Have You Ever Lost Your Temper On Your Mother?

India
August 1, 2009 7:13am CST
We all love our mother's. They say, she is a God in disguise. Her love for her children is incomparable.Her sacrifice to the family is unmatched. We may find a bad father, but i have never seen a bad mother.No matter how rude she can become sometimes, yet her love for her children never diminishes one bit. She showers all her blessings and love towards her children. But do we reciprocate? We become so rude and disobey her. I had a friend who beat his mother, because she did not buy him a mobile phone, which she could not afford.I know it is impossible to give back the love and affection she gives us in the same degree. The minimum we can pay back to her is to atleast obey her orders/requests.Have you ever behaved rudely to ur mother? If u did,how did u pacify her?
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@checkmail (2042)
• India
2 Aug 09
Hello preethaanju this is checkmail and me too love my mom a lot as well as like her activites.But sometimes it just irritates me as she like it to do the old fashion way, that to with making errors.She just asks too many question as if she want to reject it.She still thinks that i ma a little new born child unknown of the worlds tricky behaviour.She also insists me to perform various activites fo my own welbeing which i think is useless, prefer to do it my own way.There are also sometimes when i do lose my temper over my mom in some critical descion makings.
• India
2 Aug 09
Yes they were brought up in a different atmosphere. So obviously opinions will differ. Yes for all mothers her children is always like small kids, no matter his/her age... CHange a bit urself. its easier than changing ur mom thx
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
yes i agree with you preethaanju. when your mom sees that you're changing for the better, they also change and realize that you're mature enough in making right decisions in life :) and for checkmail, prove to her that you can be a great son/daughter and that you can stand on your own feet. make your momma proud :)
@tjades (3594)
• Jamaica
2 Aug 09
I have certainly lost my temper when dealing with my mom more than once. We are still individuals with differing views and opinions. I can tell you parents usually try to force children to see things their way and to act the way they wish them to act. I absolutely hate being forced to accept anyones views. Thats the main problem I have with my mom and I know there are more lose-your-temper moments to come as she can be relentless. That boy you mentioned was really rude.
• India
2 Aug 09
What to do.tjades, they were brought up that way.. also remember, their words may sound irritating to us, but they mean only good things.. a mom never says things to hurt her children thx
@tjades (3594)
• Jamaica
3 Aug 09
As true as that may be I find it necessary to let my parents know that I will not follow their will because they are my parents. I know things they dont also and they need to stop, listen, learn and know when to let things go. The results many times show them just how much their way was not the most practical way and i just guess parents ought to be mindful of this. Being a parent does not automatically make what they say right. In all of that respect is maintained. I have never felt that standing up to my parents meant disrespect. Its just a part of the child coming in to their own and forming their own value system. I allow my nephew to do the same after establishing the guidelines. He knows his limits and that was the same with us as kids and even now.
@patofgold23 (5075)
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
I've never lost temper on my mother...It's normal that we do get upset with her at times, or disappointed. But I wold never come to a point that I'll lose my temper on her.....
• India
2 Aug 09
good. i cn say with assurance that ur blessed with both patience and wisdom on how to handle tricky situations.. natures gift... thx
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
i must say it's a nice topic you brought up there, pree...makes us actually stop and think about things.
@vathsala30 (3726)
• India
2 Aug 09
mother and child - mother with her child
i never lost my temper on my mother because she is cool, lovable and helping. she is physically handicapped with one hand and leg and just limps. still she tries to do small small household chores and help us. if my dad or any of her children falls sick she will help them by applying balms or ointment in the affected area and cajoles us and cheers us prays god repeatedly for our early recuperation and supplies water or tablets in times of need. who on earth will lose temper on such a simple, soft and lovable soul. now she is no more
• India
2 Aug 09
a mother, whether she is fully disabled or partly will still never forget her duty and love to her children. her disability will never be an excuse in discharging her duties... this i bet is true of all mothers. thats y they are great creations of nature thx
• India
3 Aug 09
I defenitely agree. Mothers are great on earth. Beating and scolding our mothers are equivalent to beating the God. Gods can not live in each and every house. So he created mothers.
