Having a girlfriend will increase your financial burden or not?

China
August 5, 2009 6:01am CST
I am a college student.Many of my friends who fall in love with their lover find that their living costs increase rapidly after they fall in love compared with the days when they are single.Therefore they have to be more provident or borrowing money from classmates.I am also hard up for money sometimes. So do you feel that with a girlfriend it will cost you more and make you short of money or not?
4 responses
@jlamela (4909)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
It depends on how you carry everything. If you tolerate and spoil your girlfriend on different things, it will create financial trouble, but if you let her feel that your relationship will run smoothly even if you won't spend time in a cafe or bar houses, then it would create great impact in her mind. Well, actually that's what I had observed with college students, very impulsive in financial matters, most lovers really obliged to buy their gf with many things as if it is the basis of their sincerity. But honestly, I think it is the common trend among young lovers, later on, if you finished school and got a job, you will know that relationship is not very expensive, mature individuals never carry the burden of financial obligations for their girlfriends. Just be honest with yourself, if you have no enough money to pamper a girl, never go beyond your limit, find somebody who can understand you, who never look on what things to receive from you but somebody who has a genuine desire to have a good lasting relationship. Anyway, you have plenty of time ahead of you, just concentrate on your studies and discard things that can create troubles with your life's goal.
• China
6 Aug 09
Thank you,jlamela.You are so kind and your advice really give me help.As a student I will do my best to finish my study and I know that a genuine relationship is what I am looking for.
6 Aug 09
Living costs can increase and the amount it increases depends on the girl and her 'needs'. Since me and my boyfriend are both students we tend to agree to buy very small presents for each other on birthdays etc, but we still probably spend more than if we were single because we like going out places to just be by ourselves sometimes and away from our housemates. Although saying that if I was single I would spend less time doing free things like watching films in bed and more time going out partying, which is much more costly. The other reason your living costs may seem to increase is if you live together and agree to share shopping costs. This way your costs appear to be more, but you are sharing the cost of things you may usually have to buy for yourself alone. Therefore it should work out equal unlss one of you wants more than the other!!
• China
6 Aug 09
Hello!gragonspirit88.Yeah,my girlfriend and I are trying to control the costs and we have agreed that we do not buy expensive clothes.We want to be thrifty as we are both college students and our money mainly come from our parents.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
6 Aug 09
probably yes... uhmmm... i guess it would double the expense if your partner habitually spends money. but this kind of matter can be resolved through the "give and take" process... :)
@syankee525 (6295)
• United States
5 Aug 09
i guess some can, to be able to tell her that you dont have much money to do things or buy her stuff all the time, is the thing some guys dont or wont tell girls this because they are worry about trying to impress them but for me i would be straight i just dont have the money