You will be angry if younger people call you by your name?

@icesmile (7172)
Romania
July 28, 2009 11:42pm CST
Are mature people who don t like when young person or kids calling them by name. Do you think that is rude call somebody with who you are not familiar to call you by name, or you like this, because in this way you will feel more younger? You insist make peoples call you by your name, or you like to keep the distance? Is more polite if somebody more younger will call you Miss or Mister?
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@divkris (1163)
• India
29 Jul 09
Now that everybody follows the corporate ethics everywhere - younger people calling the older ones byu their name has become very common. I hail from India and majority of us here expect a great lot of respect and treat each other with great respect. So if you are from sucha background then you will find it difficult to digest this new social activity :) However, i don't really mind - rather i ask people to call me by my name. I feel really odd when kids call me "Aunty" - LOL
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@divkris (1163)
• India
29 Jul 09
Well, i forgot to mention that i would prefer kids calling their elders with due respect :)
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
29 Jul 09
You right, we must keep respect, even we live in modern times...
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 09
I guess asians are address elders slightly more respectfully. its' in our culture. Mother's friend is naturally our aunty. and an old man on the street is an uncle.
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@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 09
i know in japan the miss and mister thing is very important. Senpai, san, chan, kun, is almsot like their second name. it must be there. but in most countries this is considered formality. if you are in a business meeting, it natural to call someone using miss and mister, but if you work with someone, are almost friends, classmates, dorm-mates, its entirely unnecessary. I for one don't mind anybody not using the word miss when addressing me. though i kinda get annoyed when they call me 'big sister' ..... i'm not that old. come on. hahah.
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
29 Jul 09
yes...sometimes people like to make us feel that we are not so old...is good
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• Singapore
29 Jul 09
I Dont mind, if they are not making fun of my name but trying to get friendly then why not hahaz
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• Canada
29 Jul 09
hehe, ????? (one~chan) does literally mean "older sister" but I'm pretty sure they mean "girl"!
• India
29 Jul 09
no not at all why because now also my brother and also my juniors are calling me by my name and i will not get angry on them why name it is to call na thats all
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
29 Jul 09
BUT WHEN A STRANGER CALL YOU BY NAME?
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@just4you0 (422)
• India
29 Jul 09
Yeah, whenever anyone younger to me call me by name i realy love it. The reason as you told is that i feel more younger and i think that they are very close with me. Happy mylotting!
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@icesmile (7172)
• Romania
29 Jul 09
Hi, i think depend how much is younger as you are...if a kid will come and call you by name?
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I do prefer my first name over my last name. So I prefer that younger people call me by my first name, but I also like to stress the importance of using Ms. before it. So, I have my daughter's friends call me Ms. Dorann. The Girl Scout leader last year kept trying to get the girls to call me Ms. Winburn, and I had to constantly correct them from this, because I hate my last name for the simple fact that it is confusing to my children. (Long story that I won't insert here, but we do share a last name only not with their Dad's parents). I think once children get to be teenagers it is more comfortable for younger people to call me by my first name without the Ms. because growing up I was involved in youth group and we didn't call our ministers Mr. or Ms. so I think at a certain age (14-15) to be able to call an adult by their first name is a sort of right of passage.
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@glesil_00 (1147)
• Philippines
29 Jul 09
Like you I prefer someone will call me by my first name, but my classmate rather call me by my last name. Younger people if call me by my first name, doesn't really mean they don't give respect to me, it is still okay and tolerable to me that the 3 years younger than me call me by my name, but i am not that comfortable if 10 years younger than me call me by my name. Inside me, i want them to call me with Sister in the beginning in which "Ate" is the popular word for us.
@med889 (5958)
29 Jul 09
o be honest then I feel a bit odd when someone much more younger than me and a stranger calls me by my name and without a sign a respect at all as if he/she has been knowing me for many years so I feel a bit awkward. However I have friends who are younger than me and they have been knowing me for many years and they know me very well and calls me by my name so I do not feel so odd about it. If an elder is treating me as a much elder person by using Miss everytime then I will insist that he takes my name and call me but not for strangers though.
