Internet a time waster or not

@suspenseful (40316)
Canada
July 27, 2009 6:36pm CST
My husband is on one of his "we don't need the internet," type of things. NOw this happened because today much of Shaw Internet was not working in parts of Manitoba and Ontario and only started to work around 4. And this was after I used my little pension money to pay for the groceries and also the present for our son and future daughter-in-law's wedding, plus bought a couple of pillow cases, as well as bought an outfit for the wedding myself because we had to pay for the renovations for the house. What timing? And how can you convince a man who only used the internet to download audio from Audible and emailed, that the internet is a necessity. I guess if we give up the internet, I will have to phone the bank each time I need to transfer money, I will no longer make money on mylot or through Ad sense on my blog because I will no longer be able to use the traffic exchange, no longer write anything so that would mean no more lap top. Can you think of other reasons why internet is necessary?
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36 responses
• United States
27 Jul 09
Having read many of your postings it seems that you are a very nice person and do a lot taking care of your husband so what I would do may not be your choice of reasons. However as am not so nice and if it was my husband I would tell him it was necessary to have the Internet to keep me occupied otherwise I could use the time I am no longer on the Internet to think about ways I could afford the Internet if he was not around to be so cheap and I would remind him of all I do for him.!!!!
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@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
28 Jul 09
I so agree with you She is a very nice lady who allows her husband to dictate to her every action in her life. OMG last week she had to buy rolls that were on sale instead of bread that she wanted. He dictates every moment of her life. I like her so much but I want to shout and tell her to get a life! If he wants the grass mowed then she has to do it. Why?
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• United States
28 Jul 09
cynthiann I saw that discussion too but I was too mad to even respond because I might have said something I regretted but this time was too much.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
30 Jul 09
I am mad too. He thinks that the internet is a time waster and I am just downloading and playing games. I do not like him blaming me for things. But at least he cannot use the phone unless I dial it and hand it to him, so he cannot cancel the internet. That is a good thing for him being disabled.
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
28 Jul 09
well, not if money can by made from the computer! i would hate to be without mylot for a long period of time, sure i could go to the library, but its just not the same! i need it for connection to friends and family, plus, i need it to get craft ideas which i make and sell!
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• China
29 Jul 09
yes.i like relax too
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
6 Sep 09
Our librry is too far away and besides I do not like going through a whole lot of books to get to the one I need. The internet is so much easier.
@suzzy3 (8365)
31 Jul 09
Just tell him it has been an expensive time but things will straighten out with money and whats the point in panicking.Tell him it is a good way to earn extra cash and it is your outlet.You can talk to friends and keep in touch with the world,you enjoy it and it is the only thing you have.Good luck.
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@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
27 Jul 09
How about to be able to stay in touch with friends that are in a differnt part of the world than you live.Seems to me you have plenty of reasons to keep the internet so pay for it with your earnings you make off of it.You have a great evening.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
30 Jul 09
That is a good idea, and it would be a reason for the internet, and that is what we women think, but men seem to think different. They do not think of getting touch with friends and figure that they can either meet them on the street, see them when they come here, use snail mail, or talk on the phone. So the internet for that reason is an addition. They seem to think internet is what it was used for at first, for business, etc.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
27 Jul 09
The very first thing that comes to mind is future pictures of grandchildren. Sure we can take some of our own, but what about the many yous son and his wife will take that can be instantly emailed to you. Also, at least in Australia, there are specials that are only available on the Internet. I couldn't live without it.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
29 Jul 09
We can also go to Walmarts with our Cd, and get prints made and we can also mail out the prints or a cd with the photos on them. But aside from downloading, emailing, what else is the internet good for? I mean I can make money off of it, and also for research, I can find out things without going to the library that is over a mile away and that requires me to find out when it is open and if the book I want is available. Also I can easily copy the article from the internet, then after getting the info. and writing in my own words, I can delete the article. But someone who has always driven to the library cannot understand that I do not want to walk to the library if I want to find out something.
@psphacker (1055)
• United States
27 Jul 09
In my opinion internet is not a time waster because I am making money with it.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
28 Jul 09
But what if you are not making money from it? Would it still be a time waster? My husband seems to think so. Of course if I went and wrote my novel long hand and sent it do the publisher, it would be rejected.
