Do you believe in yourself? about self-esteem.

China
July 24, 2009 12:13am CST
I'v heard someone said,"Why compare yourself with others? No one in the world can do a better job of being you than you can."and there's also a saying,"No one can love you before you love yourself." Sometimes people may think that someone is showing off but I think we should love ourselves and try our best to show our success and happiness to the world. But I'm afraid sometimes we are hit by others' cruel words or action if we're too proud. Self-esteem is preciously. Should we revel in our own gifts or abilities whatever others' saying? Share your opinions.
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@kun2349 (23475)
• Singapore
24 Jul 09
We should believe in ourselves, as well as in others ^_^ Because without others, there wont be a 'ME' ^_^ Everything we do in life, or any success, comes at the expenses of many others.. Without others failing in doing something, we ont have the opportunity to get it right ^_^ No matter how much we believe in ourselves, it's still something that's brought to us by others.. Though, we can only be ourselves, but nobody can be like us, but we need to learn thru them, before we know ourselves the best ^_^
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• China
24 Jul 09
Yeah but it's so difficult to balance that. There's not many people can do it. hehe. on the way to the success we need others' help and the most of all we need to trust ourselves.
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
yes i do, but i also accept critisicm from other people. i know also if i am good with one thing and where i am not. i am a singer and i believe that i am a good one but in the other hand studying new songs is a challenge for me too so if a sang a new song i do accept crtiticism so i can make it and study the song a little more. we shjould know how to balance the believe in yourself aspect. for sometimes too much beleiving in one self can lead to boastfulness.
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• China
24 Jul 09
Yeah it's so difficult for us to judge how to balance. Just like you that you say that learning a new song is a challenge for you coz you don't know whether you can sing it well for others to accept. lol ,,though sometimes we needn't get others' admissions ,we are slways limited by these.it's natural.
@devmitra (274)
• India
24 Jul 09
Helo Lucie.I believe in myself,I love myself and do believe that the Almighty has created everyone with some speciality.We just need to realise this speciality within us and care and love ourself,nomatter what we are.I have seen poor destitutes,some without eyes,hands or limbs.And I have seen them taking care of their life,just like anyone with eyes,hands or limbs would.This is respecting our own self,beacause it is the first step to respect others.
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• China
24 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your sharing. Your opinion is familiar with Shelly's and yes,caring for ourselves is as important as loving others.
@ShellyB (5245)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I believe in myself more than a few years ago, I believe I am able to do the right thing, to be honest and get what I need to get to be able to sustain myself, to work and improve myself, I know what you mean, we are not taught to love ourselves, and we do listen to the people who said negative things about us, it is sad but truth. We tend to believe in others first and we put ourselves second or last. But you know what? Is never to late to start believing in ourselves and loving us is a majoy step in also loving others.
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• China
24 Jul 09
Hi Shelly. you're right that there's many negative words and actions affect our judgements. And yeah, we should also care for ourselves besides loving others.
• China
25 Jul 09
Yes,I agree with what you said.for example:My English is very bad!but I still hard work and talk with others.however,my roommate laught at me !they say'Don't be so stupid!you are impossible,no matter how many time,money and energ you spend on it!' So,I give up.Until I fond a job,they request an assistant who konw English.I regret.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi tianling and thanks for your sharing. Don't give up and trust yourself.Don't listen to their mindless words. They have no rights to say so ,it only shows that they're unkind and they also have no confidence themselves. Don't care for them and just believe in yourself. Making mistakes is normal for every beginner. good luck and you'll be succeed if you try.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi tianling and thanks for your sharing.Don't give up and trust yourself.Don't listen to their mindless words.They have no rights to say so,it only shows that they're unkind and they also have no confidence themselves. Don't care for them and just believe in yourself.Having mistakes is normal for every beginner. Here you won't be afraid of making mistakes and as long as reading more,listening more and speaking more you'll be succeed . good luck.
@aabuda (1729)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
Yes, I definitely believed in myself. I don't care what other people say or comment about me. As long as, I am not taking advantage with other peoples' disabilities and weaknesses. I believed that I can make a difference to other people and to myself especially. I have just been in a tough situation wherein I almost lost love to myself; instead, I poured it to a particular someone but to no avail. So with it, I am now changing my views and horizons in life, that before you love someone, try loving yourself first and you will definitely make a difference!
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your sharing.good luck.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your sharing.good luck.
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I believe there is a difference between self confident, whether that be overly or not, and being a show off. It's good to revel in your own successes, this can help you feel better about yourself. However, I don't believe that anyone should put it to another, no one should rub it in another's face. Everyone has their different goals and levels of success that they are happy with. We don't know what other's goals are, and if we are too much of a show off, we can make another feel self conscious. Helping each other is the goal to keeping up self esteem.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your opinion. Having read your words I find that those speaking ill of us may be jealous for our success. No one know what we really mean and they just have no rights to treat us like that. And you're right,helping each other is good and it'll win our believe and confidence.
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@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
25 Jul 09
Yes people can be very jealous and that causes them to hurt another, they don't want the other to be happy... etc... I don't know all the reasons.
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
Gaining self-esteem is a journey each person I think needs to embark on. The older we become, the more we get to know ourselves, and hopefully the more we love ourselves despite our flaws and our shortcomings. The many experiences we face in life, good or bad, dictate our self-esteem. That being said, yes, i believe in myself now. It was not always the case though. I have been struggling with self-esteem for so long, but then you just go through a lot of things in life, then you just learn to accept YOU for all the flaws and imperfections that you are. Besides, if you don't love yourself first, who will?
