Is talking with someone online cheating?

@laydee (12814)
Philippines
July 29, 2009 8:37pm CST
I know that people who are far away may never cause physical cheating, but do you think this (going online) is also a medium for cheating? I think it's not just the internet which causes temptations but also cellphones. I have recently experienced this with my family when my parent's relationship got on the rocks because my dad had been texting a lot and he indeed changed as compared to who he was before texting got in his way. I could also attest that online temptation is rampant since most of the people who go chatting are those who are actually married, they're somehow trying to get away.
6 responses
@kozekove (12)
• United States
30 Jul 09
It is true that, that can happen,but it depends on your intention. Perhaps they are just trying to get advice,or another point of view.You may be having problems with your spouse, and want to know what to do. It is only a problem, when they try to get in contact with the other writer.
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@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
Well, if you have problems with your spouse, shouldn't you talk to them about it? Tendency is that when people start talking to other people, they're putting their emotions out, and for someone to 'listen' to us, we tend to feel that we are wanted and needed (and all the emotions that come with it). Soon, we feel attached and before you know it, you'd prefer talking to that person than your spouse. And everything begins there. So, why not talk to your spouse if you have problems?
• United States
30 Jul 09
I have heard it termed as "emotional adultery." This is when you spend emotional time with someone other than your spouse. This is how a relationship is built and others are torn down. A good relationship is based on mental and emotional compatibility. Physical compatibility is good but many times does not last because of health changes, etc.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
True, emotional adultery.
• United States
30 Jul 09
The internet can definitely be used as a medium for cheating. Cell phones as well. Even if you're happy with your significant other it's still easy to connect with others on a more than friendly manner.
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• United States
30 Jul 09
Hi, laydee! I've heard people accused of cheating for this, but it's questionable. If a person is sincerely committed to a relationship, no amount of talking or texting or online chatter could change that. If there's enough flirting and such going on to make changes in attitudes, especially attitudes toward those relationships, then it would, indeed, be cheating.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I guess it depends on what your talking about. If it's just basic talking, someting you don't mind if your partner reads, then I don't think it's cheating. But if it's stuff you know you wouldn't want them reading or if your ignoring your partner to talk to your new friend, then it might fall under the heading of cheating. It really depends on the couple. ~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**
@UK_Shree (3604)
30 Jul 09
Yes I do think that any form of communication that you are keeping a secret from your partner is cheating. Why keep it a secret if you have nothing to hide. If you know you are doing something you shouldn't and hide it, then yes it is a type of betrayal and therefore equivalent to cheating in my opinion.