Do you believe that a man can be 100% faithful to his woman?

Philippines
August 3, 2009 1:09pm CST
They say men are by nature polygamous. Men, react! LOL. Can they manage to remain truly faithful to their wives or girlfriend? I have some doubts. Yes, I would like to believe in the innate goodness of every person, but I have to be realistic here and fling all my naivete and optimism aside. A lot of guys really don't have a good tracj record especially when it comes to being faithful. Correct me if I'm wrong! I would be so happy if there is a guy out there (even just one) who would honestly say that he has been 100% faithful to his wife or girlfriend. Guys and gals,what do you think?
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@erikmama (12934)
• United States
3 Aug 09
I think if you are taking care of business at home, a man has no reason to go out and cheat. By this I mean every aspect, from the bedroom to the kitchen and everything in between. I just got out of a 5.5 year relationship, and I am pretty sure he did not cheat on me. There are of course those men out there who aill just never be satisfied with one woman. And unfortuantley, there is nothing we can do with them!
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• United States
3 Aug 09
I really hope you did not just mean to say that if you don't do everything your husband wants he'll cheat on you. Slave yourself off to your husband so he'll be faithful. What a lovely basis for a relationship. That's not about love or trust at all. In fact, that attitude is blackmail, so I really hope I'm misunderstanding. Now I'm imagining conversations... "Of course I cheated on you. What did you expect when you made me crappy tacos for dinner and forgot to run the dishwasher?"
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• Philippines
4 Aug 09
In my opinion, there really is no excuse for cheating. It's always gonna be a choice on the guy's part. He may have the perfect wife but if he is really that kind of person then nothing can stop him. Just an opinion. Thanks for responding! :)
@nrn2003 (670)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I hope that a man can be faithful to his woman. or vice versa. I think it goes both ways. women can cheat to. If they want to be faithful they can be. For a relationship, I don tsee a point of being in one if you both done plan on staying faithful.
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• United States
4 Aug 09
Hey hey! Well put!
• China
4 Aug 09
To me,I think a man who is 100% faithfui to his waman is too demanding.For example,a man will be easily atrracted by a beautifui young lady passing him on the street.If you aren't willing to see this scene and want to criticize for this thing,it's not a sensible choice.It is instinct that a man want to see a beayty.Just hold your principle to a certain degree,not in all aspects.Your cosideration and charming will fascinate your man to 100% loyalty one day.
@wyvern501 (166)
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
I can say that I am 100% faithful.... But my faithfullness depends on my partner.... If she is unfaithful, then so do I.... I don't to be played or toyed by my partner.... I know all of you don't want to be toyed or played at am I right??? The reason that I can say that I am a 100% faithful man to my partner is that we are now in a 5 years relationship.... Not just a normal one but it is a long distance relationship.... I am a one woman guy, so if I am in a relationship, I ignore other women.... We've come to trails but manages to fix it all.... There have been time that I have lost some of my faithfullness to my partner when I hear and confirmed that she had a second party while we are still in a relationship.... But that was been fixed.... But honestly now, I am not really 100% faithful to my partner because of that issue, 1 or 2 years ago??? But I still keep to it and maintain my faithfulness until the end of our relationship....
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• United States
3 Aug 09
I can say that I have been 100% faithful to everyone I've been with. Now, I can't say that I haven't thought about being with someone else when times were bad between me and another person, but thought and actions are different! I treat the person I'm with with respect, and if I'm so unhappy I want to be with another woman I won't do that behind the back of the person I'm with. If I feel that strongly I will break up with the person. There is no use of living a lie.
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@LiAXaZu (184)
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
i was reading the responses of other mylotters and i can say that i admire your response. a lot of men won't actually admit that. i mean, i have lots of guy friends and i know that it does happen but i agree with you that thought and actions are different. still, it does disturb us a bit when men do that. especially when they don't admit it. respect is so important and i feel violated when some men actually look for prospects first before breaking up with their girlfriends.
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• Philippines
4 Aug 09
Thank you for your response Scott. i am indeed relieved that there are some men out there, like you, who can remain faithful. There is still hope for humankind. LOL. Seriously, I admit there really are temptations all around us. I too get attracted to other people while I am in a relationship. I think that's very normal. But what makes it wrong is if you act on those attractions for somebody when you are in a relationship with someone else.
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@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
i agree with everything you said. all mentally healthy men, no offense, is bound to be attracted to other women even if they're committed already. however, what differentiates men from boys is how they react to this attraction. boys go for it. men stand by their commitment, right?
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
5 Aug 09
This is why i just call them males rather than boys or men. Or sl#t puppies or hoe doggies.
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• Philippines
4 Aug 09
I am happy to say that i am married to a 100% faithful husband and i also can say i am 100% faithful to him! Sounds unbelievable? Probably one in a million? Well, yes, my dear karen... our marriage is a bliss!
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• Philippines
4 Aug 09
That's great! It sure does give me hope that I'll find someone who would be truly faithful to me. Thanks for your response.
