Is being a wife an easy job for you?

Philippines
July 27, 2009 10:58pm CST
I love my husband and its my pleasure to serve him the best that i could. But I also want to admit that its not easy to be a wife. At home, the wife is expected to manage the house well: food on the table, clean and ready to use clothes on the closet, a properly kept house (in all corners), even good smelling and well-fed pets too! At night you are supposed to listen with interest to the many adventures of your husband for the day. Cheer, encourage, comfort, challenge, inspire or whatever your husband needed at the end of the day. Also, in today's world women are not just expected to be a wife only, we play different roles at the same time, these makes life a little more complicated too. How about you, what is your opinion regarding these?
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12 responses
• Indonesia
9 Sep 09
Well, it's not an easy job for me. We still live in a separated town due to some administrations. So, I'm lonely! He's 4 hours flight apart from me while my family live 5 hrs driving away from me. Thank God we still can video call each other, even though we only can meet once a month. I miss his everyday, especially during the night. We are a very busy couple, so a time together is very valuable. I'm 6 months pregnant now with our first baby, so being a mother will be a new job waiting for me LOL.
@snowy22315 (47081)
• United States
31 Jul 09
I think most women worry more about bein a good wife than men worry about being good husbands. I think there are alot of good and bad things about being a wife and many good and bad things about being a husband. I am living with someone now, but I feel like a wife, although I dont know whether or not we will ever get married. We have some issues, major life issues to resolve.
@Wizzywig (7859)
30 Jul 09
The role of being a wife is (IMHO) as difficult as she makes it and I speak as one who made it difficult for years. The terms "expected to" and "supposed to" suggest that we have no choice and that we complete the tasks from obligation. Feeling obligated to do anything for someone who could easily do it for themselves doesn't sound like a good thing and could build up resentment. Choosing to serve someone is obviously a different matter. In a caring relationship, both parties will share the workload and responsibilities and will listen to each other. Providing care and support is not a one way process. Marriage is a commitment and an agreement between 2 people, not the hiring of a personal assistant on the part of the husband.... unless the woman accepts it as such.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
29 Jul 09
as his wife is not easy. lot of work to be done to manage the home, the child, the husband and others. me as a wife, the wife is not feeling well. every day there are always errors that I do. I try every day to become a good wife, but it is always difficult. only if there is school to become a good wife.
• United States
29 Jul 09
I love being a wife! I guess I am lucky in the fact that my husband shares the houshold duties etc (with the exception of cooking) with me so I do not feel that certain things are only meant to be done by me. At the moment I am not working, so I am more than happy to do all the things that need to be done in the home. When I do start working it will be another matter because I was not raised to beleive that it is only a womans job to do things around the house.
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
i love being a wife... it has been the one role that keeps me loving life even more!
• United States
29 Jul 09
I enjoy being a wife don't get me wrong, but as with every person everyday is different. it's a little harder when your man is in the military and you have 2 young boys at home that are driving you nuts. But other then that I love being there for him and taking care of him when he's home. and he does the same for me when i'm sick kor just all out need a nap and watches the boys for me. But it's always nice to hear about his day and to have someone to come home to everynight :-)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Let's just get one thing straight right now. Being a wife is not easy! I love my husband but he definitely doesn't get how hard it is. He works full time and I stay home with the kids and also work on the computer. I love him for sure, and my five kids but it is definitely a thankless job. some days it is easy but most days it is a monotonous job.
@windymyre (210)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Things have changed so much over the years from when a wife was to stay home, raise the kids, clean the house, cook dinner, etc. Now there are a lot of wives that work outside of the home. At this time, I work & my husband does not. We do not have any children. My husband does 99% of the cooking. He also does a lot of the cleaning. I clean on the weekends when I'm off work & I also do all the laundry. I don't let too many people in my house because it is none of their business if I clean or not. I'm the one that has to live there! My house is small & not good for entertaining. That is usually a good thing!
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Being a wife is difficult, I think, but it's very fulfilling for me. Being in any relationship is difficult and it's always important to work out frustrations and things. My husband and I have a pretty equal relationship, though. He works full time right now, but I work part time, go to college, and earn money on the internet. We end up earning about the same amount of money every month still. I do the budget of the house, though, and the shopping. We split the cooking pretty well. We usually work opposite hours, so whoever happens to be off at night is the one that gets to cook. That works out pretty well for us. And cleaning/taking care of the pets is also a shared job. If one of us gets the day off, we'll do some extra cleaning and everything, but neither one of us is saddled with doing everything. :) Of course, this isn't the role that every wife/husband takes, but my husband and I discussed what we expected from our relationship when we first started dating. It hasn't all remained the same, but we still share responsibilities pretty well. ^_^
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
yeah, its not that easy... and sometimes its really tiring, especially when a wife is not being appreciate din what she does. there are so many wives here that not just only do the work at home but also help in the family's income. take care of the kids, the household work and everything else, and no more time for herself... that's really hard.
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I am still single so I do not have a personal experience yet on being a wife. But in my personal point of view, being a wife is that hardest but most rewarding job/career that a woman can have.