People just assume things the way the see it !

@voldrox (7205)
India
August 4, 2009 3:32pm CST
Don't you get irritated when sometimes people just assume things the way they see when they don't really don't really know what the matter actually is, it has happened with me, i don't talk much and sometimes people get the wrong impression that i have an attitude problem, they just judge me and they never have talked to me to actually know me... and they sometimes talk behind my back about how weird i am and all.... it isn't a right thing to comment on things that they just have an outlook of when they don't know what the insight is! have you ever come across such situations when people tend to judge others before they judge themselves ?
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@glords (2615)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I find it hard to understand why some people can not sympathize with others. They see the world from one perspective and don't care to even think about the circumstances other people have to deal with. I know a person who grew up very wealthy. He never had to work hard for anything. His parents paid for everything all the way through his college education. Then the pulled strings to get their kids good jobs. Now they think that every person who is poor is lazy. They can't even comprehend how hard it would have been if their parents didn't have money. They feel entitled to everything they own... there is no gratitude for what they have, or sympathy for the less fortunate. I can't comprehend this attitude. It is so foreign to me and yet many people only view the world from their perspective, without considering any other vantage point.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
that is so true glords, people who don't have to do much because their parents have already established something for them... they haven't earned it themselves... they don't at all have the right to think the poor are the lazy ones, they themselves are the actual lazy ones and how sad that there are people like this in this world.... i think the world would be a much better place without such people!
@glords (2615)
• United States
5 Aug 09
I'd rather eliminate the misconceptions rather then eliminating the people... don't you think that would be better?
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
hehe ... yes glords you are right, i am really being mean by saying this about them in the above post... yeah rather the misconceptions are needed to be removed but they have to learn how to interact with people.
• Indonesia
5 Aug 09
yeah, for me too, just because my face is scary, my hair soo messy, and I like to wear strange clothing, people think I'm a no good person. . well I'm quiet too and the way I respond maybe too over-reacting, but that's who I am. . sadly, many people compare me to my brother just because I'm scary-old looking. . . it's sad. .
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
hey you have a scary face and messy hair but that doesn't mean you are weird, there are people in this world who dress neat look beautiful and talk smoothly but are mean and selfish, there are many such people!
• Indonesia
6 Aug 09
but, they stamp me like that because of my looks, wew. . well, although my friends don't stamp me, but mostly yes, so it's quite irritating sometimes, like a sweet fruit but the skin is ugly, wew. . . soo, I'm grateful that some of my friends accept me the way I am, sob. .
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
6 Aug 09
the ones who accepted you are you real friends... they are the ones who know better about you
• South Africa
5 Aug 09
Im very loud and can be quite !! It just depends on my mood,if I feel like talking Or not. Unfortunately, I dont get bothered when people talk about me behind my back,I just think thats how bored they are with their lifes, and Im the "celebrity" in their lifes.cool.lol ! anyways,What Iv learned is ,if your cool with "you",than thats ALL that MATTERS !! Nothing else and No-one else.Keep your head up, and SMILE at them, it will get them even more cranked up. Be nice to them,its a KILLER ,trust me, at the end,it won't even matter !! You just live YOUR life ,Boo .Ok !!
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• Sweden
5 Aug 09
that's pretty much i was trying to say but English is the way it is. and i am glad somebody said it for me.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
hehe beautifulll nice lite way to look at such matters ... ... yeah we should not bother them when all they can do is spread false rumours about us, be what you are and keep smiling ... thank you beautifulll
@EliteUser (3971)
• Australia
26 Sep 09
Hey, Yea this happens to many people. Most people just assume that a person is nice and loving by just looking at the outer appearance, they have no idea if that person is a bad person or really evil inside. Make sure you have a good day, God bless and Happy Lotting!!
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
26 Sep 09
yes eliteuser, it happens and also happens the other way round, i mean people assume some people are mean and rude and in fact it is the other way round...hehe.. has happened with me, coz i think i look really scary thanks for replying
@MoonGypsy (4613)
• United States
6 Aug 09
that does not get me as irritated until they force you the opinion in your face. in other words, if you were just keeping to yourself, and they felt like you just owed it to them to socialize. it would be another story if you were in their face, trying to interact with them. but if you are just minding your own business, i would say that it is just them trying to force you out of your proverbial shell. this would just make me not like them more.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
26 Sep 09
well forcing someone out of the 'shell' is something not everyone can like to do, i too wouldn't want them to do something like that, i will not be the same towards them again, we need time and we open ourselves, all they need is patience, sorry for replying so lately friend, i missed out on your response...
• United States
5 Aug 09
I hate when people assume things! Most the time its my bf that assume the most dumbest things out of know where. Just today this kid at my school stuck his leg out to try and trip me and repeated what my counselor told me, because he acts that way thats just him. I didn't even look at him or say anything but since my bf was there he assumes that now I'm going to cheat on him when the school year starts and he's the one that has cheated on me before. I've never done anything or talk to guys but he still assumes that I will which drives me crazy and makes me sooo mad. People should seriously not assume things! Ask eachother questions and talk, thats what people should do!
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
yes ADBI I agree with you, people should not just assume when they really don't know, they should have a taste of the real thing rather than just smell it from far!
