life matters

United States
August 3, 2009 12:47pm CST
I have a baby girl on the way and i've taken a look at my life. Ive been out of high school 4 years, no college degree, my rank in the military i feel is embarrassing, im wanting a bigger apartment but no job to help my husband. Where do i start. WHat should i do first after i have the baby in november? ANyone have any life experiences like mine?
2 responses
@Wismay (2038)
• India
3 Aug 09
I don't have any experience but I would like to say a few things. The first thing you need to do is finding out what you are good at? Every person is good at something. Whatever it is you must know it. Then you can work around that skill. Learn something new and read self motivating books which are practical. Set small goals and achieve them within the set period. It will build confidence. From small things you can go for bigger things. It takes time, effort but you need to be fully dedicated. Only you can decide what you can do, to be frank there is no limit but we put limits to ourselves! Just take one step at a time and after some time you will surprise yourself with what you do by that time! Regards
• United States
3 Aug 09
You know i've never read a self motivating book other than the bible. I know i got technical for a minute lol. But anywho, I've never been good at sticking to any of my goals, and i believe it was because i was never motivated to do them. I know people cant motivate you, but you have to motivate you. I heard it many times. I appreciate the advice though.
• United States
3 Aug 09
Well I did go to college and get a four year degree. But I got it in Education and quickly decided I didn't want to teach. The degree is practically useless and I'm trying to figure out what to do with myself. So my advice is to find something you want to do, and do it. I know, not as simple as it sounds. If you don't want or are able to look at any education options, there are still plenty of fields that are open to you. Administrative, warehouse work, drivers (say, UPS), retail, restaurants, hotels, babysitting, etc. If you are willing to consider education, I would check out both community and technical college. It will give you ideas for what you could do, and those types of schools are generally cheaper and the programs are faster than Universities. It really is a great option - if you can afford the time and money. But you'll never know unless you look. Get a plan together now, before you have the baby. Once you know whether you want to work part time and get some education, or go straight in to the job market, you can then decide how soon after giving birth you want to do those things. Good luck. Trust me, you just gotta do it. Don't talk yourself down and out of what you want/can do.
• United States
4 Aug 09
I tried going to a community college 4 times and really never succeeded. I guess i gave up to quickly when things got hard. Now i feel as if college isnt for me. Or is it? I've tried the military and joined the kentucky national guard. done get me wrong i love the military life, wouldnt mind going active but theres one issue: my weight and trying to pass a pt test. But as far as i job, i do plan on getting one to help my husband with the bills and the baby, but as far as school, i want to go back one day, im not rushing it, but im not gonna wait until its too late. These days degrees get jobs. Thanks for the advice.