At what point do you think is too late for an abortion?

United States
August 4, 2009 2:05pm CST
Though I could never be able to have an abortion I believe people have a right to chose to have one. Now I also believe the choice should be made by 12 weeks gestation. I know there are those out there who say what if the mother didn't know? But please let's face it we have home tests that can tell you your pregnant by 3 weeks gestation or less. That leaves over two months to make a decision. I do not agree with late term abortion in any which way. If you have carried that long and do not want or care there is adoption. I have had three preemies and one of them could have been aborted going by many states late term abortion laws. I find this horrid. Obviously that is a person who can survive out of the womb. So if you are for abortion when do you think is too late for it to be done?
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@spalladino (17925)
• United States
4 Aug 09
While I am Pro-Choice, I am solidly against late term/partial birth abortions except in very rare cases. I agree that 12 to 16 weeks is plenty of time to confirm a pregnancy and to make a decision regarding the outcome. As far as ultrasounds beforehand go, I don't believe that anyone should be forced to look at the screen if the decision to abort has been made. This is psychological abuse IMO.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
4 Aug 09
Well, you're probably right that no one is going to change their opinions but I'm not here to argue either and we're really not as far apart in our thinking as you may believe. I do understand your feelings but the woman in question still has the right to be protected from abuse and forcing someone to do something against their will is wrong no matter how just it is. I do agree that too many women who seek abortions see the pregnancy as nothing more than a concept or an inconvenience and humanizing the fetus by seeing it on an ultrasound monitor might cause someone to change her mind but, again, it can't be forced.
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@Taskr36 (13925)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I don't think it's about forcing anyone into anything. It should just be standard procedure to do and ultrasound and it's standard to have it on a screen in front of the person. If the woman specifically says "I don't want to see it" well, you can't force her to look. She should be informed as to how developed the baby is and that is has a beating heart. If she doesn't want to look, that's fine, but I think a woman needs the facts before making a decision to end a life. Abortion should never be easy.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
5 Aug 09
If it's not already standard procedure to perform an ultrasound and to inform the woman about the specifics of the development of the baby prior to the procedure then it's psychologically abusive to make such a change. I'm also assuming that you've never been in the room during an ultrasound so forgive me if I'm mistken. I've been to about 8 and the equipment has been similar in every case. The wand is connected to a machine that includes a keyboard and a monitor, like a computer. The person doing the ultrasound uses the keyboard and has to be able to see the monitor, which can be turned so that the patient can see the screen if she turns her head. It's not possible for the monitor to be placed in front of the woman. I do agree that abortions should not be easy but I'm totally against standards that are abusive to women who are already in a difficult position.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
5 Aug 09
I was offered an abortion at 36 weeks pregnancy and I said "no way". I had found out my baby would be severely disabled. They told me how it could be done and it made me feel sick. I loved my baby and felt so worried about the birth. I carried on with the home birth I had planned to have. My son is now 2 years old with a bright smile. He has spina bifida and hydrocephalus. He had the right to live on earth and grow up because I believe life begins at conception. I am pro-life I am glad to say. But some ladies are pro-choice and so it would be better if the up to 24 weeks time scale was moved to 9 weeks. A medical abortion before 9 weeks is a pill but then after than is a surgical abortion. That is painful for the baby so I don't agree with it. One person described an abortion on a 12 week fetus. The heart rate went really high and the little baby was desperately trying to get away from the abortionist's instruments that was digging at him or her. It was so sad when he or she described the head being crushed. So even if there was a 12 week cut off there would still be lots of pain and suffering for the innocent little baby. The lady can get depression too. Adoption would be right decision.
• United States
5 Aug 09
The though of even offering to do it at a point like 36 weeks is just disgusting. I commend you for telling them no no matter what your child may have as he is your beloved baby no matter what. Oh that just is so wrong.
@maximax8 (28558)
• United Kingdom
5 Aug 09
Yes, the idea of aborting a beloved baby at 36 weeks pregnancy is disgusting. I got to visit the special care baby unit that afternoon where I saw premature babies born earlier than that. At the entrance were photo and stories of all the successes. Some of the tiny babies were the normal size of a newborn after 6 months life. My son needs catheter care, has shunt in his head and most do leg exercises. He is unlikely to be able to ever walk. However I love him and would never ever have an abortion. Every child is special and it is worth them being born.
