What would you do if you weren't invited to the wedding?

I would still go and at the middle of the wedding banquet, In will throw a golden apple and shout, "To the fairest of them all!"... So that a second Trojan War will happen...LOL! Just kidding... Well, seriously, If a am not invited to the wedding, its ok with me...the couple has the right to choose the persons that will attend their most special day. Its their day anyway!

Well, depends on the kind of relashionship i'm in whith the concerend person If i were amongst her very close or close friends in the office then i would obviously feel hurt. Otherwise it is fine. I think she should have sent a group mail to all her collegues (close or not) and have invited them stating htat she is too busy with other stuffs "and so please consider this as a personal invite." - What do you say?

Hi, laydee! If I'm not invited, I don't want to be there. If, however, it was made clear that someone else had been asked to make the invitations, I wouldn't feel that I needed a personal invitation from the bride. We've all had those times when we're just overwhelmed, and we have to delegate some things.

i will not attend because its unethical to go there without an invitation. what is she really don't want you to come there. so its safe that u wait for the invitation and if she failed to send it i will not attend.

I will also not go if i didn't receive any invitation personally, a text message is pretty informal as well but i'd accept email as quite formal invitation. well, i guess that the bride is just setting their budget and that's the reason on why they haven't distributed invitations to some friends. but still, it's inappropriate.

In my country, if people aren't invited personally to the wedding party, I don't think they will show.

I would be concerned that, when she said 'the others' she might not mean everyone and therefore might not mean me. It would depend on how formal the celebration was to be. if it was a seated meal I probably wouldn't but, if it was a fairly informal 'drop in for drinks' type of evening reception I would.

It is no problem if you are invited by a representative at the least.Only if you don't get information too,then you can ignore that function.As you have told,she could not afford to invite everybody personally but she will be delighted and welcome everybody who accepts her invitation by any means.For me,if I am informed,I have no problem attending the function.Cheers!

Hello there, Maybe she means to say "the others" ...the other friends or colleagues in your office.If i am to be asked,i will surely come.We should consider how busy it is preparing for a wedding that is why she had you and other friend assigned for the others to be invited.

I know this is something I'm going to be wierd on, but hey, why not. Personally, I think office associates are one of very few times this is okay, but I do think it is okay. If you send personal invites to co-workers, are you really going to send them to everyone, even the people whose name you barely know? If they get the invite, they are going to wonder why the heck you sent one to them, and if they find out they were one of few who didn't get invited, they will feel hurt and left out. So the best solution is to invite the whole office with a blanket invite- everyone is included, and anyone who feels funny coming can either not go, or can go with co-workers they do know. I think the same would apply to any group situation. I hate people who get all petty about weddings and think its all about them. If someone I liked and thought of as a friend at work gave an invite to the whole office, I would feel happy to be invited at all, not slighted because I didn't get my "personal" invitation. The only exception would be if they were close outside of the work setting. Boy, I wish I had had enough money when I got married to do blanket invites at work. I ended up only inviting the two I was closest too, and I felt horrible I couldn't invite everyone.