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your sharing. good luck and hope that we all can find the truely "Us".
• Philippines
25 Jul 09
if I don't love myself,who else will?if I don't believe in myself,who will?I admit that there are days that my self-esteem is really low,but I always tell myself that there is still a tomorrow.I can always redeem myself.someone might put me down.I can make a mistake that will shake my personal beliefs,confidence,and how people will perceive me,but I always say that I can get past through it.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi coco.thanks for your sharing. Everyone will make mistakes but it's nothing , no one else can take the place of us. good luck.
• Canada
24 Jul 09
I think so, you're talent and ability is what makes you, you. Everyone deserves someone telling them they did a good job. They have value and they are unique. You can't have that one person telling you that if you listen to the other ones who say you're not unique or talented. Anyway show the world who you are I'm sure there's one person in your life who thinks you're great, listen to them.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your sharing. Yeah, everyone is unique and talented at his or her own space. We need to listen to those words that giving us kind advice but not be mindless. just believe in yourself and hold on.
@checkmail (2042)
• India
24 Jul 09
Hello lonelylucie this is checkmail and yes I also do belilve in myself first then other belive in me.The your dais saying is also 100% true there is nothing worng about it.Our sucess in life depends upon our ability to perform and our performance depends on our confidence.We have to belive in ourself first for doing any activity and also for sucess of it.Even other peoples can't belive you if you don't have any self esteem in you.Its upto us which qualitites we want to spread among the other peoples.Though we can keep aside some qualities for our loved one the most.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi checkmail.hehe.thanks for your answer.it's important for us to have confidence .good luck
• India
24 Jul 09
One should always have some self esteem to live life with pride and honour.Avery high self esteem is but harmful for human nature.Have a good day
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi ravirai and thanks for your answer.good luck.
• China
24 Jul 09
I believe in myself no matter how many difficulties i encounter. In my opinion, that is very important for us to conquer the special situation.
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your sharing. good luck.
@teeaye98 (287)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I must say, when I was younger I believed in myself. I could do, be, accomplish anything! THen life hit me. I got married, had children and didn't finshish anything I started. My husband would constantly beat me down (motionally), but his efforts were so subtle throughout the years that I didn't notice it until now. So I finally got up the nerve to do something about it! In doing this, I am working on my self esteem so that I can bec the person I was when I gratuated high school. I would tell anyone, try not to let other's words get to you. In spite of what they say, you can be the opposite! You are you and should be happy being you!
• China
25 Jul 09
Hi teeaye.Thanks for your sharing.All of us had high self-esteem in our childhood that many of us had dreams to be scientists, artists,etc. and tried our best to achieve them though our power is small.As time gose by we are less than dreamers and do little to paint our life we want. As a woman , you're determined and someone who has a good head on her shoulders. Men will often beat us down motionally and they don't care our feeling of being a truely "ME". We have the rights to fight for ourselves and you are right. So happy to see that you'v found your meaning and purpose in life. Thanks again and good luck.
• India
24 Jul 09
yes i do belive in my self . i always kep my sprits high , think of the people who are lower to me , like my maid servant . or other poor people , who have nothing in their lives
• China
24 Jul 09
yeah, when we think of them we'll find our own truth.
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
i totally agree with you.self esteem is important and we should always believe in ourselves with the things that we can do. of course overconfidence or pride is another thing..so there must always be a balance with humility. but i agree wth you when it comes to self confidence. i have very little of that before and im starting to regain it by not listening to the comments that are mindless but are bent on pulling me down.of course you know what's good or bad for you,..but wallowing too much in self doubt will never help. thanks for reminding me :-)
• China
24 Jul 09
Yeah,we needn't listen to those mindless words unless it's useful for us to perfect ourselves. Revel in ourselves too much isn't right and helpless.thanks for your comment.good luck
@abanerji (1026)
• India
24 Jul 09
i think we must love and respect ourself. one should be proud of oneself. being proud of abilities and skills is nnot bad untill the pride takes over. keep in mind that confidence and smartness are good but over -confidence and over -smartness are bad. if i am proud of my abilities then i would try to achieve more but if i become boastful of my skills then i would not improve and soon i would lose what i have. hence, revealing our qualities and letting people know about them is good. if we don't let the world know then what is the purpose of the capability that we have..? what if a doctor says i am capable of healing a person but i won't because i don't wish to reveal my quality...??? so show your talent tot he world but don't get carried away. be modest.
• China
25 Jul 09
Yeah,it's advisable to respect ourselves as respecting others. We do need confidence but do not lose ourselves in it.Thanks.
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
I sometimes is at fault coz I have this low self-esteem. I view myself as somebody who has a lot of flaws.
• China
24 Jul 09
Hi and thanks for your sharing. I also had low self-esteem before so I sometimes felt myself very uneasy when I was doing things I like and I felt others' telling tales about me, at that time I was so helpless. But no one can love myself than I do so we should believe in ourselves though we'll make mistakes.
• India
25 Jul 09
i would say that everyone loves himself and there is respectable amount of self esteem in everyone.its upto us whether we want to hold our heads high or just give up to situation.have a good day
@psphacker (1056)
• United States
24 Jul 09
Yes I believe in myself and always will.