My Daughter...have I messed up?

United States
July 21, 2009 3:58pm CST
I am a very strong, independent, opinionated person. I have been a single mom, have run a business. I tend to be straight forward, and take no crap. However, when I was a little girl, I was shy, and quiet, I only had a few friends, and was terrified of people. My daughter is seven, and she is just like I am now. She has her own opinions, and isn't afraid to tell them. She is very straight forward and looks you in the eye when she is telling you what she thinks. She isn't a snotty child, maybe mildly sassy. And she is really well behaved. But how will she be in a few years. Should I have raised her a little different? I am scared at how much older she seems and am worried that this will be a cause for concern in her teenage years.
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• United States
21 Jul 09
You are fine! I think you have done a great job so far, or so it sounds! If her personality holds out she may be a lot safer than other kids her age. She may very well be the very one who stands up against peer pressure and follows what she believes! She probably won't take a lot of crap off others either and that will have it's own challenges, but she'll be fine!
• United States
21 Jul 09
Thank you for your great comment. I hadn't thought of it that way. What is funny is that her and my son are so different. He is shy, quiet, cries easily, and rarely forms his own opinion. I am trying to toughen him up, and soften her a bit. I can't believe sometimes that they are related.
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@ShellyB (5244)
• United States
21 Jul 09
I believe you are doing the best you can as a parent with what you know and with what you have. I am not sure what your daughter's teenage years will bring, but you will be able to deal with them when they get there.
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• United States
21 Jul 09
he again happy..i do have one question for you..what was ur mom like? was she quiet and shy liek u were when u were little? i ask because it woud make perfect sense to me..YOu are strong..independent..take no crap woman..and your daughter sees this..and idolizes you.of course..ur her mom and the only one she has..also..ur a single mom..so she doesnt see alotr of how the dad acts daily..right? im a singl emom and my son is AN EXACT DUPLICATE of me..to the bone.teh dad is and never has been aro8und so he doesnt know any other way..and i wouldnt worry..i think she will be just fine..besides alot of people dont come out of the shell they were born in.and u also have ot remember..kids arent like they were when we were little..its a much different world..and they act older no matter what mostly..so dont be scared..im sure with everything ihave u have doen a kick a$$ job and a great mom with a super lil daughter:)