• United States
3 Aug 09
I believe men look at other women instinctively but I do not believe that they HAVE to act on those thoughts. I believe that if the man truly loves the woman, and has strong morals and willpower it is possible for him to be faithful. People who say that men have to cheat or it is in their nature are simply making excuses.
• Philippines
4 Aug 09
I agree. men usually resort to those excuses when they get caught. I knew a guy who was caught cheating by his wife and his excuse was... "Don't blame me, I'm just a man." But that's where he is wrong. Because a REAL MAN won't cheat on his wife. :)
• United States
3 Aug 09
Maybe about half, or more men have been cheaters at least once. This statistic probably means that I am very optimistic with men haha. Out of 4 boyfriends, I have been cheated on by two of them; the last two (including my current boyfriend) I guess I had better judgment. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 1/2 years and he has been so devoted to me, I could not ask for a better guy when it comes to faithfulness, trust, communication, and romance! We actually live 4000 miles apart from each other, but I truly trust that he is faithful, if you knew his personality you would understand. Many people figure that people cheat in long distance relationships, but it is not the case with mine, he is a really good guy. I probably would not find another like him. Have faith, they are out there somewhere! (try Sweden?) haha
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• India
4 Aug 09
Its same with me :) Trust and faith is thats all you need :) I trust my girl a lot and i know she wont break it.I share everything with my girl right from A-Z.Even if she will feel bad i'll tell her in a way that she won't feel bad about it :) Trust and Faith really keeps Love growing everyday :) @ Topic creator..maybe you haven't come across guys who dont cheat its as simple as that :) there are men out there who are totally devoted after getting commited :)
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@soulist (2987)
• United States
18 Aug 09
I think there are some men out there who can be 100% faithful to their woman. I have had men who have cheated, but more than that I have dated men who have been completely faithful to me. I think when it comes down to it a guy can be faithful to his wife or girlfriend. It takes a strong man to be able to be faithful and know when he can appreciate the beauty of a woman but also come home to his woman.
@jenzai (390)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
I still believe karz that there is a man that exist with such qualities. I mean we have to accept that fact that it's cultural differences and values that sets us apart but a real and sincere love can make one faithful.
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@zed_k4 (17630)
• Singapore
6 Aug 09
Yes, it can be and it is possible. I'm sure most men are very faithful to their partners, be it girlfriends, fiancees or wives. Once a man loves a woman, nothing else matters. In order to find the right someone, sometimes a man has to go through several relationship experiences.. I'm sure Mr Right guy will come along to you someday. Hang in there.. ;)
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@MsTickle (24991)
• Australia
5 Aug 09
I know many men well enough to know that they would never, ever be unfaithful. Not all men are this way as you think.
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@quinnkl (1668)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I know many, many men who are, in fact faithful and monogomous! From what I have seen, I think it is a choice. No matter what they feel for anyone else sexually, they make the choice to hurt their partner or family when they cheat. And they can just as easily make the choice NOT to do that!
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
5 Aug 09
Absolutely. Men are not dogs. They are not slaves to nature. They choose to follow random physical attraction, that doesn't mean they have no choice in the matter. There are many men that are faithful to their wives. Only about 1/4th of married men say they have cheated on their spouses. That implies 3/4th have not cheated. I don't believe in innate goodness though. I think men are inherently predisposed to do wrong. They must be taught to live right, which is why parents who teach discipline is so important. I would also suggest that often some girls run around attracting the wrong types of guys, and then consistently get hurt. Then suddenly they have the view all guys suck. Which I can understand, only they fail to see they are part of the problem.
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@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I believe that any nab can be physically faithful to his wife if he wishes. Being mentally faithful is more difficult.
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@mel13088 (265)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I do believe a man can be 100% faithful to the woman he is with. You have to be realistic and understand that he will have interactions with other women on a daily basis. I've been with the same guy for almost 3 years. He wouldn't cheat on me because there would be no point in it. Instead of cheating on someone, just break up with them and be with the other person. I don't feel like its fair to say that men aren't 100% faithful because women can be that way too. I know one or two girls who would cheat if they had a boyfriend. You're putting an unfair double standard on men. All men are not slimy cheating jerks.
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• United States
4 Aug 09
in my opinion, i don't think men can be "100% faithful". i think that every man man has cheated in just about some way. whether physical or emotional,a kiss, going out on a "harmless" date they are being unfaithful to their spouse.
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@metschica25 (5408)
• United States
4 Aug 09
Hello! I have been with my fiance for coming up on 9 years and I am sure he never has . This I just know and trust... Trust is ver important . I know some men do and I know some women do as well . I think there are some who will be faithful , but I am sure we all think what it would be like at some point having someone new in our lives . I can say my father never has on my mother and that has been about 30 uears . If they cheat those 2 i brought up that would be a shock!
@croamer (165)
• Taiwan
4 Aug 09
Ok, I tell you from my point of view - a man, we can be 100% faithful to our women, of course we can. according to latest statistics, more and more men are hurt by their women recently. and personally, I can tell you that I won't be betray my woman as long as I was not betrayed.
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