• United States
28 Jul 09
In our house the net gets used a lot..if not every day. I'll admit most of the time is to waste time on myspace or facebook or to play games. But the other times that we use it to buy groceries, funiture, other things that we may need for the house, or to look up directions or for a phone number. we don't keep a phone book in the house so the internet is considered our phone book. but the main thing that we use it for is school work and communication. I take online classes because I have 2 young kids and don't want to spend an arm and a leg paying for them to go to daycare during the day. And my spouse is in the military so when he is gone for months at a time the only thing that we have to communicate through is email. both our families don't live anywhere near us so we use it to communicate with them as well. But also if you can't afford the net don't get it. Our laptops get wireless and for some time we would use the neighbors net until we could afford it lol.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
28 Jul 09
ya just to keep in touch with friends that live miles away and we would miss you terriblly!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
23 Aug 09
That is one good reason. I hate making phone calls anyway and my hand writing is terrible. But I can sure write on the internet and people can read what I write instead of having to move it sideways or stand on their head to read it.
@Lakota12 (42684)
• United States
24 Aug 09
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I am sorry but i refuse to give up my internet..NO WAY!!! this is the things that gives you pleasure and if you give it up you are going to be very unhappy..I would not try to convince my husband to not give it up, I would just KEEP it regardless...Sorry but i think when you are married you should also have a life of your own, marriage is not a prison sentence It is a partnership...I think you have a right to be your own person....Pick something that your husband LOVES & tell him if he is willing to give it up then maybe you might give up the internet.. that should change his mind real quick...You are so into mylot & your computer you would just be lost without it, that is your intertainment like the TV is his...KEEP the INTERNET!!!!
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Plus men get jealouse of anything you spend time with!!!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
14 Aug 09
I think that it is, him resenting me being on the internet. Yet he wants me to get the email, and look up things for him. So I guess he cannot give up the internet either.
• Indonesia
27 Dec 09
I don't think that Internet is a time waster. Internet is very useful for everyone. We can get many information, socialize with friend, communication with friend, send message, make money online, and more! That's why many country that doesn't have internet connection want to have one!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
28 Dec 09
We do get a lot done with the internet, but there are some who think of computers and the internet as just game playing devices and time wasters. And they often try to get those on the fence internet wise to think their way. I do need the internet and I have to have it every day, except for holidays when we are out of the house, but my husband thinks the internet a time waster sometimes. I do not. When IO have to do something I get off of it and I do pay my bills online. It makes it much easier.
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
2 Oct 09
Hey, Well it all depends on what you actually do on the Internet, if you just waste your time and so basically nothing on the Internet, then of course it is wasting your time. But if you actually learn interesting things on the Internet, it is definitely not a time waster. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
9 Dec 09
I use it for finding out things, for instance I am a singer and I want to learn how to improve my voice, for finding out recipes because there is just the two of us and I want to learn to cook more healthy recipes, and of course there is here where I can find so much information, etc. and since I am writing a novel, i have to find things so that when they read my novel they would not think I am a complete idiot because I said " now the river ran west,:" when it was shown to have run south. Or I made a fool out of myself for getting the date of that famous battle wrong. So the internet is helpful and not a time waster.
• United States
30 Jul 09
Without it you can't do anything fast, tell him that. I use the web for all sorts of stuff and if you run a business then its essential to have your product accessible by millions of people. I went to a mortgage company once (about 3 years ago) and they didn't have computers, I don't know how they stay in business.
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I can think of many good reasons why we need the internet. I only pay $6.95 cents per month for it anyway. I earn online daily for one. I do my banking online and pay some bills online also, which saves on stamps. I do not have to travel to purchase things alot of times either because I order online and get free shipping too. Those are just a few things I can think of right off.
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@AndrewBoi (369)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I think you pay more on your internet and electric bill than what you earn from mylot. If not so, your husband would keep the internet. Actually internet would be useful if you are using it correctly. It would be a watse if your just using the internet without a good cause.
