What do you do when you see a homless person?

United States
July 25, 2009 7:06pm CST
Earlier today, my boyfriend and I were sitting in my kitchen, and I happened to look out the window and I saw a homeless man jump into the dumpster looking for cans to turn into the recycling center for money. My heart broke and I took a bag of our cans and ran down and gave it to him, my boyfriend thought I was being too generous. The thing that he forgets is that I know what it is like to be homeless, when I was a little girl my family and I were homeless for awhile, and my parents would gather cans to turn for money, so when I see a homeless person, I HAVE to try and help them even if I don't know their story or why they are homeless, I just have to.....so what do you do when you see a homeless person? How does it make you feel?
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@defcon505 (919)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I feel sad because they can't afford a home to live in but some of them don't want to go to State funded shelters. They should go to the shelter since its free not in the parks. It makes the tourists scared when they see them.
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@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
26 Jul 09
Anyone's heart would break upon the site of homeless people. It is quite disheartening to see people in that situation. There you are, you have your house and have the convenience that life affords. But we have to bear in mine too that we have worked hard for what we have. The thing that we can do is to share our blessings with the less fortunate. Government agencies should have a program that houses homeless people.
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@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
26 Jul 09
I will feel sad and my heart will tell me to help that homeless person, but I knwo I'm not able to do so. So what I will do, if I have money at that time, I will give some money, and if I don't, I send that person a prayer. Looking that kind of person will make thankful that I have a house to live in and food to eat. But I will not look down on them, as I know, that kind of thing could happen to anyone, even to me.
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@grace118224 (1038)
• China
26 Jul 09
You are such a nice person to help homeless persons. i can meet a lot of such people if i go to street . Most of time i make no feeling about them because i move too fast to have the time to think of their sad stories . There are still some annoying false beggars hanging around to ask for money . We just don't have the sense to take a pity on them . Of course if there's someone who is really worth to help i would like to try my best.
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• Canada
26 Jul 09
Wow you are a really nice person with such a kind heart. However I'm more the contrary. What I do 99% of the time is just continue what I'm doing, such as walking to the mall, going to work, going to the subway. I basically ignore them and block them out, because one time, when I tried to help a homeless, and not knowing he was drunk, hit me, so I've always had a bad impression on them.
• United States
26 Jul 09
I always feel really bad for them, but there are occasionally some who scare me. Like they scream at you and stuff. But most of the time, I see them and I want to help them. If I have money on me and I pass by them, sometimes I give them money. Other times if they're sleeping/in a group/etc. I don't, but I still feel really bad. There's lots of homeless people who choose to be so though, right? And some who fake it. :( Too bad many people now are hesitant or reluctant to give money/help to homeless people now cause of those few who are lying, etc.
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• Canada
26 Jul 09
If they look like they need assistance, I refer them to the local drop-in centre, where they can get a meal, a shower, and refered to a shelter, even help with finding employment or other things they may need. Living where I live is very nice, because we have many resources to help the homeless.
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@mari61960 (4893)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I feel bad for all homeless people. I do know that some people are homeless by choice, young and old. I feel bad for them too, even though it is by choice you know they must be suffering at least internally. I do try to help like leaving cans next to the trash instead of throwing them away. I give to the shelters and have bought people meals and such. There is a homeless man in a town about 4 mile from mine. He is homeless by choice. Many people got together a couple of years ago and he was offered a place to stay, work etc. He did not want the help, he said he wants to live this way and was very appreciative of the offer to help, but asked that they help someone else that really needed or wanted it. He has been living this way, pushing his shopping cart around for over 10 years now. He is very well known and is not a nuisance. He is not a drunk or a bum so to speak. He is a war veteran on SSI. I still feel bad every time I see him. I try to remind myself that you can only help those that are willing to be helped. Perhaps your boyfriend need a reminder that Karma can be a real kick in the A$$. There is something to "we reap what we sow", "The Three Fold Law" etc. Brightest blessings, you will be rewarded. Mari
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Hello, Where I am it is not so common and I dont see it much in this area. However if I go into town it is common. It is sad really and they always are stnading outside a baseball game with a cup , and it says on the sign homless, but they dont look it , and are trying to just make extra money . I have seen in alley ways homeless families , and those are who I will give a blanket too or money . In NYC it is very common to see them.