• United States
5 Aug 09
It is great that you do that. My nephew was also very early (26 weeks) which has resulted in SF and some learning issues, he had some really close calls that caused touches of brain damage but he is an adorable kid. We love him even if the chance of him walking are close to none. It is a sad truth that for some people just the thought of a child who need that much help is just too much for them. In the scope of things it may be better they not have the child if they cannot give the care needed and deserved though as late as you where I would have thought the only option would be adoption for someone like that.
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
5 Aug 09
Well i have a friend who ate some medicine for cold . She didn't know she was carring a baby for a month when she took the medicine. She was worried a lot but at the first checking the baby appeared to be fine. It was 22 weeks that she took a check which can check the baby's heart and the doctor told her that there was something wrong with her baby's heart. No other ways out she just chose to make an abortion because she couldn't afford a unhealthy baby. Well it's hard to say when is too late for an abortion . When the baby is unhealthy you have to do that . i personally think 6 months is too late.
• United States
5 Aug 09
There is a difference though with a baby that cannot survive detached from the mother and a healthy baby that some has decided they no longer want. At 22 weeks it is still a little late to make a choice but for medical purposes it is understandable.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
5 Aug 09
i'm totally against them, if specaily if they didnt take the responably to use protection. i would only agree if the baby would have medical issues if it was born and couldnt live a normal life. too many people who cant have kids, are looking to adpote
• United States
6 Aug 09
in fact adoption has become a business
@grammasnook (1877)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I too hold the 12 to 16 weeks. No need for late term abortion, but I do believe if the doctors and everyone else around is saying the baby can survive outside the womb at a certain time that the mother should not be forced to carry the child the remainding amount of time. Instead of abortion perhaps they should think about being knocked out and having a c section done and immediately putting that child up for adoption. Would this be an alternative available to women?
• United States
5 Aug 09
These babies may be able to survive but to take a baby early entails a lot of medical care. If the woman demands to have the child early who will pay for the bills. To give a mild example our one baby was born only (that is more then early enough) 5 weeks premature and the hospital bills after insurance cover cost had been deducted where well over $100,000. I as a tax payer do not want to pay for a woman's mistake through the health care system. Our other child as I said earlier was born very early and her bills where a little over half million for her hospital care, thank god we have insurance and a good job.
• South Africa
5 Aug 09
Firstly,I would never have an abortion but to keep an open mind of this discusion il have my say.For me, its from the moment the sperm has fertilized the egg ,its "living".It may not have a heartbeat,and eyes, and whatever they say a child has to be to become a child ,but to me its living. A perfect example about abortions is look at vegeterians, they don'e even eat eggs. Why ? because to them its still meat because an egg if hactched will be an hen.(chicken). Now, when it comes to humans we say,or by law your're allowed to have an abortion while its under 3 months,or is it 9-12weeks,im not sure! but after a certain time, thats about 3-4 months they say its too late for you to have an abortion,so you either keep it,have a back alley abortion OR adopt. But My question is , What makes the diff on how many months it is to have an abortion because at the END that EGG,Or zygote WILL eventually become a child, it Will be human. Just like a chickens Egg.because we all know that once an egg and a spern fertilize, that is a HUMAN ! So don't give them bio linger they use,like its a blob of cells ,its NOT a blob Of cells that is a HUMAN being. And what do we do? We KILL IT! Thats what abortion is , KILLING the innocence before they even get a chance to see the world ,like WE do.KILLING silently.
@daliaj (5689)
• India
5 Aug 09
I don't agree with the idea of abortion. I think we should give the right to each kid to born in this world if it starts growing in a woman's womb. I am against abortion. But, there are some cases were it is critical to let the kid grow. For example if the mother doesn't have a good mental growth. I think one month is too late for abortion.
@gewcew23 (8011)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I would have to say around the period when the baby could theoretically survive outside the womb. Should abortion be an option, but I do not see the point of late term abortions. At some point a doctor should be able to give you all the facts about your baby and then you should make a decision about aborting or carrying to birth.