• India
3 Aug 09
well yes i raised my voice but the very nxt moment i feel sorry and sad ...but i have always seen my momz love for my bro as her love for my bro is unconditional ...........
• India
6 Aug 09
yes we all have done it. only that we must realise it and control oursleves thx
@kevchua (1004)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 09
I'm ashamed to say that I have - not once but a few times. I'm a hot-tempered person, and I dislike it when someone forces me to do something which I don't like, or accuses me of doing something that I didn't do. It's not that I like to be rude; I hate being rude. However the anger in me explodes involuntarily when someone says things that I dislike. The past few years, I've mellowed a lot. I've learnt to control my temper (it's still there) - which is good. Even my religion says that we shouldn't be rude to our parents. I don't go to the extent of hurting any member of my family - NEVER. That's really sinful.
• India
6 Aug 09
So nice to hear these words.. u have made a introspection and a self realisation..nothing bigger than this.. may god b with u always thx
@daliaj (5689)
• India
3 Aug 09
I had so many fights with my mom, even I had one yesterday. I won't say fights, I will say difference of opinions. Opinion clashes will happen between me and my mother often, but it won't affect our relationship. After a long time or arguying and debating we forget it. We will be friends in the next minute once we are done with the fight.
• India
6 Aug 09
Ru quarrlesome or a lady mike tyson to fight ur mom so often? haha kidding... it happens. in the middle of tension anything can happen. But to make the best of a worse situation we must learn to control anger when we get a chance thx
• Philippines
3 Aug 09
yessss. but that was before. like last year? i lost my temper on my mother that it came to a point where i ran away from home. i had no plans on coming back. and the sad part was my mother didnt even give a damn about me. she didnt look for me nor tried to contact me. it was only my father who tried to reach me and my younger brothers as well. and i just found out from them that my mother was like crying every single night and kept on telling them that she missed me a lot. tsk. hearing those words, i didnt have second thoughts on going back home. and from that day, i never raised my voice on my mother nor lost my temper. :) I JUST SOOOOOOOOO LOVE HER
• India
6 Aug 09
YEs u got it right.. men's love is no where near women's.. she may not have been all dramatics in tracing u.. but her heart was bleeding all the time..this is mom's love . never pain her again thx
• Indonesia
2 Aug 09
Yes, I have lost temper to my mother,, because she lost temper to me first. She shout at me and hit before give me time to give explanation, so we shout each other and I run and cry in my room.. ugh, bad memories! I know I must respect our mother and it's not easy to become a good mother, but really, its' the first time (and I hope it's the last) I lost temper to her. I don't like to be told to be calm when other person shout at me. I can do it, but only if after he/she shout at me and say whatever she like, she give me time to speak! To explain all the things. That's fair I think.. We always be good to each other instantly.. I can't angry to my parents for a long time and so did they^^,,
• India
6 Aug 09
oh its shouting each other down? ur younger than ur mom. So u need to coool more..Its too late to change ur mom. better we change thx
• China
2 Aug 09
hehe..i ever and this happens often. since she is my mother so can't argue loudly and boldly with her. but sometiems her temper and words really annoy me.she have a hard head and seems she decide everything and we can't change her and her opinion. my dad also have no idea about her sometimes..
• India
6 Aug 09
Often? u need to change a bit then... i know its imposible to control all the time.. but self control we must learn.. thx
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
I have been rude to my mother twice already in my entire 20 years of life. One was she was accusing me of stealing my sister's song book *a notebook full of lyrics that she wrote from different artists.* My mom always takes sides with my eldest sister cause she's her favorite. So i totally lost control over the situation and talked back to my mother. She slapped me right after talking back. That was a very dramatic experience for us. Another one was my mom is getting my cell phone from me. My family is fond of meddling with our things. They don't want us to keep secrets from them, which is very difficult because they get easily angry when we're having relationships with boys. My family is pretty strict and is not open to these things so we quarreled again for not giving my cell phone to her. I am not actually physically close to my mom. I rarely hug and kiss her. I don't really know what's wrong with me or am i too affected of the middle child syndrome.