• Chatsworth, California
21 Aug 09
Honestly, I tend to try to ignore them. If they don't come up to me, or see me, I'm not gonna bug them. Also I rarely do give money away to homeless people. There are always places they can go and I try to let them know that.
• Chatsworth, California
21 Aug 09
I know that sounds heartless and cruel. But I don't mean it to be. Ironically, I work in a homeless shelter.
@Citychic (4067)
• United States
8 Aug 09
what do you do when you see a homeless person. When I see a homeless person I think to myself. But for the grace of God, there goes I. As I've been through so many things in life myself that it's a wonder I even have my natural born mind. My heart goes out to people in that sort of situation. My prayers begin to go up on their behalf. I don't try to figure out how they got that way because I realize it could be any number of things. So I think that the best thing that I can do to help is to just pray for these people. If everybody prayed and gave whenever possible I believe it would help to reduce the number of poor people that are out on the streets. Happy mylot.
@kcoregon (302)
• United States
26 Jul 09
It seems that when it comes to homeless people, people tend to put them all in the same category-boozers, addicts, lazy, etc. It's unfortunate. One of my best friends was homeless as well for several years of her early adult life. She is now a mother of two and happily married and is fairly successful financially. And you know some people do choose this lifestyle. I don't think its because they want to be beggars and lazy. For some I think it is like a security blanket that they are afraid to let go of. Either way I try to help as much as I can. Shelters are often overcrowded, especially during the holiday season, and people should consider this when making such quick judgements and saying that they should just go to a shelter and voila problem solved. And anyways I have always believed that by giving I would get more in return. I remember hearing that to give your money away you would get more in return. I might not be rich in money but I have enough to live happily on. Why not share some of it with those who don't have enough?
@kcoregon (302)
• United States
26 Jul 09
Also forgot to add that it isn't always easy for the homeless to go out and get a job. If people don't trust them enough to give them money who is going to trust them enough to hire them? Again people's judgements are often times unfair.
• United States
26 Jul 09
Run Run Run Run Run Run Run Run Sike i do give them sometimes my loose change if i have extra :)
• United States
26 Jul 09
When I see a homeless person, it really breaks my heart, especially the handicapped person. Everybody always has his or her own home, but these people do not. It is really sad, and I feel sorry for them.
@RieRie (820)
26 Jul 09
If I saw a homeless person, as you described, going through bins, I'd try and help, because they're obviously desperate. But I've only ever seen homeless people begging for money in cities and I know there are some people just scamming, so I don't give anyone anything.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I do feel bad for them if they are homeless due to circumstances. I will help if they want help and if I'm able to. Once I offered a room to a homeless woman and she turned it down and seemed a little offended at my offer. There is a man here in town that is homeless by choice. He is highly intelligent but definitly different. The city offered to put him up in a nice apartment all expenses paid and he refused saying this is the lifestyle he chose. Are you sure the man in the dumpster was homeless? I ask because I have friends that go around collecting cans that are not homeless at all. They collect the cans for extra spending money. One friend bought himself a harley that he'd been wanting & paid for it entirely with can money.
• United States
26 Jul 09
seeing homeless people begging or looking for cans makes me wish i made just a little bit more money. a friend of mine and myself went to a bigger city so we could go to its mall and we happened on to a man that was homeless. My friend stops at a convenience store and buys him a bunch of food...and then holds up traffic to give it too him. I wish i had that kind of money cause damn i would love to help if i could. as it is right now i have to take care of myself and my needs.
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
26 Jul 09
hi spicysweetie, really you are generous to poor and homeless,i am also not having home,but i am in rented house,i have posted a discussion about "tith",we have to spend poor and orphans,ten percent of our income,if we start doing like that ,our income will grow...have a nice day with your bf
• India
26 Jul 09
I feel pity whenever i saw any homeless person.I just assume myself how it feels without home and shelter.Homeless people have to live on footpaths in col,hot and rainy season.It is very difficult to live without home.
@jeg2315 (197)
• United States
26 Jul 09
I don't give them money or food. It only alleviates the symptons of homelessness for the immediate time being, and is not a long-term effect. The money they get from strangers is merely used to subsist, not to do much of anything constructive to get into a better situation - otherwise they likely wouldn't be homeless. Of course I volunteer from time to time, but more and more it seems like I only do it because "it makes me feel good." But what am I really doing to cure the situation? I guess that's the dilemma...