Do you think that you must say something if somebody is rude in a restaurant?

Romania
July 28, 2009 6:24am CST
If somebody is rude with a waiter or waitress in a public place where you take your meal, you will say something, or just stay and listen or look? Is not normal, they are people too, and are not our servant, they work for a salary, but we must respect theirs work, as they respect us as people. Are you one who like to come and say something somebody who is rude with others peoples or just like don t be involved in discussion?
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@cwong77 (2011)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 09
I will never want to get involved.. as I am not there to witness the whole situation. Sometimes, we are not the parties involved, we will not be able to judge whether it's right or wrong. By the time we heard of their conversation, it may have got louder that attracted our attention. I mean, a waiter should not be answering back, as then the conversation will not go beyond control and attracted some 'staring'... I myself, if I am not happy with the waiter, I will just call the Manager On Duty, to have a better word than arguing with the waiter and spoilt my appetite.
@glesil_00 (1147)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
For as long as it doesn't create too much noise and quarrels, i do not get involve in it. Seldom that i get involve, it is their business. As the saying goes, mind your own business. The one who is concern is likely the one will be in danger, so let them, and the authority of the matters settle for it.
• Belgium
29 Jul 09
No, because I will never know what trouble I might get if I am involved in it.
@katheen (124)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
I would keep myself from getting involved, as long as it doesn't create too much of a noise and disturbance to other diners like me. I don't like rude people in a restaurant, it's supposed to be a place where you can relax,eat your favorite food and be as comfortable as possible but if something like that happens, I think they should also think that these are people too, working hard for their families and be a little considerate...
@radx682 (327)
• India
29 Jul 09
I will not say anything...because if the victim is least bothered then why should I?? Not involving yourself in other's issues is considered very decent now a days and I would like to stick to it.. You may not know the context...why they are actually fighting...so better stay away from these conflicts...as such we have so many issues to fight in our own life...this issue is unnecessary???
@jeg2315 (198)
• United States
29 Jul 09
No, I will not say anything unless the situation gets physical or vulgar. If it happens constantly enough throughout my meal, I will say something then also.
• India
29 Jul 09
I was hostessing one night with two other hostesses and this woman comes in and says that she has five people. One of us, I don't remember who, asks if she would mind having a chair at the end of a table because we were out of the six-top booths.
@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
29 Jul 09
Hi, i really don t know, i think that is a problem of attitude, usual i am a person who will help somebody if can t help his self. But depend, if the waiter is rude too, i never involved...but if he is innocent, for sure that if i can i will say something. Time ago i was in a restaurant in Dubai, and there was a young waiter who don t know very good language, and few people was rude, and i say that persons that they can be more understanding, and seems that was good, because they apologize, you know....sometimes people forgot that all humans are egual.
29 Jul 09
If I was in a restaurant and I noticed that somebody was being rude to the waiter/waitress I would not get involved. There are a lot of rude people in this world and I don't have time to be a hero, nor do I want to be. I would help that the waiter would be able to stand up for themselves. In fact I think they might be embarrassed having a stranger stand up for them.
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 09
I don't know.. i might slide in a sarcastic remark, or dry humor. At least the waiter or waitress would feel better. I can't take rude people. I guess in a way that makes me rude too, because i'm just the same as that person when i reply them. Can't help it... i try.
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
i will no say something to the person that was being rude to the waiter or waitress. i will never get myself involved in something like that, its none of my business and its not my problem. i have seen a lot of that happens here, and all i can say is i feel sorry for the service crew. i know its not right to be rude on people, and i have seen many times some people do this. i just look at them and not say anything, and then give an encouraging smile at the service crew when our eyes meet. it's part of their job, and they need to be strong when something like that happens.
• United States
29 Jul 09
I try not to get involved, but if the person is being loud and annoying everyone, I will complain to the restaurant staff about him/her. Most people that I have seen be rude to wait staff get the cold shoulder or dirty looks from other people dining (including me). If I have the same waiter, I try to be very nice to them and be generous with the tip. I have waitressed before, and it is not an easy job!
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
It is not good to be rude and there are many people who are rude although I would think that they believe they are right. When one is rude all the time then they would come in conflict with some people. I myself, do not mind other people who are rude. It is not my business to teach them some manners.
@bulzika (280)
• Dominican Republic
28 Jul 09
I think it's not true to involve in two other person's business. Yes they aren't our servants and they are normal people and that's why I think they can defend themselves without our help. If I were a waiter I wouldn't need other's help to give every client adequate answer. About waitress I don't know, I really get angry when see someone is rude to girl, so I think I'll do something in that case :)
@snowy22315 (45442)
• United States
28 Jul 09
I usually dont get involved in that type of thing I cant think of that many times where I actually heard someone being rude to the waitstaff anyway. It is really none of my business so I dont see why I show interject myself into the situation. I think that I would really not get involved in the situation if I were you.