Can love become friendship?

Singapore
August 5, 2009 12:23am CST
Usually it is easy for friendship to become love, what about the other way around? Can ex-girlfriend or boyfriend become your close friend? Is there any potential problems behind? Any ideas?
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5 responses
• United States
5 Aug 09
I can say yes. I am really close friends with my ex husband. Not because of our kids but because we want to be. The potential problems behind it would probably if you started dating other people. How would your ex react? Would you care? I've herd the expresion "let's be freinds" but it doesn't apply to everyone. It also depends on how the break-up goes too. :) Happy MyLotting!!
• Singapore
7 Aug 09
Congrats rielkat25. It is very nice to hear that you and your ex-husband want to be friends together. Sometimes people just want to let go everything broken and not want to see it again, but you two are different. I hope you will be successful.
@oindy54 (3446)
• India
5 Aug 09
I do not think an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend can become a close friend of someone.Once the relationship is over,the bridge between them widens and no matter how much you try to deny,that can never consolidate into a lasting friendship.There is always the awareness at the back of the mind that this was the person I was close to in the sense of being attracted to him/her.Usually some bitterness exists even long after a break-up and I personally do not therefore think that two such human beings can be fast friends.Of course,an acquaintance can always be maintained with that person.All said and done,exceptions happen!
• Singapore
7 Aug 09
I agree with oindy54 in some extent. When the relationship is over, it like a broken glass.It really takes time and efforts to heal it and makes it become a friend glass. Sometimes if we lose patience, it can break again ;and this time the broken pieces are even smaller.
• Philippines
5 Aug 09
It might be possible but very rare. Not all ex-girlfriend or boyfriend becomes close friends otherwise they'll be reunited in their relationship once again. I think it needs a deep understanding for ex's that they are not meant for each other and accepts each other friendship but I think It won't be that close. Say for example my boyfriend had her ex-girlfriend his friend. His ex-girlfriend sometimes send messages or call on the phone to say her regards or talk to him how he is. I get jealous but I understand. He's worried if ever I got angry of jealousy when I witnessed. It just doesn't matter, he is free to love who he really loves.
• Singapore
7 Aug 09
Yes, Christine. I also in the same situation, and the risk that they reunited again is quite high. In the end, the 3 persons seem to be very difficult to behave to each other. There are some compromise in terms of jealousy, sympathy and love.
@Porcospino (16434)
• Denmark
5 Aug 09
One of my ex-boyfriends and I tried to remain friends after our relationship ended. In the beginning everything was fine, but after a while he kept talking about us and the relationship we had. He was still in love with me, he wanted us to become a couple again, and he often tried to persuade to me to try again. I didn't want to us to become a couple again, and after a while we stopped spending time together, because it got too complicated. I think it is often hard to become close friends with an ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend, but I know that it is possible in some cases. I have a friend who is still friends wit his ex. My friend has a new girlfriend, but when he is having a party he often invites his ex and her new boyfriend, and they all seem to get along fine.
@busky5 (3166)
• Thailand
5 Aug 09
I think it is better if the loving become to friendship.I believe the loving is expected together but the friendship will not alot of expecting alike loving.