Like I told my son It is more important to choose the right word and know what it means then to spell it correctly and it is more important to understand the theroy behind the math then to always get the right answer. Thankfully we live in the age of calculators and spelling & grammer check on the computer. Some of the most brilient minds in the world were told by their teacher that they would never amount to much. Einstine was one of them as many of our scientist and peace prize winners. Keep learning even if it is ever so slowly. Keep trying even if it takes you a hundred tries before you get it. You are not a failure till you fail to try.
• United States
28 Jul 09
Thank you mjhicks!