What can I do with my mother-in-law?

@mermaidivy (15417)
United States
August 4, 2009 3:06pm CST
She is coming to visit me this Thursday, we talked on the phone this morning and saying about we will meet on Thursday, shje asked me what I want to do. Do you have any ideas? We don't see often, just visit each other once in a while, the last time we met, we went out shopping and lunch. I think I want to do lunch with her again but what else can we do? I mean she is very nice, I'm sure she doesn't mind to do anything with me, she just know I'm bored and want to hang out with me, but I want to make sure she is happy as well. So are there any mother-in-laws or daughter-in-laws have any ideas? What do you usually do with each other? I hope you guys can share with me! Thank you!
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Why having a problem with your mother-in-law when in face as you had said she's nice to you. You're lucky enough who has a mother-in-law like yours. Don't think of any problem with her. She's nice to you therefore act naturally, be nice to her also. Can you do that for just a couple of days? By the way, is the feeling mutual? I mean do you like also your mother-in-law? Well, if the feeling is normal then you've got no problem..on the contrary if you don't like her then can you not feel to her that you like her also? Or, if could pretend than show to her that you don't like her, it's your decision.. For me, show the best you could to her to make her proud of your to all her friends and their relatives..would you not like that? Be considerate..
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
sorry I mean " when in fact..."
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
What? I'm just saying I wonder what we can do together, I didn't mean we have any problems, just want to do sometrhing nice with her.
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@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
I am sorry for being misunderstood..don't get me wrong..
@jesssp (2743)
• Canada
5 Aug 09
Since your MIL is not from the area it might be cool to show her some local tourist attractions. If there are any interesting museums, art galleries and things like that it would be fun to check them out with her. It would also be neat to see them yourself if you haven't had the chance. Another idea would be to spend some time in the kitchen with her, maybe have her show you some of your husband's favorite recipes from when he was a kid. Mixing stuff like this up with shopping and going out for lunch or coffee will give you ample time to get to know her and also make the visit fly by.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
Yea, my husband suggested to go to a museum with her :-)
• India
5 Aug 09
You should be aware of her preferences. If you are not, take some trouble to know about them. If you take care of them this can be the best way you can make your meeting memorable for her as well as yourself.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I think so too :-) Thankyou!
• China
5 Aug 09
My mother like the massage and something about the beauty.I think you could try as well.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
haha I'm not gonna massage her though :-p
• India
5 Aug 09
Shopping followed by lunch seems to be the best and safest thing to do. however, if she’s coming to visit you just like that, you can stay at home and just relax and catch up with each other. Food can always be ordered, maybe your hubby can join in, you can hire a movie and all of you have a good time together.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
Shopping + lunch always work well, I think it will be what we will do! :-)
• India
5 Aug 09
Your problem is settled rightaway when you said she is a nice person. So getting along with a nice person for a day is very easy. You can cook her favourite dishes or take her out for lunch and treat her with favourit cuisine. Just as one of the friends said buy her a gift or jewellery of her choice. On the whole make her happy as much as you can because the elders have a feel of contenment when you keep them happy. Have a nice day with your mother-in-law. Happy mylotting.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
Thank you! :-)
@jwfarrimond (4475)
5 Aug 09
Take her out for lunch, talk to her about things of mutual interest, (her son?) she did you the courtesy of asking what you'd like to do, return it and ask her what she'd like to do, and maybe do some of what you'd like to do and what she'd like to do. Of course, if you like her as well, it's all much easier to socialise with her and even if you don't plan what to do beforehand, you can both talk and decide what to do when you meet.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
Ias thinking about the same - ask her back what she wants todo but I'm sure she will ask me back again :-p
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
I feel the same thing as you do. I live with my mother-in-law for 3 years(we moved out just last February), I always feel awkward when she is doing something with me. What I will do is to start a new tasks with my son just to be an excuse to get rid of her. I just don't feel comfortable being around her but we don't have any fight or something. I will just be me, I will tell her what I want and what I don't want. She says the same thing as me. If she doesn't likes my ideas she tells me..I guess I just don't open my self to her. I love his son but I'm not the type of woman that pleases everyone.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I know what you mena, I just feel nervous to be doing stuff with her even though she is very nice to me...
@grace118224 (1040)
• China
5 Aug 09
I live with my mother-in-law and never go out with her alone . It's quite different to stay with mother-in-law from your own mother. It's very natural to go out and do anything with my own mother but not mother-in-law. Well since your mother-in-law is very nice so you can arrange many things such as go to the movies, go shopping , go out to lunch...
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I agree that doing stuff with our own mother is so more more comfortable that's why I'm concerning what we can do together..
• India
5 Aug 09
You can go for a movie or you can visit a nearby place of interest or any go for outing and have lunch together. If you intend to spend the day at home you can prepare the lunch at home and spend the day at home also listening to music or watchinh a vcd/dvd.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
That's not bad :-)
@Polly289 (269)
• New Zealand
5 Aug 09
Cor, you, I believe, are one of the truly lucky ones. If your mother-in-law wants to spend time with you then I feel certain she'd be happy with whatever you decide to do, within reason. So why not take her out to lunch and then, if she likes shopping, Do that? And you're a lovely daughter-in-law as well.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I think we will go do lunch and check out some stores :-)
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
Why try visiting interesting places? or you could stay at the beach and hang out there. . If you both love movies, why not try watching a movie. . .Or go to a craft store and buy her something which she would enjoy doing to while a way the time ..
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I think going to the craft store will be one of the stops! ;-) We both like craft stuff!
@clorissa123 (4930)
• United States
4 Aug 09
Gosh, that is a pretty tough question to ask. Usually mother - in - law doesn't hangout that much with daughter - in - law. They might see each once in while, but the husband also tag along, to make sure everything was already. My suggestion, do all other regular girls do, shop a little, cook a little, then talk a little. A day might easily killed.
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
4 Aug 09
My mother is law is very nice, she likes to come visit me when she is free and like to bring me out hehe :-)
@Citychic (4078)
• United States
4 Aug 09
What can I do with my mother in law? Hello friend, I would probably just try to find out what kind of movies she liked then take her to see one of them. Although it might not be something that you will like, it would be a matter of giving of yourself to try to please her. Then afterwards I would take her to get something to eat. After she eat she will probably be ready to go back home. You got to remember that she may not care to do much shopping as being older than you she might just enjoy sitting down moreso than being up and moving around. If you have a body of water around you, like a beach you might want to drive her out there. It's always nice to ride out and look at the water. Good luck and happy mylot! Be sure to get her a nice little welcoming present of some sort when she first come into your home. It could be anything from a pair of earrings a necklace or a bracelet. She will like that alot I'm sure. Remeber that the cost of it isn't important it's the thought that counts the most
@mermaidivy (15417)
• United States
4 Aug 09
She does liek little ear rings! :-) I think it is a good idea, actually I Was thinking about going to the Canal and have a bike ride with her but I don't know how the weather is going to be like... We'll see, thank you for your sharing! :-)
• China
24 Nov 09
hi,mermaidivy! you are so lucky having a nice mother-in-law! I believe having lunch,shopping are very good.buy her some suitable clothes ,I think she will be happy. have a nice day!