If money were no object how many children would you have?

July 28, 2009 4:31pm CST
In an ideal world where money wasnt an object how many children would you like to have? I feel that money is a huge factor when deciding how many children to have nowadays and you have children to "suit your lifestyle" rather than how many you really want. Ideally i would like 4 or 5, that is money being no object. But realistically i am going to have 2 as i would be able to give them both a good quality of life financially and they wouldnt have to "want" for anything, rather than me have 4 or 5 and us have to scrape by day to day.
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@daphne009 (301)
• United States
17 Aug 09
If money were no onject, I would have just as many as I am having (3) because I don't think my body could take much more abuse! lol My husband and I were just having this conversation the other day. He would take as many as he could until he gets a daughter but I told him the deciding factor on whether or not we have a daughter depends on his chromosomes lol. The male determines that!
18 Aug 09
Its easier for men to say they want X amount of children because they arent the ones who have to carry them for 9 months and then give birth
@jessi0887 (2794)
• United States
28 Jul 09
If money wasn't important then I would have as many as my body would allow me. I would know when to stop. I would like to be like that lady who eighteen kids or is it nineteen. The only thing is I would run out of names and would forget birthdays. LOL!
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30 Jul 09
18 or 19 kids? Eeeek i dont think i would dare to put my body through pregnancy and labour that many times. Gosh could you imagine how much food you would go through each day and how much laundry you would have to do?
@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
28 Jul 09
Money is a big factor. Currently, I don't have any children, but I never wanted more than two and sometimes I only want one. Despite money, I think if you have a really huge family, you know six and up, especially if they're all close in age, you don't get to bond with them. Also, I feel siblings aren't as close. If there's six or so, they usually break up into pairs or threes.
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29 Jul 09
I come from a family of ten children and I would have to say that my best friends are in my family. What I loved most is that we were close in age. That way it felt like they were going through some of the same things. I think how well you bond with your children depends on how you decide to raise them. Even if you only have one kid you could have trouble bonding with them. I feel like I bonded really well with my parents and still talk to them all the time now. Even though I am a mom and have three kids of my own.
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@vi2081 (7)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
I would like to have 7 children. The more...the merrier. I experienced being alone and it's so sad being with nobody. I always feel sickly. While if I have 7 kids, then I don't have a lonely moments. I can spend much of my time with my kids. I can play with them or chat with them. It doesn't matter what we have in our dining table, as long as we are together. It is still a happy family :)
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
i have four children and i am a single mom for about 8 or 9 years already. it is true that money is a huge object but i can not turn my back now so i have to live with it. it is hard to hold on to the budget and make sure that they eat right,t hey go to school and a lot of things in mind to think about. but for me it was much complicated when they were younger. they get sick easily, they complain a lot and they ask a lot of questions. now they are teens already they understand and they no longer complain.
• United States
30 Jul 09
About twenty years ago, when we already had four children, I gave my womb to the Lord. I said if children were a blessing, I would not try and stop them, we would accept all he gave. I had five more pregnancies, which resulted in three live births, for a total of seven biological children. My last one was born when I was 42 years old. I thought we might be done, but then, while hubby and I were over 50, we ended up adopting three children (they came into our home at birth, two and a half years old, and six months old) from the foster care system, for a total of ten children. Are we done? That's up to God. We won't turn down a child he leads here. Could we afford it? Well, each child came one at a time (although some came pretty close) and we adjusted to each. One child actually came at a time when we were at our lowest moneywise, yet he was fed and well cared for. No, we don't have a lot of extra, but that's okay. I have learned over the years how to budget, how to save in various places, what's reasonable to expect. My children have learned what they are likely to get and what they aren't. God blessed us in many ways. We were able to buy twelve acres with a nice little house for less than $90,000. I was shown how to save on groceries and electricity when I needed it. We've never gone naked or hungry, just like the Bible promises if we are faithful. Our house is paid off. My children take music lessons, they wear nice neat clothes, my older ones work and buy their own cars usually - on rare occasions we might have an old one for them. We homeschool and have a whole room just for books, we call it the library/music room. We were able to buy a mini barn converted into a guest house for a really cheap price when we adopted from some church members who support adoption and orphanages, and the over eighteen year old children sleep there. My oldest, totally homeschooled son is in law school right now. My oldest daughter is a paralegal. My eighteen year old is starting college in a couple of weeks. God has always brought us what we needed, when we needed it. At this time, my children are ages (girls) 33 and 30, (boys) 23, 21, 18, 15, (girls) 12, 5 (boys) 4, 2 this weekend! This sounds like bragging, but I just want you to see it can be done, and done well. But you need to know the Lord!