• India
2 Aug 09
yes u need to introspect.. if parents are forcing u to do things, its always with ur good in mind.. After reading the many responses on this topics, i trust u will be a refined person from now on... as a first step start to hug ur mom on every occasion u feel like.. next kiss haha thx
@SHAMRACK (8351)
• India
2 Aug 09
Dear friend, I have never lost temper on my mother, but we do had different opinions, but never have lost my temper on my mother. I do always respected my mother and that too was shown in my behviour to my mother.
• India
2 Aug 09
good u have not treated her harshly.. respect ur mom? love her thx
• United States
2 Aug 09
no i have never lost my temper on my mother. i have raised my voic a few times but that is all.
• India
2 Aug 09
it happens at the spur of the moment. But it doesnt mean that u dont love ur mom.. thx
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
2 Aug 09
My mother is pretty good and is very nice to all of us . i seldom lose temper on her . But i might do that when i was a kid . i feel very guilty about this sometimes because my mother passed away two years ago and i cann't show my love to her any more . Well it's hard to imagin that the child beat his mother. He might be spoiled .
@308369666 (111)
• China
2 Aug 09
I do not have objected to my mother, I love my mother, he is the world's greatest mother.Oo I do not know how to comfort her.
• India
2 Aug 09
yes every mother is the best.. very rarely we see bad mothers.. blessed ur to have a loving mom and blessed she is to have a loving son/daughter thx
• United States
2 Aug 09
Be honest, I do lost my temper when talking with my mother. Sometimes we have so many different thoughts and conflicts. She drives me crazy tons of times, but I always love and care about her.
• India
2 Aug 09
yes there is sometimes this generation gap.. thoughts and ideas may not match and we may indulge in arguments and counter arguments.. there is no use in arguing. it achieves nothing... patience is the best way to handle a tricky situation thx
• Philippines
2 Aug 09
i did lost temper on not just my mother but both my parents..haha, i used to fight back with words but I always see to it that I am still being reasonable, but when the times comes that I am starting to lose my temper (and thinking i may hurt them) I always go out and relaxes for a while, then after I'm relaxed, i go back to the house..But, my mother is not that emotional whenever we argue, if we shouted each other, up to that point only, after an hour or more, we go back to our usual thing (seems like we never fought to each other)..haha
• India
2 Aug 09
parents are elder to us. There is very little chance we can reform them through arguments. the best thing is for us to change to suit them... i know its difficutl all the time.. but i try to do that..thx
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
1 Aug 09
If my mother is God in disguise then this planet is truly in for it. I lose my temper with my mum every other week and likewise, I have to say. I usually just walk away. Leave her to her own devices for a while. Simmer down myself and then we're ready for another round in a couple of weeks. Howz that?
• India
2 Aug 09
yes thats exactly i do too when i feel i am on the verge of losing my cool. i walk away from the place and then come back to plant a kiss on her cheek as repentence of my folly thx
@SBearz (1)
• United States
1 Aug 09
I definitely have. It just seems to happen too much lately. I don't mean to at the most part but my emotions get the best of me. My mom has been through a lot so I have been working on trying not to get too angry toward her for little things.
• India
2 Aug 09
since u have realised that u have done a few mistakes, i can say with conviction, after sending a response to this topic u will be a different person... see next time u raise ur voice against ur mom, u will be reminded of mylot thx this will cool ur tempers
@izhar20 (60)
• Malaysia
1 Aug 09
erm..hard to say..but..yes..i have behaved rudely to my mom....erm..but the rudneess i am..i cant take hits mom as a choice..furthermore..im not think of it...the most rudely i ever do is shouted to my mother..there..was a day that i was so rude to her that made her cry..when i her her crying..im to..begin to cry because i felt so guilty to her..to pacify her..i will beg forgiveness..and usuallly she will make face..but i will always smile to her..and do all the house hold chores work...and make her rest all day..sometimes..i will prepare her breakfast to..
• India
2 Aug 09
we can excuse one or two rude behaviour .. we are human ..but to constantly abuse her is bad...thx