Being rich makes it easier to be a b*tch?

@dawnald (84132)
Shingle Springs, California
July 27, 2009 9:42am CST
I saw an article about Leeann Rimes splitting with her husband and it got me thinking about celebrity splits in general. It sure does seem like having a lot of money makes it a whole lot easier to get a divorce. No agonizing about how you are going to pay the bills all by yourself. Who's going to take care of the kids? Hire a nanny. Who's going to clean the house? Well heck, you already have a housekeeper. I'm not saying it doesn't still hurt, but it sure does make it easier to get out. I wonder how many celebrity marriages would have ended up making it if the two people were forced due to finances to take a much harder look at themselves and their relationships. How many people here who have gone through splits would have been outta there much more quickly if they had all the money for whatever they needed?
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I have to agree with you 100% Dawn. If these celebrities had to face even half of the obstacles that we do, they would look at marriage and life a whole lot different. As for the poor folk there are many that I know personally that wanted to divorce their spouse, but couldn't because they were afraid to lose everything they worked so hard for. Men and women so in the long run they ended up working it out because they were poor and didn't want to lose what little they had to the other person. However I also know a few that said "Who cares if I lose it, it's not worth this misery".. but that's just a few compared to the many that did stay together. If you can't afford a good lawyer to help you, and you don't have enough money to just say " Ok I'll take this and you take this and that's that." Well you're pretty much screwed. My mother was married 5 times. I saw her go through 2 of the 5 divorces. My dad ( not biological but he's my dad ) left us after 13 years for many reasons. We were not terribly poor but we were not even financially well of to be considered middle class, so the main brunt of the divorce was custody over my younger brother and child support. Her last divorce the jerk stopped paying the mortgage exactly 5 months before he left her so that she would lose the home. She had retired from her job of 15 years working with Labor and Industries, and was waiting for the SSI to get approved etc.. well he decided he didn't want to wait it out with her and left. She lost the house and everything. I had moved in to try and help cover the mortgage but I could only afford 400 at the time and with her being 5 months behind there was no possibility of saving the house. Had she been financially better off though they would have easily done like most celebs do. Each go their separate ways and that's it. Once in awhile though you get the really greedy rich people that even though they could MORE THAN survive just fine with what they have, they want revenge so they go after the spouse tooth and nail in the divorce. Your statement "I think it's easier to get out if you have money and that some people who left a marriage because they could might have worked it out if they had been poor." Is so very true.
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
27 Jul 09
P.S.- I remember when Leeann first started out. She was more appreciative of life, she was young and not so spoiled, then when the money came into her life she totally changed. So yeah being rich does make it much easier to be a BEEP!
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
Ah the good old scr*w you attitude. People can be so lovely when hurt feelings are involved. That's sad....
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@olydove (1209)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Yeah, needless to say I know good old karma will catch up with his "A double snakes." It really sucks too because they bought the home for 90 k, and had it half way paid off. Well the person that bought it got it for cheap and turn around and sold it for 180K. I didn't tell her that, that would have just made it worse on her.
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27 Jul 09
Hi dawnald, Sometimes I wonder why they get married at all, I thinks its the fashion to get married and then divorce a few years down the line, so when they have kids I think the kids that suffer but then again those children wih show biz parents are used to it, yeah if they didn't have all that money they would do things different, I don't even think thy really love one another in the first place, its just money. Tamara
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
or it's some superficial kind of love that only lasts until the next greatest thing comes along.
@LittleMel (14059)
• Canada
27 Jul 09
it sure does make it easier. the process alone I heard costs thousands, from filing to dividing assets, and then lawyer's fee on top which is usually the highest. it's shocking though Leann is not my favorite singer but she kind of stay out of gossip so it's a shock to know it happened.
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
As soon as you get a lawyer involved, OUCH. But how many people are successful at divorcing civilly (with or without an attorney)...
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
having money doesn't give anybody the license to act like a b*tch! besides, with or without money, it's never nice to be one ---;-/
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Jul 09
license to be one no, but some rich people are anyway...
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
30 Jul 09
me either :-)
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
27 Jul 09
I had 2 splits in my life & money was not there to fight over but i was not going to live in he!! the rest of my life for any reason. It would sure have made it easier if i had been rich but i wasn't & still am not but i'm happy & to me that's what's important.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
You're right, it is. All that unhappiness and stress is bad for your health too!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
27 Jul 09
How true. it's also very hard to get over a broken heart, not sure u ever do really.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
yeah tell me about it!