• Philippines
31 Aug 09
This practice is affected by cultural tradition. Generally, in Asian countries, younger people calling older persons by their first names is a sign of disrespect. Here in the Philippines, the name to call an older person depends on the age range and how that person is related to you. An older person in the family is often called tita (auntie) or tito (uncle) if they are in their 30s to 60s, or lola (grandma) or lolo (grandpa) if they are in their 70s to 90s. If the older person is nearer to one's age we call them either ate (big sister) or kuya (big brother). And then the terms would differ depending on the region where the people reside. People who live in Luzon often speak Tagalog, Ilocano, Panggalatok, and other northern dialects. In the Visayas and Mindanao regions, Bisaya and Hiligaynon are often used.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
30 Aug 09
i would be offended if younger kids would call me just by my name without any respectful word before the name. i prefer hearing them calling me Madam or Ate (elder sister) or Aunt even if they are not my niece and nephews.
• Mexico
30 Jul 09
i wouldn´t be angry because is a way to show respect to an older person, but if you like more to be called by your name by younger people its your own desicion and if its make you feel more comfortable, its better.
@lynnemg (4539)
• United States
30 Jul 09
I like to be addressed by my name unless it is my kids who are talking to me. I expect them to call me Mom. My husband rarely calls me by my name, and to be honest, I was kind of surprised when I actually heard him call me by my name to his friend rather than calling me his wife. I don't think that it is disrespectful for someone who knows me, or one of my kids' friends to call me by my name. I address people by "SIR" or "MAM" unless and until I know them well enough to call them by their name. My kids are the same way. If they meet someone, they always address them as "SIR" or "MAM" unless and until they are told it is okay to address the person differently. I think it is more polite. Yet, when the neighborhood kids come around, they all call me by my name unless I am scolding them for something. At that point, it is "Yes, Mam"
@checkmail (2042)
• India
30 Jul 09
Hello icesmile this is checkmail and often younger peoples call me by my name, and doesn't feel angry over it.Its better to get called by our name rather than the great scientists names, or teasing nicknames.Mostly i get angry when somebody younger call me by my surname the most and that too improper.I don't get screwed when called by my first name, but when its surname just gets my head transformed into hammer head.Yes the miss, and the mr is an polite way to express to elders but not from an idot kind of person.
• United States
30 Jul 09
I was raised referring to all adults as Mr and Mrs. I only had one friend whose parents allowed me to call them by their first names. Notice that I used the word "allowed", because I feel that adults should be referred to as "Mr." and "Mrs." unless the specify otherwise. I know that I am reaching an age that my children and my friend's children are speaking to us and most of them refer to my wife and I by our first names. This is the way we want it to be. However, my child will be raised to address adults as "Mr" and "Mrs". To say that you will be "angry" is bit harsh. Children are sponges. They learn based on their surroundings. If a child is taught that addressing adults by their names is acceptable, is it rude of them to call you by your name? Is it really fair to hold this against them? It you specify that you wish to be called "Mr." or "Mrs." and the child ignores your request then you can be angry, but they are children and are still learning. If "angry" is your natural response then be upset with the parents.
• China
30 Jul 09
Well, that depends on weather I'm familiar with the younger. If we know each other well I would like her/him to call me like that, but if not I might accept that, especially in public places.
@coolly5 (32)
• China
30 Jul 09
yep i agree!!!
@guardno (77)
• United States
30 Jul 09
Well if they are related to me and they are younger then I will get mad. But if it is someone else, I don't care. I mean what are they supposed to call me? Dad?
• Brisbane, Australia
30 Jul 09
Never. Why should be I angry? In fact I feel great because younger people found me just same as they are. We call by name to our friends and those who are of almost same age. :)
@polachicago (19075)
• United States
29 Jul 09
Probably we are talking about cultural difference. In America you can call anyone by name, unless someone wants to be call MR or MS.... In many European countries is in opposite.... I like to be call by name, makes me feel younger, creates less distance for open conversation...my oldest friend is now 92 years old and I call her by name...and local kids also call me by name...
29 Jul 09
Yes,I don't like this.that younger people calling me by my name.This is the rude call with me and he is not in my familiar to call me by name.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
29 Jul 09
I would rather be called by my name then out of my name. I don't have a problem with it ...it's a friendly gesture....how bad can it be. I don't find it rude at all.
• Switzerland
29 Jul 09
I will be more happy if younger people can call me with respect like Mr. Jeff for instance. However, this can be argued in some countries and places because of the cultures that brought us. Here in Europe, it is normal to call the people by their name. Young ones call older people by their name without Mister or Miss. But that does not mean, they are being disrespectful. That is just the way they really call each other. In Asia, I know that people should call older people with Sir, Mister or other terms they have. Some even call Uncle or Auntie to those people they do not even know. I prefer to be called with a mister connected before my name as I feel more respected, also, I am half asian and I still know those cultures my mother imparted me. Keep posting. Happy Mylotting. Have a nice day. Best regards, Jeff