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@sid556 (31006)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I'm sure that I could live without it if need be but not only do I enjoy it, it saves me time and yes...I do earn a few bucks. I pay most of my bills on line and that saves me time in writing out the check and getting it to the mail...It saves on the cost of checks and stamps. I don't get late fees due to mail delays. I earn money on here and it may not be much but it does add up and has gotten us thru some tough weeks here and there. I also can keep in touch with people that I otherwise would find it difficult to due to distance and our differing work schedules. I think that you should talk to your husband and work on different areas where you could maybe cut back. Oh...I forgot...I work hard & I take care of my home and my family. I supply tv for them but I rarely watch it. This is something I really enjoy doing at the end of the day and sometimes in between. The mere fact that you enjoy it should convince your hubby to work with you to budget it in.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
28 Dec 09
I find that since the internet, I can find things a little faster rather then taking the bus or getting a ride or walking to the library and find out the book is not there. And I do make a little money here - not much, but enough to say "well at least we will not have to pay for that out of our household expenses," things like what I want that might be considered needs by me, but wants by other people who are not as creative." He has always liked the internet when he can get his audio plays onto his hard drive or when he is looking for something and he is a great Tv watcher. So it is not as if I am just looking for junk. I do pay the bills online so he is getting so he does not mind. I have no idea why he feels this way sometimes, maybe because he assumes the computer is a toy whereas I do not.
• United States
28 Jul 09
Hmmm..... why is it necessary? Long distance calls are expensive. Mailing a letter or a bill can be expensive as postage rates continue to increase. I don't have cable or paid tv so we get to watch music video's and some pay shows online for "free". I've learned alot online and it's more convient to do this than to go to the library dragging a handful of wound up kids and still not finding what you are looking for. You can always tell hubby, if there's no internet I"ll be bugg'n you more! *LOL*
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Aug 09
We get our long distance for free with our digital phone, but with the mailing letters and going out in winter to pay a bill is not very comforting, but with the other suggestion, I think he wants me around to bug him more.
@cynthiann (18619)
• Jamaica
28 Jul 09
I do not mean to be disrespectful, but I cannot understand why you do everything that your husband wants you to do from buying rolls when you don't need them to having an internet. I just cannot understand it. Many blessings
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
23 Aug 09
He has a way of making one feel guilty. And he is the one who says the internet is a time waster, not me. So I am trying to get as much imput as possible so he will think it is necessary.
• India
28 Jul 09
I think internet is a best tools for searching, finding any thinks whatever u need from home ????????
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
23 Aug 09
I use the internet quite a lot for searching. It saves me having to walk to the Mall and then the other way to the small shops and taking the bus to varied parts of the city, plus all across Canada when all i need to do is to compare prices on the net. As for my novel, I do not have to take the bus to the library that is 2 miles or more away when I have the internet in front of me to do all that.
• United States
28 Jul 09
For some, they have their calendar on there, they communicate with friends, pay bills, get cheap gifts on Ebay...but I think if it gives you pleasure, you should be able to have it. I believe that he has things that give him pleasure, and he is in no hurry to get rid of them.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
10 Aug 09
I have my banking statements on line and I do a lot of research for my novel. I also look for programs that will make using the computer quicker and I do a lot of comparison shopping. We do not have a car anymore and it sure helps me find out what things costs before we go to the store and of course, there is the mylot and friends issue.
@dragon54u (31604)
• United States
28 Jul 09
First, add up everything you earn each month and connect that to something that your husband enjoys--a food item, your cable television or something. Tell him you can't afford it if you don't have the internet. The internet is good for research as well as banking. Moms with kids can use it to look up symptoms and medicines, people can travel the world when they have no money to really go. You can make friends on the internet and "talk" with other people who enjoy the same hobby. There are free educational courses to take, you can read free books online, read the paper without paying for a subscription, watch television programs for free and even movies (hulu.com), listen to and download music. There's just no limit to what the internet can bring you! It really enriches our lives if we don't become addicted to it. You can even hook up your monitor to your TV and watch movies and shows on your TV instead of your computer screen! Many banks are charging now to speak with tellers or do things like transferring funds in person-the internet avoids these charges. And then there's email, keeping in touch with family and friends. Your husband isn't thinking of all these things.
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