Is it right to call mother by her name? How do you call your mother ?

@SHAMRACK (8576)
India
July 23, 2009 1:24am CST
Recently I saw a woman calling her mother by name. At first I though it might be her friend, but when it was completed she told me that it was her mother. As in our place I have never heard anyone calling their mother by their official name. I do call my mother as “mummy” and most people in our place call mother as “AMMA” and this is in Malayalam language a language of South India. We all do respect our mother and I hope this respect is also projected in way we call our mothers.
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@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
23 Jul 09
God morning SHAMRACK, Well, in some familys they teach their children to call their parents by their names. But I think normaly it is that we do say mummy or mum. My son say mum to me, and when I get tired of hearing him say mum over and over again...I say mummy me here and mummy me there.My way of saying it is enough. But again, I have respect of my mother so I say mother to let other people know she is my MOTHER. As you did thought that her mother was a friend just becouse she called her by her name. You easaly get mixed up.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
23 Jul 09
Thanks for responds, I hope may be mothers are like friends too..
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@Jennyleen (249)
23 Jul 09
Im calling my mother as MAMA..:) sometimes when i amke fun of her, i call her jocelyn which is her name.. lolx.. she dont mind it anyway..:D cause maybe she knows im a bit crazy, but she thinks im loud and really crazy nyaha.. lolx
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
28 Jul 09
A friendly mother
• Canada
23 Jul 09
Different people feel differently about this topic, and people will do what is right for them. Just because I choose to call my mother "Mom" (Mommy when I was little) does not mean that is the right thing for everyone to do. As long as families are in agreement, that is all that should matter.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
4 Oct 09
Yes that is right
• India
23 Jul 09
Amma Is Used In all South Indian Languages Dear Friend .. I Don't feel It is Right to Call Your Mother By Her Name .. It is Disrespectful .. I Remember once when I Was Younger I Was Angry I Wanted to call her by her Name .. Thank God, i didn't .. Do More On myLot .. Thank You ..
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
12 Oct 09
I too from South India and here most people call mother by Amma.
@defcon505 (919)
• United States
23 Jul 09
In the Philippines we call our mother not by their name. It would mean that you don't respect your elders if you call them by their name. We call our mothers nay, ina, mama, inang, and many more since we have many different ethnic languages.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 09
korek..tma yan..respeto!!
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
6 Aug 09
That is a something new to me I could know
@adhyz82 (36249)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 09
same as defon, in my country indonesia it`s not polite say our mother by her name. we only say or call our mother like Mama, Mami, bunda etc. i think many asian countries had still keep the tradition , call her/his mother or father not by their name but their function or roles.
• Malaysia
23 Jul 09
It has to be mommy, mom or mama. Any other means of calling is difficult for me to digest. It feels like lowering the rank of the person who raise you. It's like seeing you are equal to your mom. Never. We are never an equal. Mom's the best.
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@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
I think Americans do that but I don't think they consider that as disrespect, or at least to some families it is normal. My family is conservative too,I am sure to get a slap in the face if I call my mother by name. I call her mommy and I train my kids to call me mommy too. I wouldn't want my kids calling me by name no matter how close we are.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
28 Oct 09
That is really a important part in family to teach good manner especially to the kinds. The way they get better teaching from family especially is projected in their behavior too.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
25 Jul 09
Hi First of all I am happy to learn that you are from Kerala. Earlier I was not aware the same. Regarding your question, In India, especially in South nobody can imagine to call their mother by name. Giving respect to mother is a part of our culture and we are keeping that respect by calling her as ‘amma’ (Mummy). But in north I have seen that mothers are not getting that much respect (I am not saying about the whole population, but only about a minor part). I had a colleague and he told me that he is calling his mother by her name and he never felt any guilty on that because he used to call her name from childhood. So what I gathered from this, some people are not treating this as a disrespect (calling mothers by their name) and I think they are right. We should keep the respect in our heart and if we have respect and love to our mother I think that is enough and the way of calling is less important.
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
25 Jul 09
Yes, respect should come from heart I feel it would be a respect without impurities.
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@curious888 (1212)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 09
To call mother by her name is not right. This shows that we don't respect elder. Here, normally we call mother "MAK" (Malay), Ma, Mummy (Chinese ), Amma (Indian). Am I right, Malaysians ?
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• United States
23 Jul 09
I csll her mama and when we are playing around i call her by her first.she calls me sis or sus sometimes which is short for sister.
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• United States
23 Jul 09
If I was to call my mother by her name she might slap me. I call her momma. I think it is disrespectful to call her by her name.
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
28 Oct 09
Yes, I hope the culture in each family would show in the way they call their mom. May be the lifestyle and other aspects too would highlight the way one call their mother.
@chi2nasrin (1101)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 09
We don't call our mothers by their names, it is considered rude and disrespectful.. even when she is a stepmother, we still don't call her by her names. I call my mum as "mama". Even her grandchildren call her "mama".
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
23 Jul 09
I don't believe anyone can call his/her mother by her name, its so disrespectful.. I call my mom, mummy and same do my kids call me....Think if someday i may get angry with my mom, and do try calling her by her name, i don't think any words will even come out of my mouth ... Here in our indian culture, to respect our husbands, we even don't call them by their name..
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@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
17 Nov 09
Culture has a prominent role in every place
• United States
23 Jul 09
i don't usually call my mom by her forst name i just say "mom" but if i can't get her attention then i call her by her first name .but that is the only time.
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@skyhss (1142)
• United States
23 Jul 09
i usually just call my mother Mom unless she does something that shocks me, them i call her Mother or if i'm teasing her then i call her Mommy. i went thru a stage when i was about 15 when i wanted to call he by her name but she put an end to that real quick:)
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@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
23 Jul 09
I call my mom "Mama". I have one friend who always called her mom by her first name. She's the only person I actually know who did that. I would feel very uncomfortable calling my mom by her name. It just wouldn't feel right.
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• Philippines
23 Jul 09
it actually depends on the culture of a certain place. here in the Philippines we don't call our mothers by their first name because it is impolite and disrespectful. Same way as we call our older brother/sister as 'kuya or ate' (native dialect in the Philippines we call Tagalog) :) this is unless the relationship between the mother and children is not so formal (meaning they almost treat each other like friends) and we call them cool moms. but in my case calling my mom with her first name is a no-no.. we were brought up in a conservative and traditional Filipino family. you obey your parents always.. there are no buts, no ifs.. yes sounds strict but almost all of households in the Philippines are like that. so i would say it depends on the country because we have different traditions..
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@bhabytart (1116)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
hello there....i call my mother "meh or mommy" i don't call her by first name. for me it sounds as if i don't have respect for my mother.there are a lot of names we can call our mother here in the Philippines: MOMMY, MAMA, INAY, INA, MAMITA, MADER, NANAY, INANG, MA, MEH and still a lot more.... now there are some country that is used to calling their mothers and fathers by their first name.... i think this things differ in every country. so its up to them if they respect or not their parents... have a nice day....
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@shhheila (1845)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
if u call ur mom with her name... there's no sign of respect. i call my mother "mama" or "nanay"... filipino term for mother
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@winkski (10)
• United States
23 Jul 09
In every places there different cultures... as to how you address your mother... by name or by what your culture teach you... In my place we call mothers as mama, inay, ina, inang, mommy ... me i call my mother mamang...it may looks different but it still shows love and respect to my mother....whom i derly missed....She is happy in handsof our LORD since 2003
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• Portugal
23 Jul 09
It sounds strange calling our mother by her name, but everybody has his own habits. As lons as there is respect, I can accept that. I personally call my mother "mum".
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