@katsmeow1213 (28845)
• United States
27 Jul 09
So true. There've been times that I've thought if I had the money and the means, I'd leave my husband. Then I get bitter for awhile because I feel "stuck". Then we work it out and usually end up even happier than ever before, at least for awhile.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
Which means that there is some other basis for working it out besides just money (I would think).
• United States
27 Jul 09
My husband has said when he has moments like that he thinks about the kids... he can't see his life without them being there everyday. For me I think about what other type of guy I'm going to get if not him... these days it's far too difficult to find a faithful, hard working man. So I think maybe I should just consider myself lucky that I have one!
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
Thing is, real relationships are so much harder than imaginary ones. Real ones take so much work. If there is love there and there isn't abuse, it's probably worth hanging in there. There I go stating the obvious again. lol
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I would have been out much quicker. I had 4 kids, a grandson and nowhere to go and no money put aside as all of it went into helping out at the house..his house. Same with the previous marriage...I hung in because of money and then just left and dealt with the struggles. I raised all 4 of my kids on my own and with almost no help from the dads and well..they all have turned out pretty well. I may have hung in there longer than I should have for financial reasons but in the end...their wellbeing came first and I got us out of a bad situation and made the best of it. Money shouldn't matter but it really does play a part when you have to provide for the kids.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Jul 09
Yeah the friend I lost a couple of weeks ago stayed too long because of money (not having any)...
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
having lots of money really makes life easier.people who are rich can get away with virtually anything.they can easily pay for the divorce settlements.they can easily get the best nanny to take care of their kids.they don't have to worry about their kids' education,even if they split up with their partners.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Jul 09
It makes all those things easier, but it certainly doesn't make it easier to have a lasting relationship. But then again, maybe that isn't valued so much.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Hi Dawn, Girl you said it!! Of course money may have played a hand in the divorce but like you said, if you have money divorce is just a matter of letting the lawyers do all the dirty work. No worry about where am I going to live? When you have money, you can just walk out the door and send someone for your things. I think celebrity marriages are completely different than ours. They live differently. I watch Tori and Dean's reality show sometimes when nothing else is on. There is some normalcy there, but not really. If they run into a snag, they call their best friends or anybody. What makes it somewhat like a normal marriage is the kids. Oh well!! leenie
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
Yeah but how normal a life do those kids have?
• Bosnia And Herzegovina
27 Jul 09
Agree. But it's more easier when you don't really love you ex. And most of them (celebrities) probably don't. It's all about fame and fortune...
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
Yes, it's definitely harder when there's still some love there!
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
27 Jul 09
THat is a very good question....and I have seen so many people that have stayed together because of money! They live out their lives miserable because they don't want the other one to have part of most of what they accumulated!
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
Well that's no good. I can't imagine it can have been worth it to them in the end!
• United States
27 Jul 09
Um lets seeeeee.....just about EVERY relationship I can think of would end in a split without the cash flow. It seems to be what rules relationships these days!
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
I was thinking the cash flow would make it easier to leave...
@krajibg (11942)
• Guwahati, India
27 Jul 09
Hi dawn, This is indeed the power of money that buried human sentiment and emotion and and being intoxicated with the b1tch of money you go split without caring who is laughing and who crying. Now this is not only restricted within the celebs and has spread among quite common people too. Thy name is RELATION
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
too many people telling some of these celebrities things that they want to hear and pretty soon they're off with somebody new and then they wonder why that one doesn't last either...
@debrakcarey (19925)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Money does make things easier. Things like messing up your life...or fixing a dumb mistake. I think celebrities go through the same ordeals we poor folk do. They just do it on the front page of the magazines.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
yeah and they have people watch their children, clean their houses, pack their boxes, etc. for them...
@maezee (26911)
• United States
27 Jul 09
Wait, what's the question? If being rich makes it easier to be "a b*tch" or is easier when splitting up? Those are two TOTALLY different questions if you ask me! I think the only thing that's easier is probably the financial stufff. I can imagine the rest being just as difficult, though, especially with the help of tabloids constantly interfering with your life/relationships.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
Yes they are two totally different questions. The header was mostly an attention getter, to be honest. Although having money could make it easier to be a b*tch about leaving. Yeah, being a celebrity has other downsides, that's for sure. You may be able to move out and buy a new house and have other people do all the hard work for you because you can afford to pay them, but having your private business splashed all over the tabloids can't be fun.
@snowy22315 (33057)
• United States
27 Jul 09
You raise some good questions. I think anytime money isnt an issue things are easier. I jsut think that there are some things that can be dealt with alot easier if you have money and are able to use it. I think it would be very good.
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@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Jul 09
I think it's easier to get out if you have money and that some people who left a marriage because they could might have worked it out if they had been poor.