My boss is having an affair

@jojorv (201)
Philippines
July 23, 2009 11:34pm CST
I'm very close with my boss and his family. I usually get invited by his wife to join them in family celebrations like birthdays, anniversaries and the like.In some occasions i even spend holidays with my boss and his family. A few days ago, the wife of my boss called me and she was crying.according to her, her husband is having an affair and she confronted me if i knew something about it. i said, i am not aware of it and i assured her that her husband is not cheating on her. but yesterday, i caught my boss having an intimate moment with one of our co-worker. that co-worker is a male. am i just paranoid or what?
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@windymyre (210)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Like some people here have already suggested, I would try to stay out of it as much as possible. My boss's wife at work is very jealous & is always calling asking if he is there, when he left, where he was going, etc. I tell her, which is the truth, that my office is on the other side of the building & I don't usually know if he is there or not, but let me put you on hold real quick & I'll get his secretary for you!
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Hi, This is a very sad situation you see unfolding in your friends' lives. However, I don't believe that the wife need you to confirm her suspicions about whether her husband is having an affair, her woman's intuition had already confirmed it for her. We, women have a difficult time accepting that women's intuition is a gift of protection and we need to listen to it more often. I don't know what I would do in this situation. Would I tell the wife, confront the husband, confront the co-worker, pretend the affair isn't happening and continue being a friend who joins the for parties and get-togethers at their home. Hard choice.
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
That is shocking indeed. That puts you in a very awkward position since you are working for him and you are a close friend of the family. Well since you are close to both of them then I would first approach your boss about it. Talk as a friend and get his side of the story of what is really happening. Go there as a friend and someone to talk to and not as a judge. After that it is better that you don't put yourself deep into their problem it is a very serious probelm that they themselves must thresh out.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
24 Jul 09
I wouldn't call you paranoid, but if I were you I would stay out of it, I know it is a hard situation to be in but I have found in life people don't usually appreciate the truth in matters like this and friendships are often lost because someone thought they were doing a friend a favour by telling them things...sad but true.