30 Jul 09
You sound like a very special person to take on other peoples children when you already had so many children of your own. Thanks for your input :)
• United States
30 Jul 09
But that's not how it was at all. I love them, I'm not just taking them on.
@hulaboy (319)
• Micronesia
29 Jul 09
Oh, thats a good question. I would probably try to have about 10 children....lol. But it will have to depend on my wife because she's the one who's gotta give birth and i think 10 is probably too much for her....lol
30 Jul 09
Yeah i think you should perhaps ask her first lol. My bet is that if you had to experience pregnancy and labour then youd come back and change your answer to one :)
@hulaboy (319)
• Micronesia
30 Jul 09
i guess your right...she just said one is enough:)
@dreezy (17)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I think I would have only 2. Children are so hard to raise. They are all over the place. I would love to have like 4 but I am afriad I would be freaking out about their safety every five minutes. I dont think I would get much sleep either lol
30 Jul 09
I think if you had them spaced apart with sensible age gaps then it wouldnt be so much of a problem, having 4 or 5 children in the space of 6/7 years would be an absolute nightmare, you dont get any sleep with one, so imagine what 4 or 5 or even more would be like, the coffee machine would be switched on 24/7 :)
@doormouse (4619)
28 Jul 09
to me money isn't the problem,it's the fact i HATE being pregnant,to me it does'nt feel natural,,,if i liked being pregnant i'd have a minimum of 7 kids
28 Jul 09
Really? I miss being pregnant terribly, even though i had a rough 1st trimester i absolutley loved being pregnant.
@larish (2195)
• Philippines
17 Aug 09
If I have oveflowing money, I really want 4 kids but since providing a better life for the kids is really expensive, I might as well only have 2 kids. I also want to give them a decent life - good education and just enough to provide for their basic needs (food, clothing & shelter).
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
just one...... it's not only money you spend on kids...you have to invest time and attention on them too...apart fro the many other responsibilities you have in life - - - to your family, work, and even to yourself!
@aurerm (371)
• Switzerland
30 Jul 09
I do have 4 kids (from 8 to 18). And this is enough. We always wanted 4 and thats what we got. Perfect
• Philippines
30 Jul 09
If money is no object. I will have 10 or 12 children.I want a happy family.and having lots of children. I think everybody will be happy.
@mickly08 (769)
• China
30 Jul 09
The more ,the better .You can have a nursery school in your house .
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
29 Jul 09
Id say the same as you, 4 or 5. I would not go farther then that, no matter how much money I had. I wouldnt be able to give them all the quality time or attention if I had any more. Realistically, I plan on two, possibly a 3rd how it all plays out. I just am amazed when I see families of 7 or 8 sometimes. Just not the lifestyle for me. Id want to be able to give maybe 3-4 a TON of atteniton instead of giving 7 a little attention.
@julz007 (20)
• Canada
29 Jul 09
If money didnt have nothing to do with it i would have tons of kids probely around 5-6 kids I just adore it its so much fun. sure the take away all your energy by the end of the day but kids are the best. Now a days 2-3 kids is more then enough its too expensive to support everything.
@metschica25 (5407)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Hello! I would love to have a bigger family that what I grew up in . It was just my brother and me . My parents wanted atleast one more , but they went thru a hard time when my aunt passed away. I know both my grams came from a huge family of 10 kids on one side and 15 on the other. If it was up to me and I had the money , and the room I would have atleast 6 if not more . I know I have the love , but they say love is not enough . I feel my clock ticking and if lucky I may have one or two .
@radx682 (327)
• India
29 Jul 09
I' ll love to have only two children. Take good care of them...I mean giving proper attention to their studies and much more things. It will be easy to handle 2 kids. More than two is nice to hear from a few...but I feel taking care and guiding them in the right way is much more important. I can definitely be the best Mom for my two kids in all sense :-)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Just two. I have one child now, which is very difficult to raise. The one child has no one in the home to occupy his time with, so I am the only one who could amuse him when he runs out of his own imagination. Unfortunately, that means my focus is on him entirely, instead of being shared between other siblings. Focusing on one child is not always a good thing. It can cause the child to be spoiled, self centered, anti social with other kids amongst other things. Whether or not I had the money, 2 kids are a more healthy and social environment than only 1.
@cher913 (25890)
• Canada
29 Jul 09
if my health wasnt an issue either, i would want more but i would want to adopt them from africa and china. my hubbys sister adopted two little girls from china and to do the whole process, it cost about $20,000 each, but compared to the orphanage where they came from...