• India
5 Aug 09
Oh! it is highly irritating when people start assuming things before you give them a chance to know the real side of it. Some people not only assume they just make it a final decision and also show their reactions. I have had many instances in my life where people behaved like that. I do not try to rectify it rather keep mum and wait for the time when they will know the truth. There are many people i know who can never judge themselves but will come all the way to make a judgement about you which is always wrong.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
yes there are many people like that who don't see the fault in themselves and come to speak of others first, i have had come across such people too.... sometimes it is best to ignore such people you know.
• Sweden
5 Aug 09
I have to agree with the fact that this is how the life is. i think that all people feel irritated when somebody judges them without facts. But the thing is they are never going to the truth and all truth about me or you anyway. this is just how they see it- you cant possibly know all the facts why they see it the way they do. i cant say that i am any better but i try to take them as they are. then i wont get irritated. its their problem if they assume a lot and actually don't know anything.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
some people are understanding and they give time to understand us and they are the people i admire, and as for others, they like to conclude things fast and i don't like it when do they do that... i never tend to think how people are just from the clothes they wear or their body language, talking and interacting is the best way to get the know the real person they are inside.
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
that's how they are. that's how society, we can be angry and be frustrated about. i don't talk too much either but don't be bothered by others getting the wrong impression about you. just be yourself, it's your life and not theirs. and talking behind back is nothing compare of what your really know about yourself, right? me, i have experience that...but got to know it just once....hard..but true..
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
yeah letranknight... you are right, whatever happens be yourself, it's what you are and how God has made you, they don't know anything about us and they don't need to make false comments about us, maybe they will never know you because they won't approach you... ignore such people and care for the ones who care for you... it's so sad the whole society is that way!
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
yes, that also called wrong Judgement and a lot of people are like that... some people just basing one personality on the way the other person's talk, dress or act.. for the fact that they dont know exactly whats behind those action that make the person act like that.. those people who might have a bad experience in the past, abuse or etc.. outside, they act as strong coz thats their way of escape for atleast in their life they become the strongest person as they can be.. but no one knows that ones that person is alone or inside their home, his just nothing but a scared person who can not even speak up for a reason... Though we can see those happy faces from person but we never know that they are crying deep within.. so judging isnt a good thing.. coz no one knows certain person but only themselves not even their family.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
well said homeshoppers... before thinking and "guessing" about other lives they should walk in their shoes to know what they are going through!
• United States
5 Aug 09
I find getting into a job with direct one-on-one contact, like waiting tables, is a great way to sharpen your people skills and get paid for it. If you are a little aloof, your tips will suffer, and show you to get out of your shell more. If you start making great conversation on top of serving your customers', your tips will show you. It's hard when people are so instantly defensive, and it is something inherent in them. Rather than seeing you as shy, they immediately grasp the worst scenario - that you are weird. It's lame, and those people are so shallow, and you should not worry about them.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
what you said is so true ladybugmagic...some people tend to think that we are weird where they need to know the matter is really something else, ignoring such people is the right decision
@jugsjugs (13045)
4 Aug 09
This is a fact of life there are alot of people who judge others who should only look in the mirror to see what they are first.I find people who judge others very sad people whos life can only be a sad one.I tend to not socialize with people like that or i tend to break away from their small group who are the same kind of people as them.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
i completely agree with you jugjugs there are many people out there who are like that who don't see their own fault and tend to point out other's... even i don't like such people.
@erikmama (12934)
• United States
4 Aug 09
Yes, my ex was like that. He can always point out everyone else's mistakes and never sees the things he does. I try not to judge a person. I am the same way as you, I have days where I like to be alone and I do not talk that much until I get to know you!
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
thank you erikmama...i am glad to hear you all people give your honest opinions.... some people have to understand that not all people are the same kind.
@x_Jo_x (1042)
4 Aug 09
Yes!! I hate this so much! I am really quiet sometimes with new people, and with some people (particularly loud people i find) Just dont bother to even try to make conversation! Like they think youre not worth it! The only reason im quiet in the first place is because im shy, when i get to know people more i get louder and more confident! But on the whole i think lots of people judge people before they get to know them. Or look at a situation and just comment or react before actually taking the time to thing or find out more. We are all guilty of this sometimes i think, some more than others. Myself, i try to stop and think about situations and make the best desicion i possibly can - not always possible though if you have to make a quick desicion. Or if its about a subject that you have very strong views about, you just tend to react i think. Interesting topic! Have a nice day
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
thank you jo for your honest opinion, we both are of the same kind, i too take time to open up to new people and become more outgoing when i get to know them better... have a nice day you too!
@kykidd (6820)
• United States
4 Aug 09
People used to think I was real quiet, at a job where I used to work. Well, I wasn't really that quiet, I was just working. It is not possible to study numbers and get a lot of underwriting done when you are talking, anyone should be able to understand that. Then one day, I had to work outside of the office and do on the spot underwriting. The manager at the store told me that he was amazed at how well I handled the customers because he thought I was so shy.....and that's how I ended up in sales. LOL But, you're right, people just assume that "Perception is Reality" without stopping to question things.
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@voldrox (7205)
• India
5 Aug 09
hehe.... you are good...thanks for sharing your views... yeah people smell to conclude without actually tasting it.