better be a listener or speaker?

I like to be a better listener, but unfortunately I am not. I am born to speak and so speak I do. I talk a lot. Everyone I know will whole heartedly agree that I will start talking at a slightest provocation! It shows here in myLot too, when I see a discussion that I like, I'll go on typing none stop. My husband is a better listener. He listens to me patiently. Somehow, when he starts to talk, my mind starts to wonder else where. I really need to brush up on my listening skills.

i also prefer to act as a listener..and i can bet i am a good listener..but this things always happen to me; nobody wants to listen me!! haha..

Hi there, It depend. Some time you are to play the role of the listener and sometime the talker. But it is better to be listener than a babbler. If I am to talk or give a lecture on certain topic of interest I can go on talking but if that is not within my domain I go the back seat.

It is my Firm Believe that you need not change who you are. If you prefer to be a listener, then listen. If you can't find topics, ask questions such as. That is interesting tell me more. Could you explain that differently? And then say, So let me get this straight, you're saying...then paraphrase what they said. And if their is any thought in their mind that you are not understanding what they are meaning, they will tell you more. By simply asking questions to those that love to speak, you can learn more and more and more. Listening is skill that is not very well practiced now a days. I do like to hear about when their are good listeners in the world. Way to be Susan, I appreciate you.

I always like to be a listener. It is usually the listener who get to learn many things for many people, than a speaker who talks to everyone about the same thing or topic. So, better prefer to be a listener than being a speaker and try to learn much more thing in life.

You don't need to change but you need to learn the balance between the two. In some situations you need to be a speaker. It's a very important skill for life, especially when it comes to important things. Other times it's good to be a listener, for instance if you have a friend in need of help and so on. You just have to learn the balance between the two. It takes practice but I'm sure you can do it :)

u be the way in which u want to be and like to be.. i m in the same position as u do now.. i never speak out in public...i always hide my level...i like to listen from others...i will grasp all the points of the speaker..even i wont raise any doubts..i will listen sharply to others.. i always remember to the saying "speak little and hear more" our ears should be used more ....the toungue shoukd come out, only when it is needed.. so think twice, act wise of ur choice.. happy to respond.. happy mylotting.........

I am always a good listener. If you listen to somebody carefully then only people like to open up and talk to u. For people make listen to u, u first become a good listener and then only u create a good relationship.

listener. to be a speaker i gotta think of what to say. but it does get tiring when people talk rubbish in your ears all the time too..